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Remember Woman

Published September 3, 2019 by tindertender

Remember, Woman, you were born

life giver, miracle creator, magic maker.

You were born with the heart of a thousand mothers,

open and fearless and sweet.

You were born with the fire of Queens and conquerors,

warrioress blood you bleed.

You were born with the wisdom of sages and shamans,

no wound can you not heal.

You were born the teller of your own tale,

before none should you kneel.

You were born with an immeasurable soul

reaching out past infinity.

You were born to desire with passion, abandon,

and to name your own destiny.

Remember, Woman, remember

you are more than you can see.

Remember, Woman, remember

you are loved endlessly.

Remember, Woman, your power, and grace,

the depth of your deep sea heart.

Never forget you are Woman, divine,

as you have been from the start.

~ by Reese Leyv

Space … Time … Love … Fundamentals of Life

Published August 22, 2019 by tindertender

We all have to eat shit in our lives. Literally, figuratively, whatever. Regurgitated shit spewing in faces everywhere we go. The thing is, this experience is also the forging fire. That which tries to break us, by feeding us on garbage, we turn into a transformative fire that makes us so much more than we could have ever imagined.

It often resonates through familial linage, through constant connections, various incarnations … and the ‘shit storm stuffers’, when they’ve realized you’ve developed a taste for shit and smile anyway, living your best life, will scratch their heads wondering how they lost their grip on your mind, your soul.

We have all suffered pain … from childhood, relationships, job status, income level and all that entails. Often, especially the younger ones, holler, swear, fight, hurt self, hurt others … actions that scream, “I am in pain! I am suffering! Take this from me!”, and they put that pain, anger, rage on others, perpetuating the pain cycle, growing it. Playing the game of the chaos maker, not even aware that they are doing the dirty deeds required for that one to remain in control … of them, of us, of everything.

This cycle must stop. We must become aware, reclaim our energies, our efforts and redirect them to the “polar opposite” of suffering. Take it ALL and create pain’s polar opposite rather than being puppet, slave to emotional bondage. This pain must be transmuted at the personal level, no one else is going to ease it for you.

This is sacred, transformative work, highly valued and desperately needed, should we wish to create a peaceful alternative to what we’ve had for many decades.

Polarity: it’s one of the seven Universal Laws.

http://www.yogebooks.com/english/atkinson/1908kybalion.pdf

Television programs, video games, desensitizing adults, and now youth. Desensitizing them to the chaos in this world, encouraging them to create more of the same. Making brains numb, and zombified when it comes to empathy for others.

Newscasters have become nothing more than “talk show hosts”.

Sitting in the dark, candles are flickering. I can see it, even with my eyes closed. And the gong sounds … water drips from the ceiling in this cave. The sounds of singing bowls echo … echo …

We all like to think we are a main player in this game. No one wants to realize they’ve been a pawn all along. Some may even tell you you’re a main player to get you to continue the “cycle”, the damages.

People want to believe they are worthy so badly they often do things their consciousness pings them on … yet they agree to it simply for a status boost, not realizing they, too, are being abused.

Claim your energies, retract them from those who have manipulated your power to their benefit. Bring it home, and create what your heart longs for … is it Peace? Is it Relief? Is it empathy, compassion, connection and care?

Are you able to see yourself in your fellow human being yet? Or are you still driven by the differences?

๐“๐ก๐ž ๐“๐ข๐ž๐ฌ ๐“๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐๐ข๐ง๐

Published August 19, 2019 by tindertender

Written by Huntsman@Flyover_Country

Leadership is one of the key concerns of those who wish to explore the totality of the masculine experience.

This is specifically for the man who wants to step up and be a respected leader of other men, as well as women and children.

This is NOT for the guy who wants to argue the utility of ethics.

If a discussion of ethical leadership threatens your worldview enough to attack that frame, this isn’t an emotional safe space to work out your dissonance.

Onward.

Because modern man’s views are inherently informed by pop culture, let’s broadly introduce this discussion around two models of “leadership”:

Maximus and Commodus, from the film Gladiator.

They are strongly archetypal, and well-acted by Russell Crowe and Joaquin Phoenix.

When we meet Maximus, he is preparing to lead the Roman legion into battle.

He is calm, sober.

He knows that death is an old friend who calls us in our turn.

As he rides the line doing his final inspections, the men salute him.

They will die for Rome, and for him.

