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What Do You Feel?

Published December 2, 2021 by tindertender

There are many opinions around you. Some are helpful but others are distracting you from your truth. Although it can be helpful to hear the thoughts of others, when it comes down to it, you will have to come to your own decision. Do you know how unique you are? How your path is your path to be chosen, lived and created – only by you? Someone else cannot become the source of your decision-making power without negative repercussions for both of you in the long run.

You have become swept up in thinking things through. You have been thinking about which way to go with a matter of importance and you have got a bit stuck in the logic of the decision-making process. Sometimes we have to accept that any path is a path forward and if it is not the best path, we can change our approach later on if needed. If we are slightly off-base with a decision, life will often shift and move to guide us back on track. We don’t have to be perfect. In fact, there is rarely ever a perfect choice to be made – just some choices that feel more heart honoring than others. Sometimes we can only really know in hindsight if we made the best choice possible in that moment. At the time of decision-making, we only really have our internal wisdom to rely upon. And that is all we need.

There is no need to punish or traumatize yourself with possible choices. Just making a choice will set things in motion. The best way to catalyze the situation you are in and bring about healing change, stimulate your creative juices and find a more inspired, energized and enjoyable approach to your life, is to just make a choice based on what you feel right now. Not based on anyone else’s feelings. Just yours. So ask yourself – what do I feel right now? And go from there.

If you cannot relate to the need to make a choice between two or more clear alternatives, know this, you are at a crossroads in your journey and the choices you make at this time – even simply choosing to do things a little differently, without much drama associated with the decision – are powerful triggers for some great magic to enter your life.

Take a different approach to something. Be open to that which makes you uncomfortable but could be exciting and interesting. Even small adventures will yield big rewards right now. It matters less that you do the most wonderful thing ever (too much pressure!) and more that you simply take action from your heart. Open up to the creative magic of life and don’t worry about how it is all going to work out. The bigger creative flow of life is sorting out all the details and you are not immune to that plan. In fact you are a natural part of it! So just spend some time with your own feelings and know that all is going to work out perfectly.

Healing process ::
Close your eyes and relax, rest your open palms facing upwards on your legs. Imagine that you have a ball of light in each hand. If you find it hard to visualize or feel, you may prefer to draw this process in your journal instead.

Focus on one ball of light first. What color or colors does it feel like? What feelings, words, symbols or qualities does it have? How heavy or light is it? How substantial? What do you feel about it? Do you like it?

Turn your attention to the second ball of light. Repeat the investigation or exploration that you did for the first.

When you are ready, choose one. There is no wrong or right choice, just whatever captures your attention, energy or heart most at this moment. The other may be there waiting for you later on, if it needs be – or it might be easily released, if that most serves your life’s path and creative journey.

You may like to take that chosen ball of light and imagine sending it our into the universe with love. If you have drawn it, you might like to add words, feelings or colors.

When you have finished, simply say, “My choices flow easily from my heart and I tread my path with certainty and grace, always within the merciful protection of unconditional love. So be it.”

When you are ready, simply open your eyes and you have completed your healing process.

Artwork by Autumn Skye Morrison

Sacred Rebels oracle by Alana Fairchild

Faith in the Process

Published December 1, 2021 by tindertender

No matter how powerful we are, how much courage and strength we have, there are times when we can’t quite move ourselves along to the next phase of life or creative exploration. At such times we need some divine intervention – a little help in pulling our trolley along, so to speak. When we are at the edge of our own limits and have no more personal resources, we might be left with only one spiritual power, that of faith. Fortunately that is enough.

As unlikely as it may seem, the invisible help from the universe is often more powerful than the physical efforts of a thousand men. That is because the invisible help is not limited by physical laws. It can shift, bend and move in ways that defy limitation. It can affect, evoke and influence situations through invisible, but undeniably persuasive means.

You are in a situation where you cannot ‘set right’ the course of events all by yourself. This is not an indication that you have done something wrong, nor does this suggest that you are not strong enough. It is a sign that there is something bigger unfolding in your life and your willpower will be supplemented by the power of life itself. Sometimes a bigger plan needs to manifest for the benefit of humanity and the earth. You need to shift your perspective to realize that you are part of the greater unfoldment of life, that your individual life serves the greater plan and that you are not separate from its genius. This is what is happening now. You happen to be instrumental to the greater plan and as such, you need to accept your position and be moved, while also being empowered and protected as you make personal progress through your role in that grander scheme.

