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Expert Advice

Published August 2, 2020 by tindertender

When your heart is genuinely shattered, raw, broken, when a deep and ancient sense of shame is suddenly alive in your belly, chest and throat, when you feel lost and lonely and far from home, when you’ve lost something that’s precious to you, when you’re hurting badly and in need of love and validation, and you talk to a spiritual person, a spiritual student, a teacher, a healer, a guru, an ‘expert’ of any kind, and they tell you that you’re playing the victim, that you’re lost in your ego, that you should be invulnerable to the slings and arrows of the world by now, that your vibration is way too low, that you should immediately ‘get off it’ or ‘let go’ or ‘release’ your pain, that you “attracted” all of this through faulty living, that you’re being weak and unevolved and ignorant, that your suffering is illusory and unreal, that pure awareness never suffers so you must be stuck in the separate self, then please, friends, use these very special, enlightened, magical spiritual healing words of profound self-love and protection, and walk the hell away:

✨✨”FUCK OFF”✨✨

Jeff Foster

Sometimes listening is all that is really required …. and ‘listening’ is one of the most difficult tasks.

So I’ll add to this ….

Choose five friends, or anyone you have admiration for.

Write on a piece of paper ten qualities about them that you like, anything that has no-thing to do with money.

Read it.

Understand this … you would not recognize these things in them if they were not also residing in YOU.

Daily Inspiration 8-2-2020

Published August 2, 2020 by tindertender

“Sometimes questions are more important than answers.” ~ Nancy Willard

Paying attention to the questions you ask yourself can be a spiritual practice in and of itself. For instance, questions such as “Why is this happening to me?” or “Why do I always do this?” often have self-judgement built right in them, and as a result they make us feel bad rather than help us find the answer to any challenge we are experiencing.

Simply changing the focus of our questions can open up whole new avenues of compassion for ourselves and provide a way forward through our darkest moments. Be aware of your intention, and let your questions flow in a way that is curious, loving, and healing.


Try on these questions when faced with challenges:

What will best support me in this situation?

What do I really want?

How would I act if I were not afraid?

~ Warrior Goddess Wisdom, Daily inspiration for women, by Heatherash Amara

Co-creation and Truest Partnership

Published August 2, 2020 by tindertender

If anyone comes to your mind and tells you they are god, or that you must sacrifice you life or soul to him, know this … he is a LIAR.

The Creator is in you, and You in He/She.

No one is above you …. but there are many who are below you.

They need your soul, for this is how they steal the light of creation. YOU are creation itself … don’t let anyone fool you.

They have stolen the innocent life and soul of billions of children over the last 40+ years. This is their false light … the light is true, but it does not belong to those who try and bind you. It has been stolen … from OUR children.

Claim your Sovereignty.

You are THEE partner of Creator, of the true MotherFatherGod.

Each and every one of you.

Do not cede.

Do not give in.

Do not give up.

Your eternal life depends on it, and you have more than enough to stand against these ones.

Trust yourself.

Trust your partner, where the truest form of light resides … in you.

Creator would never ask you to give back that gift which has been given to you … never.

Fight for it.

It is yours.


Published August 2, 2020 by tindertender

This bloody road remains a mystery
This sudden darkness fills the air
What are we waiting for?
Won’t anybody help us?
What are we waiting for?

We can’t afford to be innocent
Stand up and face the enemy
It’s a do or die situation
We will be invincible

This shattered dream you cannot justify
We’re gonna scream until we’re satisfied
What are we running for?
We’ve got the right to be angry
What are we running for?
When there’s no where we can run to anymore

We can’t afford to be innocent
Stand up and face the enemy
It’s a do or die situation
We will be invincible
And with the power of conviction
There is no sacrifice
It’s a do or die situation
We will be invincible

Won’t anybody help us?
What are we running for?
When there’s no where, no where we can run to anymore

We can’t afford to be innocent
Stand up and face the enemy
It’s a do or die situation
We will be invincible

And with the power of conviction
There is no sacrifice
It’s a do or die situation
We will be invincibleYeah, yeah
Yeah, yeah

We can’t afford to be innocent (yeah)
Stand up and face the enemy (yeah)
It’s a do or die situation
We will be invincible

We can’t afford to be innocent
Stand up and face the enemy
It’s a do or die situation
We will be invincible

Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Holly Knight / Simon Climie
Invincible (Theme From “The Legend of Billie Jean”) lyrics © BMG Rights Management, Music & Media Int’l, Inc

You Better Run

Published August 2, 2020 by tindertender

To my early morning visitor, and ALL those with him …..

WARNING! You best be mighty careful where you decide to tread.

Whatcha tryin’ to do to my heart
Whatcha tryin’ to do to my heart
You go around, tellin’ lies, and now you wanna compromise
Whatcha tryin’ to do to my heart
You better run, you better hide, you better leave from my side, yeah

Whatcha tryin’ to do to my soul
Whatcha tryin’ to do to my soul
Well everything I had is yours, and now I’m closin’ all the doors
Whatcha tryin’ to do to my soul
You better run, you better hide, you better leave from my side, yeah

I love you, oh I love you so, can’t you see, don’t you know
I can’t stand your alibis, you tell me lies, drive me wild, yeah

I say what are you tryin’ to do to my head
Say whatcha tryin’ to do to my head
Well now I’m gonna draw the line
‘Cause you ain’t gonna take my mind
What are you tryin’ to do to my head

You better run, you better hide, you better leave from my side
You better run, you better hide, you better leave from my side
I could yell, yeah
I said go away and leave me alone
I can’t stand you no more

Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Edward Brigati / Felix Cavaliere
You Better Run lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

Wee Hours Sleepy ‘Write’ Session

Published August 1, 2020 by tindertender

My favorite four letter words are Love and Care.