Maximus calls his men to silence.

He and his cavalry unit are the teeth of the Roman tiger, and will take heavy casualties.

He reminds them that Elysium, their paradise, awaits those who fight bravely:

“๐–๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐๐จ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž ๐ž๐œ๐ก๐จ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง ๐ž๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.”

This is no mere call to arms.

It’s his ethos, and that of the warriors who follow at his side.

It is their tie that binds – the reminder that however different they are individually, they are brothers, covered in the same blood spilled in the same mud.

Persuasion – and thus the right to lead – begins with ethos. It is the essential character, or statement of purpose, to the group.

From this we derive “ethics”, or specific commonly-shared standards that tether individual action to the group’s ethos.

Upon the murder of the emperor by his son, Commodus, the honorable general Maximus is captured and sent for execution.

Even in that moment, Maximus’ servant Cicero is ready to pull his sword and kill the multiple captors, knowing he would die in the process.

Maximus escapes, but is taken into custody by the owner of a gladiatorial ludus.

Here again proves himself a man for whom other men will die, using his leadership to help the men survive the arena.

He leads, because his ethos demands that he do what he believes is right.

Commodus, the prince who murdered his father to gain the throne, is the antithesis of Maximus.

He is vain in the extreme, first seen arriving late to the battle, then later showing his “prowess” at choreographed swordfighting.

He has no ethos – only his own self-interest.

His father the emperor wished to return Rome to a republican system, led by the senate and held in trust with Maximus as regent.

Commodus, seeing his moment to become emperor vanish, kills his father and attempts to eliminate Maximus, who knew of the emperor’s plans.

With Maximus in exile (presumed dead by Commodus) and his father dead, Commodus establishes himself as the new emperor.

His purity of commitment is undeniable – he is actualized to his own radical self-interest.

But he builds his empire on a pile of bodies to do it.

In the end (because it’s mostly a fictional story and the good guy always wins), Commodus and Maximus die by each other’s blades.

Maximus is feted and carried out as a hero, Commodus dead on the sand.

The reforms are made, spurred by the example of noble Maximus.

And while a blockbuster like Gladiator must certainly follow major beats of the Hero’s Journey to ensure audience engagement, the film resonates deeply with men in particular because it is rooted in our cultural and ancestral memories of what it means to be a “good” man.

In this instance, “good” and “ethical” are broadly similar.

Maximus shows a willingness to put his life on the line, just as he asks the same of his men.

To stand against the royal might of an empire, avenge his family and mentor, and bring new hope to Rome.

Contra Maximus, Commodus is a caricature of pure self-interest.

Narcissistic and brutal, ambitious.

His father says “Commodus is not a MORAL man.” to justify the structural change in governance.

He is unethical, unfit to lead, because everything is a means to his own end.

This is the primary takeaway of the Gladiator example:

An unethical man is not a “leader” in the traditionally-masculine sense.

He can be “alpha”, and have primacy of position and status, but the rank and file are not followers – they are subjects.

The subject/follower dynamic is critical to distinguishing what a “leader” tends to mean to the average person.

A subject is obligated.

A follower volunteers.

The ethos must be clear, and the ethical expectations enforced, for a leader to maintain primacy.

Understand, an ethos and ethics can be polarizing to some (or many) people.

Hitler built power through ethos (however horrific) to attract a certain type of “true believer”, but also used terror and coercion as weapons to maintain the balance of the population as subjects.

The key is that the ethos and ethics are congruent to the leader and enough followers to achieve a certain threshold of power and influence.

Note: This diversion was needed to forestall the inevitable whataboutism from drive-by critics.

Returning to our frame of ethics being a concept that carries a traditionally-beneficent context…

We may assume that someone who pursues primacy of a group out of pure self-interest MUST hurt people to do so. However, their pain does not factor into his calculus.

The average person would say that the wholly self-interested man is acting “unethically” when he takes primacy by means other than acclamation of the crowd.

The truth is that most people will not follow a man who openly admits to embracing harm as a valid means to primacy.

As social creatures, humans have a combination of inborn and cultural factors that reinforce in us a general desire to avoid actively harming others.

Marriage, family, religion, education – the foundations of ethos/ethics – are mitigating influences on our primal biology.

We co-evolved notions of ethics alongside social structures as a species-enhancement (or survival) mechanism.