This is a time for humility and trust. You need complete faith in the processes and events that are happening. There is nothing to worry about, you will be moved most fully and easily, and with the most grace and assistance, through your faithful surrender. Ironically, it is through complete surrender, in total faith, that we become the most empowered. When we are no longer trying to impede the perfection of the greater plan, we can be aligned with and moved by the process. Having faith in the benevolence of life – rather than harboring the suspicion that life is seeking to catch us out, have a joke at our expense or carelessly toss us about as though we mean nothing – then we can relax a little. Having faith in the process gives you space to be curious about what is taking place and to relax enough to be open to what we are most in need of, even if we aren’t exactly sure what that is or how it can happen.

There is now an opportunity for you to be moved from the situation you are currently in, to the next chapter in your life story. You can’t do it on your own. It is too big a shift. It needs the grace of life to intervene on your behalf.

You will need faith though. You may feel as though the wheels of your trolley are coming off or that they are a bit rickety, but you must also understand that the voice of life is now coming straight to your heart with this message:

“I have resources you know not of. It is safe to trust in my ways and in my wisdom, for I love you and am guiding you into all that is rightfully yours. Know that what is rightfully yours is what your heart truly desires and you need not fear loss. Nothing that is meant to come to you will be denied and it is safe for you to let go and allow me to move you.”

Through faith, peace is restored and you are able to know this, and perhaps have some fun in the process.

Healing process ::
Say aloud, “I now ask that all disappointing experiences of the past that have led me to believe that life is not trustworthy or that faith is a silly or immature way to deal with life, be released from my mind, body and heart. I ask for help to accept that I can and will attract all that is needed into my life, at the perfect time and in the perfect way. I ask to be empowered to absolutely receive all that can assist me with gratitude and without shame or guilt. In doing so, I dedicate myself to be a clear, loving, open channel for the flow of life. I know the benefit in doing so is not limited to me, but will flow so that life can benefit others through me. I trust in this now, through unconditional love, so be it.”

You have completed your healing process. If needed, repeat the above prayer each day to help you boost your confidence that everything can and will sort itself out, whether you feel in control or not. In fact, it can do so more easily when you don’t feel in control.

Artwork by Autumn Skye Morrison

Sacred Rebels oracle by Alana Fairchild

Shock Of The New

Published November 15, 2021 by tindertender

What wild unconventional voice is calling to you? Can you hear it? It is so different and so unusual, it might be hard to decipher – like hearing an unfamiliar language for the first time. It might be hard to discern with great clarity now but there is an affinity between you and this strangely beautiful newness seeking to manifest.

There is a stirring at the deepest level within you. Something new will break through and the process of this birth may shock you. The shock will transform into great joy and a sense of tremendous liberation, but you must bear the strangeness first. That strangeness might be something that rattles your beliefs about yourself and your world, daring you to become more of yourself, more open the where life is leading you and more willing to be the unique sacred art being crafted by the hand of the universal creator.

Nature never shies away from strange beauty. She allows for endless diversity and her sacred works are often peculiar and stunning. You live within her field of creative grace, as a specially created work that also creates! Surrender any fear you may have of being seen as exotic, unusual, eccentric or bizarre. Make peace with strange beauty, let it happen through you in creative flow. Perhaps you need to allow your conventional ideas of beauty to become even more inspired and open. Perhaps you can allow your need for the world to behave according to your fixed ideas to fall away. You will receive so much more in its place.

There are rumblings and stirrings of the creative life force happening now – deep in the undercurrents of your being. If you are very attuned or sensitive, you may have consciously felt this already – with excitement, discomfort or both. If you have not yet sensed these inner stirrings, they are happening all the same. So be on the lookout for the big shift of new birth, the shock of the new, the unconventional, the strangely beautiful and the disturbing liberation of that which is foreign stepping into your life. This is life creating the stage upon which you will experience greater fulfillment.

Don’t be nervous if the rumble of change turns into a mighty roar that rocks boats, bursts forth of novel ideas and changes things in a way that is out of your control. This is life happening. Free fall into it. The old way is on its way out. You are being invited, dragged, nurtured and coerced into the new. You can handle it!

