When your heart is genuinely shattered, raw, broken, when a deep and ancient sense of shame is suddenly alive in your belly, chest and throat, when you feel lost and lonely and far from home, when you’ve lost something that’s precious to you, when you’re hurting badly and in need of love and validation, and you talk to a spiritual person, a spiritual student, a teacher, a healer, a guru, an ‘expert’ of any kind, and they tell you that you’re playing the victim, that you’re lost in your ego, that you should be invulnerable to the slings and arrows of the world by now, that your vibration is way too low, that you should immediately ‘get off it’ or ‘let go’ or ‘release’ your pain, that you “attracted” all of this through faulty living, that you’re being weak and unevolved and ignorant, that your suffering is illusory and unreal, that pure awareness never suffers so you must be stuck in the separate self, then please, friends, use these very special, enlightened, magical spiritual healing words of profound self-love and protection, and walk the hell away:
Sometimes listening is all that is really required …. and ‘listening’ is one of the most difficult tasks.
So I’ll add to this ….
Choose five friends, or anyone you have admiration for.
Write on a piece of paper ten qualities about them that you like, anything that has no-thing to do with money.
Understand this … you would not recognize these things in them if they were not also residing in YOU.