Thus, a man who wishes to be fit to lead willing followers has to embrace and enforce an ethical code based on a palatable/desirable ethos.

Even in situations where a body politic resorts to force to achieve its ends, as the Romans did in the Germanic forests where we meet Maximus, it is the individual ethos and ethical code embodied by Maximus that compels his men to follow and fight so fiercely.

Even in situations where a body politic resorts to force to achieve its ends, as the Romans did in the Germanic forests where we meet Maximus, it is the individual ethos and ethical code embodied by Maximus that compels his men to follow and fight so fiercely.

If a leader cannot abide by an ethical code, the only tools remaining to maintain control are:

– Transactional means

– Manipulation

– Force

Each is also self-limiting because it cuts against the natural behaviors of most civilized people.

To avoid loss of primacy, it is both practical and “good” for a man to develop within himself the behaviors and mindset of a beneficent monarch.

Leading is a lonely, difficult thing.

Challengers, externalities, and the inertia of life start fires constantly.

Still, decisions must be made. Actions taken. New decisions are made and actions taken based on observation and orientation from previous experience.

And an effective organization or team MUST have a single point of leadership at some level to get anything done.

Without a leader, the Bystander Effect kicks in.

Everyone assumes someone else will do the work.

This holds increasingly-true as the emotional intensity of the task is elevated.

Someone must still ride to the front of the column and lead the charge.

The cult of leadership theory that has arisen in our industrial and post-industrial age has made major science out of basic ethics, by and large.

I’ve even been published in a book about applications of principles of military leadership.

The body of knowledge is extensive.

And yet, we watch Maximus utter a few simple words…

“๐–๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐๐จ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž ๐ž๐œ๐ก๐จ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง ๐ž๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.”

…and we connect with the ethos and NECESSITY of such a man.

We would jump into the screen and charge headlong into clashing steel for him.

No fancy words. No dogma. No regard for the intellectual rightness or wrongness of the action.

It is an ethos and applied ethics that are compatible to the shared culture of leader and led, which drives cohesion and action.

This is why I disclaim, reject, and advocate against any system that attempts to diminish or eliminate the notion of ethics.

It is a rejection of both common sense and cultural behaviors that have provided practical utility since the dawn of civilization.

A man can only go so far alone before he runs out of options or capacity.

He can stare at that wall and justify to himself why it is the right choice to stay there.

Or, he can do what great men have always done, and enlist the help of others to move forward.

We require those ties that bind – ethics – to achieve great things together, even to survive as a social species.

Radical self-interest can work for a man so long as he can rationalize to himself the emotional, mental, and physical consequences of being limited and alone.

Even the concept of “enlightened self interest” is a weak attempt to have it both ways.

There will always be times when a man must choose to submit himself to loss or pain for the good of his followers, or sacrifice them to his own needs and wants.

And the leader is free to do that, so long as he also accepts the consequences of not reconciling those competing interests via ethics.

He will:

Fail

Be deposed

Succeed by leveraging mercenary behaviors

None of these achieve long-term stability and success in one’s life.

To become a true leader of men, a man must focus on embracing accountability to himself, and those he wishes to lead.

He must maintain balance of his own self-interest and that of others.

He must be willing to put himself to the fire first, and eat last.

Above all, the ethical leader – the man who would be Maximus – must know who he is inside.

He must be honest with himself if he is up to the lonely, painful life of a leader.

He must have the strength to carry those who can’t carry themselves, and leave hope in his wake.

For an excellent long-form discussion on some of these points, click through to the YouTube link of a podcast I did with https://twitter.com/bethmartens. She’s a wonderful lady doing good work in helping both men and women find the leader within themselves.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/speeC0-TiCo
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YOUโ€™RE THE SEDIMENT OF YOUR LIFE THAT PRECIPITATES FROM YOUR COHERENT ACTIONS

Published August 19, 2019 by tindertender

In your darkest of times, there will always be a way out. You must look for the light and follow it to help you to the door of change and new realities. Remember that the soul is not physical and is energy. That which you send in energy and reaction dresses fields about you. Change your thoughts and your attitude and what you radiate will draw to you accordingly. The body is a vessel that can and will change. Bring it seaworthy first and set a course and use your inner compass to take you there.