You are about to encounter something new and different in your life. This is helpful! Don’t reject it, no matter how small or insignificant, or how powerful and life-changing it may seem to be. Dispense with your reliance on the past and what have been your tools to navigate life. You have outgrown your old methods. You will have to fly by the seat of your pants, so to speak, as you experiment with new ways to be. Let life show you the way.

Mantra ::
I am supported through the shock of the new, I accept the beauty in all that is foreign or strange to me as I know it is bringing me new gifts, wisdom, life experiences and creative inspiration. Through unconditional love, so be it.

Artwork by Autumn Skye Morrison

Sacred Rebels oracle by Alana Fairchild

Defend To The End, The Worthwhile

Published November 13, 2021 by tindertender

Beneath the illusions, pretty as they may seem, you know what is real. Beneath the lies, sweet though they may sound, you know what is worthwhile. All that is genuinely and truly essential for the heart to throb with life is worthwhile. Anything that dulls or suffocates its vibrant aliveness, must be questioned, challenged, and more than likely, cast aside, for the heart is our key to living an authentic life. What is there once that is compromised? Without its foundation of truth, we are to be forever lost in confusion, doubt and despair!

You are a sacred warrior – a defender of the heart. You have cried genuine tears of your own grief, and also the grief of the world. You have raged at injustice and oppression in your own life, and in the world. You have felt the need to protect the presence of love, for whilst it is exceptionally powerful, it can too easily be smothered under lies and fear. The sacred warrior must not heed the dangerous voices that say, “Oh, stop being so sensitive! Stop making such a big deal out of things!” Love is the biggest deal there is. What else is worth being so sensitive about? The sacred warrior is vigilant that the presence of love is not chipped away by fear, criticism, doubt or untruths. Even if others find the unflinching honesty of your feelings difficult to handle, even if those feelings are expressed with gentleness and compassion, the sacred warrior honors the task of being more faithful to love, than to anything else. This includes the fear of loss. Actually, it includes the fear of anything at all.

Honor even the smallest steps on your path. They are no less important than the more noticeable or dramatic actions on the path. One single misstep can begin a landslide of great devastation. Being vigilant with what is meaningful and what is truthful, even in the smallest and seemingly most insignificant ways, strengthens the sacred warrior and prevents darkness from gaining a stronghold from the inside. That darkness will be intelligent and sneaky. It will tell you that it doesn’t matter, that this one time you can forget what you promised, that you are just one person and that you can’t make a difference anyway. That darkness will lure you into sleepy ambivalence and dull your light, if you allow it to. The sacred warrior within will fight with love and honor to be true to what has meaning, and never, ever allow it to be cast aside – even if it seems easier in the moment. The sacred warrior finds joy and humor in life, to prevent the seriousness of the task from stifling the heart that just wants to live and be free. That joy brings strength to the warrior and an expanded, relaxed awareness that can sense the presence of fear (whether is is masked as anger, hate or doubt) and immediately respond to it with fierce compassion. The sacred warrior will not allow fear to gain a stronghold within the heart.

Stay strong and stand your ground. This might be in a big emotional journey that feels like the fight of your life. It may be in a matter that does not seem to hold much importance. Perhaps, for example, you are contemplating an idea that you feel could be something, but those around you declare it is nothing much, too impractical, too little or too much. However, what is happening or soon will be happening, is worthwhile. So, hold tight! Ask for help through the healing process below, stay true to the sacred warrior of love that you are and defend to the end all that is worthwhile.

Healing process ::
Put your hand on your heart and say, “I call upon the sacred warriors of unconditional love. I ask for your support, protection, assistance and intervention on my behalf though unconditional love, that what is truly worthwhile for the light and life of the heart be protected and preserved, within me and in the world, for the greater good. Through my own free will, so be it.”

Repeat up to three times if you wish. This can be said once or twice daily during times when you feel that you are fighting to be heard, fighting to salvage your creative ideas from the critical voices of others, or fighting for your right to simply be yourself and live your truth in the world. You can also use it for any other purpose that feels worthwhile to your heart. These declarations have power. Use that power freely and with great joy.