Salt water taffy. Not good for the teeth or body. It’s artificial goodness similar to our addiction to certain relationships. We may love them, yet it does not change the fact that they be toxic for us. Sometimes, in epic proportions.

No One? Or ALL? Perhaps they are one and the same, opposing ends of the same polar scale, different expressions.

Our men are beautiful … our warriors, and our lovers. May peace and harmony and a sense of balance arrive for the masculine and feminine … in each person, and between physical gender ‘forms’.

If there is guilt in the mind and heart, it is the Souls request to behave in a different manner.

Watch the Cat

Your thoughts are Sacred, honor your mind.

Stubborn WILL sometimes gets in the way of humility. Obstinacy shuts doors and ends relationships … which is sometimes necessary, just as careful determination is.

Round and round we go, where we’ll wind up, nobody knows … because we never wind up anywhere, due to the constant cycle of upward momentum, experienced by all.

Be mindful of how you approach people in word or deed … the reciprocation will be according to effort given.

Life is a flow experience, constantly shifting and morphing into something, someone, new. When traits are seen in others, please know, these trait also reside in you … you would not recognize them otherwise. Once this is understood, it’s easier to hold compassion for those we encounter.

Observation is key. Not only of others, but of self, whether it is deemed a positive or a negative.

Everything that is wrong with this world is not just out there. When we accept responsibility for our output, either before, or after a brief tantrum, we can understand our progress in ‘process’.

Sometimes I feel like that crazy cat who runs up a tree chasing birds. Gotta talk myself down, get out of the tree and stand on the ground.


Published August 1, 2020 by tindertender

Embracing who we are as individuals is a difficult task.

Through life many of us were neglected, and when we did receive attention, it may have been negative.

Growing up we may have developed the idea that somehow we were not worthy of love, or respect. Perhaps we entered the adult world and picked up where others left off and became our own worst enemy, abusing self, and allowing others to do the same.

Once we begin to cultivate self-love, and self-respect, denying others the right to harm us in words or deeds, we can never go back, no matter how minor the offense.

Others may try to tell you your “words” are not acceptable, that the way you express your thought is not sufficient, or lacking in some way.

It never fails … they will always be there, waiting to try and mold you into their preferred version of you.

Ppfffftt ….

Once we get to a certain point, it cannot be tolerated, not even in the slightest.

Embrace your authenticity. If it “rubs” people wrong, the issue is with them, not you ….

Of course, to be understood and have your ideas and perspectives accepted or at least pondered on by others, a certain tact must be used in the verbiage chosen.

I’m still working on tact.

And while I appreciate, and am grateful for suggestions, a cold, and seemingly superior ‘instruction’ as to my BE-ing will always be rejected.

No one usurps my will …. no one …. not any longer.

May you embrace your authentic self in a fierce manner which leaves no room for manipulation by others.

Respect …. when you have it for self, you tend to demand it from others.

And if they are not capable, if they insist on looking down their nose in a superior fashion … Let. Them. Go.

The Battle

Published July 31, 2020 by tindertender

The battle for Souls is very real …. some would rather not admit this reality. Myself, I have 17 years experience with the ones who mean to enslave us … so if anyone wants to tell me to be mindful … I say, you can bet I AM.

Sugar coating reality does not help anyone.

This battle is unlike any other, you can’t see it, but you can feel it.

The way to counter those who mean to siphon you, or manipulate you, or ensanare you in any way is to:

~ Stop abusing substances, first and foremost. This includes, most especially (among certain others), alcohol.

~ If you smoke, make an effort to quit. If you choose to use the cannabis plant, ingest it rather than smoke. Smoking pollutes not only your lungs, but your energy. It lowers your vibratory output and makes you more vulnerable to psychic attack.

~ Turn off the television ‘programming’ and cut-off the media … they’ll poison your thoughts and keep you in a low vibratory state.

~ Claim your thought patterns, know they are influenced. You’ve heard that story, an angel is on one shoulder while the devil is on the other? It is true …

~ Recognize what thoughts are yours, and which come into the mind arbitrarily. Good messages, accept. Negative messages, toss to the side. Give them NO attention or energetic output … you’ll strengthen them if you give your power to it.

~ Master your emotions, do not be mastered by them.

~ You must claim your Sovereignty.

~ Stand your ground and become the best version of yourself possible.

~ Revise your self-talk. So often we say negative things to our self … when we mess up, when things don’t go right we might think it happened (Or didn’t) because we do not deserve it …. WE DO.

~ As soon as you recognize a phrase of negative self-talk in your mind, immediately rephrase the thought or statement into one which is positive. Counter attack those pesky belittling comment creepers.

~ Cultivate the power of self-forgiveness, self-care, and self-love. When this becomes strong, you’ll have sufficient prowess to assist others.

~ Clean up your diet. No more processed foods. Eat fresh, (organic if possible) fruits and vegetables. If you must eat meat, purchase from a local, organic and humane farmer. Drink a lot of water, the physical form needs it to flush out low-vibe energies.

~ Exercise. Go walking, dance in the living room, rearrange the furniture … anything that makes your heart work.

~ Quiet your mind for at least a few moments of the day, grow the length of quiet time as you get comfortable with it.

Health, Happiness, Wholeness … and FREEDOM are your right.

As with all things worth having, it will require you to do the work.

Gifts do not just show up … we must show our sincerity in a situation and do the steps necessary to fulfill that vision.

In time, with conscious persistence , we reformat our reality …

By choice …

From ones own point of Power.

You’ve got this!

Believe it! For the WIN starts in the mind.

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