Change is a state of energy and excitement of force fields on the molecular level and all is the density of magnetism you perceive as solid. Never forget you act in the sedimentation of your attitudes, focus, and desires. They are your power. You either use these with the intention to create the power of you or you live randomly in hopes of things flowing by chance. Just remember that the odds of chance are affected by what you lure into you with your magnetism.

All of your limits are created by your perception as well as your experiences. Change your concepts and allow the forces of nature, life, and your soul to impress the will of your oversoul and you will find the power to make magic. You live by your will and intention. It is all forces controlled or random. You make the difference by your knowledge and your actions and attitude.

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Have You Ever Been โ€˜Brokenโ€™?

Published August 18, 2019 by tindertender

To all those who have ever been broken:

Have you ever wondered why God allowed that to happen to you if heโ€™s such a loving God?

To that I present you another perspective:

Have you ever wondered why God trusted you with brokeness?

Sounds like those two words donโ€™t belong in the same sentence but let me finish.

First of all , God would never put on someone, something they could not handle.

And second, Satan canโ€™t do anything to anyone that God does not allow.

So if God has allowed any level of suffering/pain/brokenness in your life, and thereโ€™s not a single person who hasnโ€™t had suffering, could it be that part of what you were annointed to do is to mend another broken heart because you know what brokenness looks like?

Think about it- anyone whoโ€™s experienced brokenness knows what itโ€™s like to be broken and is sympathetic to others who are also broken. Anyone whoโ€™s experienced any level of brokenness now has a tender and more loving heart for others that are broken.

And if youโ€™ve ever experienced any level of brokenness and by the grace of God are still standing here today alive and well then you now know three things:

1. You know exactly what you did and how you survived.

2. You know exactly what the very fabric youโ€™re made of is worth.

3. You know God trusted you to be able to handle it.

Now because you are, or were once, broken and because of your newfound tender, loving and sympathetic heart you are able to notice someone else whoโ€™s broken and with 100% confidence be able to share the wisdom necessary to help mend their brokenness.

Could it be that the very thing the enemy had intended to break you with, that God allowed, was used in 7D holy chess by God to not only save you with but show you what youโ€™re made of and anoint you to save others as well?

In the end, always and forever longer, God Wins.

I understand this now. Believe me when I tell you I have been broken.

Lost my mom, my best friend within 3 months when I was 17, later lost my wife and my son in divorce, then proceeded to lose basically every tangible asset I had. I had nothing.

And then I found @IncarnatedFruit and through her I found myself. And then together we found God

In order to truly understand the power of the kind of love God designed you to have and be, you must first suffer.

Embrace your pain for God will use that pain as part of the prize!

Ps. Itโ€™s worth all the pain and suffering, by the way.

Truly worth it.

Iโ€™ll add another note:

If youโ€™re at rock bottom or falling and think your problems are insurmountable and it seems impossible to get out from underneath them – It only seems impossible because youโ€™re trying to figure out how you can change it.

Think about what I just said.

Do you think (you) really know whatโ€™s best for you?

My genuine and honest advice from my own personal experience is that when you stop trying to do it (your) way and start asking Him what you should do and NOT ask why youโ€™re doing it that life turns around.

But donโ€™t worry. If you fail to realize it he will allow you to be reminded again.

And again.

Hence the suffering

Just my opinion.

Message mostly by:

… with bits of me included in.

Rise Woman, Rise!

Published August 12, 2019 by tindertender

https://www.bbc.com/news/av/world-europe-47217017/mothers-fury-the-cost-of-challenging-putin?SThisFB

When I heard the woman say, โ€œWe can’t be afraid forever … they feed on our fear”, I nearly cried. Women the world over are rising, laying down their fear. Iโ€™m in love with my sisters on this earth, everywhere they are.

Change Comes From Within

Published August 5, 2019 by tindertender

Some people start out strong, but when the return for their effort doesnโ€™t match their expectations they fall back into no effort and blaming others for their lack, seemingly more comfortable in the roll of โ€˜victimโ€™ rather than creator … who needs to be physically and orally aggressive and abusive, rather than creating harmony.

During the transition from my โ€œold selfโ€ to my โ€œnew selfโ€ I realized one thing very clearly. If you are going to treat yourself poorly, donโ€™t be surprised when the whole world, seen and unseen, decide to do the same.

Be good to you. Youโ€™ll be glad you did.

Through this, the world changes.

… and no, it isn’t easy. In fact it’s the most difficult thing ever. But this is why you are here, should you now choose to embrace it.

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