Artwork by Autumn Skye Morrison

Sacred Rebels oracle, by Alana Fairchild

Free From Judgement, Free To Love

Published November 13, 2021 by tindertender

Imagine a world so infused with bliss, love and wonder that you naturally and always feel as safe as a nourished, cherished baby in the arms of the universal mother. Life mothers us, with kindness, and sometimes when we need it to grow, through challenge as well. Accepting this mothering – in its gentle and fierce faces – can be difficult at times. Some are even part of her plan to help mother others so that they too can surrender fear and live more freely.

You are learning about mothering and being mothered. You might not do this in a typical way. It might be through bearing children, but it could also be through adopting children, raising children or otherwise taking care of children and loving them as if they were your own.

You might also be learning how to mother on a rather different scale, working with groups, communities, causes or purposes that need your devotion, your energy, your belief in their value, and your willingness to be the wild tigress or the supportive shoulder to lean upon, in order to bring those worthwhile groups to life.

You may also be an aspect of the universal mother on a spiritual level. Some people that do this are male, some are female. Some have children and some do not. Some are healers and some work in seemingly more ordinary professions. They have a mothering aspect in common and they love and respect life. They believe in life, are moved by compassion and are genuinly encouraging and respectful of people. Rather than taking perverse delight when someone stumbles, they want to help. They are ordinary people with an extraordinary, natural tendency to nurture life around them.

You are amongst the universal mothers special clan of nurturing spirits that help to honor life on this planet. Open yourself to receive more nurturing. You can do this for yourself. You can also choose to open up and allow others to nurture you. It might make you feel a little vulnerable at first, especially if you are not used to doing this, but you don’t have to worry. You will get used to valuing yourself enough to know that needing love and affection from another is an opportunity, not only for you to receive, but for someone else to give, which involves them being received too. If you are tired and have been taking care of everyone else, then take some time to shift the pattern and allow life to support you too. The universal mother helps the helpers so as they can keep helping. It works rather well, you see, for those that give so much to also receive abundantly.

If you have been asking life for a solution to a specific difficulty you have been having, a solution is in gestation right now. The situation is already being sorted out and the resolution will come to fruition very soon. Hold tight and wait for the imminent birth of that resolution.

If you are interested in working with children, the inner child, with art therapy for emotional healing or any sort of uninhibited creative expression that helps dislodge social conditioning and open up to more spontaneous, feeling-based existence – then yes, go ahead and do it. The universal mother is supporting you and you cannot get a more powerful ally.

You may find that you are loving, or soon will love, in a different way. You may worry about this love, given that it defies what you have known or been taught about love. Perhaps you are becoming able to love another tremendously, even though you don’t have much of a personal relationship with them. You might question if this love is real. It is real, it is just happening at a different level to the love and attachment you experience when you are involved in a personal relationship with someone. It is not more or less, it is just a different facet of love. It may be that you are opening up to love the planet and her creatures, including the animals, the ocean-dwelling life, your own body, the trees and so on, more than before. You may feel passionately purposeful about giving your time and energy to causes that protect and nurture the earth and her creatures. You are affirmed in this love too. The universal mother is operating through you to nurture life. She will support you in your work, so that you can continue to come from love and not become drained, depleted or lost in despair or fear or futility. Instead, you will be energized and expanded by your dedicated service to life.

If you are feeling lonely and in need of greater nurturing from others, stop, relax, center and settle into your body to feel your connection to life itself. The air in your lungs is the same air that moves the trees. The water in your blood is the same water that fills the oceans and is moved by the phases of the moon. The flesh of your body is the same substance as the body of the earth itself. The heat in your digestive system is the same fire and heat as that from the sun. Feel this connection, then do something nice for another without agenda. Make a donation, even just a small one, smile, say a prayer, send out a good thought or make a wish for another. That’s it. You have connected to life again and in doing so, life can connect with you. And so it shall.

Healing process ::
Place your hand over your lower belly and say the following, “I now release from my body, mind and heart any negative mothering experiences that would prevent me from receiving the healing grace, love and support of the universal mother through the natural flow of life. May I be blessed and held in her loving embrace so that I may grow into all that I am. So be it.”

Breathe in and out. As you breathe in, imagine you are drawing in the healing love of the universal mother. As you breathe out, feel your body release negative energy. You don’t need to be conscious of exactly what is being released. You might sense the release as emotion or as a sludge leaving the body and then you might not sense anything at all. Whatever happens is your own process and is just right for you. Remember, if you cannot sense it consciously something is happening at a level below conscious awareness. You can still have confidence that the process is working for you in the best way.

Relax and when you feel ready, simply place your hands on your heart and send love for a moment. Then return to your day or evening.

Artwork by Autumn Skye Morrison

Sacred Rebels oracle, by Alana Fairchild

The Return

Published November 11, 2021 by tindertender

Why do you go away? So that you can come back. So, you can see the place you came from with new eyes and extra colors. And the people there you see differently, too. Coming back to where you started is not the same as never leaving. ~ Terry Pratchett

It’s no longer just about you, but about all who will benefit from your story. In your minds eye, imagine you are delivering a passionate graduation speech to a sea of eager students who are hanging on your every word. You stand at the podium, confidently sharing your story, reflecting upon your journey. You reminisce about lessons and blessings learned and earned along the way. Your words become seeds, planted in fertile soil in the minds and hearts of all those who are destined to be changed by your wisdom. At some point, you notice you are no longer telling a story about how you found the elixir but have embodied it. Between words, when you pause for breath, you continue to radiate a life-affirming message that alchemically alters all who are blessed to be in your sphere of influence.

Mantra ::
I’ve graduated from having a story worth telling to embodying the potency of my story, and it emanates through every cell of my being.

Artwork by Rassouli

The Hero’s Journey dream oracle, by Kelly Sullivan Walden

Affirmations ~ November 4, 2021

Published November 4, 2021 by tindertender

Neuroplasticity happens when connections are made across the neural network in our brain. Essentially, our brain creates super-highways that it travels quickly in response to outside stimuli. Thought patterns that are repeated often create massive highways that the thought travels on. The more the thought occurs, the more it will occur.

One of the most effective ways to reprogram the mind, to reformat the consciousness, is through using affirmative statements. I share with you examples that you may find helpful should you wish to use them to assist in reformatting the thinking mind.

I am committed to my growth.

My success is meant to be.

I let go of limited thinking.

I am open, and receptive to a bold life.

I invite what I wish for to come into the space I have provided for it.

I surrender my forcefulness, even for just this moment.

I allow what I want to come to me.

I relax.

I have faith that what I wish for will soon be here.

I feel the energy I wish to attract.

I embrace the power of magnetism.

Faith is enough.

I have many friends and supporters in the unseen.

My willpower gains supply by the power of life itself.

I accept my position in this life.

I am protected.

I am imbued with an inner knowing.

I receive assistance along my path, even while it seems I am alone.

There is something grander than I am able to imagine happening now.

“And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare
feet and the winds long to play with your hair.” ~ Kahlil Gibran

A forest fairy wanders through the forest with a white owl. Gyana is a mythical creature in a green dress.
Artistic Photography, Public Domain

Embrace Your Greatness

Published October 31, 2021 by tindertender

Move beyond problems.
See Solutions.

The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.

You have the ability to go with the flow, and the potential to own your power. You are sovereign, wild, and free. Whenever you find yourself in a challenging circumstance, your charge is to enlarge!

Your mandate is to become a heart space so large that all the world can fit within it ~ all parts of you and all parts of humanity, all parts of life, with no-thing left out.

Stop resisting. Open and allow the diversity of life and the entire ocean of emotion of all sentient beings to be celebrated and loved.

You are connecting with your own multidimensional wisdom, intelligence, and healing.

You are becoming a more telepathic, advanced version of yourself.

Mantra ::
As I embrace my inner self, I feel my heart grow as big and deep as the ocean.

Artwork by Rassouli

The Hero’s Journey dream oracle, by Kelly Sullivan Walden

Shadow Work

Published April 23, 2021 by tindertender

When you were little, were you afraid of the dark? Most of us were.

And I doubt we ever thought to question this fear. We were almost naturally taught to be afraid of the dark, because the dark is full of unknown things that might hurt us.

But what usually happened when you turned the light on? You learned the unknown things were not so scary. And they were not so unknown. They were just part of the environment.

We learned to associate darkness with scary and unknown, and we learned it’s better not to speak with our dark thoughts and emotions.

Turning the light on our emotional shadow is a lot more challenging than flicking a physical light switch on. So we avoid it. Superficiality is easier. But this darkness of our soul has a life of its own which thrives, whether or not we choose to acknowledge it.

It’s there, and it’s powerful.

Understanding Darkness

This fear of our emotional complexity grew as we grew, and with time became our shadow.

It’s a hidden part in us that influences our choices more often than we are aware.

In truth, much effort goes into repressing and hiding it from ourselves and others. It’s our dark side. The parts we are ashamed and afraid to show. But through denial, we fail to see that in the obscurity of darkness also lay our strengths.

For reasons originating in the past, we have decided to negate and hide this dark side without exploring it further. And so in return it keeps us distant from truly expressing ourselves.

In many ways, hiding our shadow can be considered the highest form of betrayal.

By concealing this part of us, we are saying we don’t deserve to show our complete selves, thereby betraying ourselves. In return, secrecy, manipulation, and pretending take over large parts of our lives from fear of being ‘exposed’ and rejected for the part of ourselves we are hiding.

As mentioned, our shadow can show itself as weakness or strength. Becoming aware of our complete self allows us an opportunity for expressing strength. Ignoring these qualities, however, will always produce a damaging result.

The more we repress these dark corners of our being, the more we face disorder in our personality.

This can manifest as,

addiction

anxiety

intentionally failed relationships or jobs,

…or other behaviors that cause destruction to ourselves and others.

To become aware of our shadow is to shed light on our earliest wounds and to give ourselves a chance for healing and transformation. But as long as we choose to close our eyes to this, the wounds will continue to decay while emitting poison into our lives.

To Deepen Our Spirituality, We Must Pass Through the Shadow

Any spiritual work must entail exposure and understanding of our shadow.

Solely focusing on finding our light keeps us away from places of shame, guilt, jealousy, greed, competition, lust and aggression. But it is these very emotions that must be worked through first before coming near our lighter sides.

Even certain spiritual practices like meditation can become difficult when we try to ignore our shadow self. Its repression shows up when we shut our eyes, and we’re left with only our thoughts.

As with all strong emotions, what we don’t want to look at always keeps us contracted and in rejection. Deep down we know these qualities and feelings reside in us, and hiding them leads us to a life of in-authenticity and sometimes incomprehensible self-destructive behavior.

If our shadow is not acknowledged and embraced, the depth of our spiritual and personal growth is limited. Denying to look at the darkness is rejecting ourselves the need to be received in totality by others.

We start to over-identify with the side of ourselves acquired through our own perception of reality. This in turn shapes our personality, the superficial side of us, which the world meets.

Our roles and personality try their best to help us feel worthy and lovable. For some, it is by being intelligent, successful, and powerful while for others it is the opposite. In whichever way our personality tries to control life, it remains just another attempt to be loved for something we know we’re not.

As long as this partial picture of ourselves is kept intact, we create separation.

The message is,

“I don’t want to look and feel certain parts inside me and I prefer to judge others for showing and living what I choose to reject”,

…hence choosing separation, inside and out. It is a painful cage of continuous isolation.

Embracing The Complete ‘You’

The way to our light is through darkness.

Whether we want it or not, the dark side in us is very active even though it is concealed and not evident to the outside. But we know it’s there, continuously asking for recognition.

The shadow should be met in a safe and loving environment. Otherwise, it is too afraid that its face will cause devastation and result in further isolation. When it’s safe we can start looking, seeing, and expressing what has been hidden from our awareness.

There are many unpolished diamonds of strength, creativity, and beauty, which we’ve kept limited so that others close don’t feel small, intimidated or scared. Speaking to our shadow is an immense step towards healing and self-love.

Initially, when we embark on this exciting and necessary journey, we may not be sure who we really are. But this is only because we are so used to our masks that expressing our true self is like meeting a familiar stranger.

Soon new possibilities, choices and, perceptions appear.

Suddenly we can face the many question marks in our life from a place of strength and authenticity. We strengthen our capacity to be in this world more fully and completely.

So, are you ready?

Shadow Work: The Ultimate Guide + Free Psychological Test
https://lonerwolf.com/shadow-work-demons/