Wise men say that rushing is violence And so is your silence when it’s rooted in compliance To stand firm in loving defiance, make art your alliance Give voice to the fire
Move people to the beat of the wind Gather yourself and begin to dance the song until it ends We are winners, champions of the light Forming in numbers and might, keep the truth close in sight
Medicine Woman, Medicine Man Walking with grace, I know your face, and I trust your hands Medicine Woman, Medicine Man Walking with grace, I know your face, and I trust your hands
Find your teachers in the voice of the forests Unplug, you can’t ignore this, wisdom of the voiceless Remedies are bountiful and surround us From the garden to the farthest, prayer made of star dust
Find your healing in the music that calls you The voice that enthralls you, what do you belong to? Eyes out! There’s the setting of the sun Give thanks to each and everyone
The lesson is the Medicine Woman, Medicine Man Walking with grace, I know your face, and I trust your hands Medicine Woman, Medicine Man Walking with grace, I know your face, and I trust your hands
I believe in bending backwards and extending My traps trip back until the message is in action The yard is feeding, stop stark the disbelieving ‘Cause the garden holds the shards, the medicine is in the seeds when
We hold tight to our right to protect and We know our might is tenfold in connection Our elders hold them bright lights, we protect them The medicine is evident: the wolf, the hawk, the bear clan
We hold tight to our right to protect and We know our might is tenfold in connection Our elders hold them bright lights, we protect them The medicine is evident: the wolf, the hawk, the
Medicine Woman, Medicine Man Walking with grace, I know your face, and I trust your hands Medicine Woman, Medicine Man Walking with grace, I know your face, and I trust your hands
Does she feel younger than me? As you’re lying in your bed Does she feel younger than me? Or is that in my head?
Does she feel younger than me? New and shiny Does she feel younger than me? But most importantly
Do you call her bright eyes too? Too
Too
Too
I know she’s younger than me As I’m lying in our bed I know she’s younger than me Can’t get it out of my head I know she’s younger than me Less pain to carry I know she’s younger than me Darling tell me
Do you call her bright eyes too?
Too
Too
Too
Now are you haunted by me? That age old marital trip What’s gotten old about me? Serpent in my bed Now, is that your pain you see? Replenished, strung ahead I don’t know how to stay me But repetition lies ahead for you For you
Years ago, anthropologist Margaret Mead was asked by a student what she considered to be the first sign of civilization in a culture. The student expected Mead to talk about fishhooks or clay pots or grinding stones.
But no.
Mead said that the first sign of civilization in an ancient culture was a femur (thighbone) that had been broken and then healed. Mead explained that in the animal kingdom, if you break your leg, you die. You cannot run from danger, get to the river for a drink or hunt for food. You are meat for prowling beasts. No animal survives a broken leg long enough for the bone to heal.
A broken femur that has healed is evidence that someone has taken time to stay with the one who fell, has bound up the wound, has carried the person to safety and has tended the person through recovery. Helping someone else through difficulty is where civilization starts, Mead said.
A client & brother of mine started texting his wife every morning a few things he was grateful for.
There was always something about her, little stuff.
•Grateful you pack the kids lunches. •Grateful you’re such a hands on mom.
Before this they had a roomate marriage at best.
A cool thing happened after a couple weeks of not getting much back besides thanks.
Then, it was thanks & have a great day too.
Then it was thanks I am grateful for you working so hard too.
Then it was videos back & forth.
Then it wasn’t roommates anymore!
I share this because the MAIN DM I get from men is I wish my wife would __ xyz then I would….
Brothers,
She wants to FOLLOW your lead & energy.
But you must lead & be worthy of following.
This starts by leading yourself & DOING WHAT YOU SAY YOU ARE GOING TO DO!
I used to complain my wife was negative & that she complained too much.
ALL I DID WAS COMPLAIN TO HER ABOUT: -The President -My boss & clients -My life & challenges
She was simply mirroring back my energy.
Women are amazing.
They often magnify & AMPLIFY what we put out.
Now that I don’t complain my wife is my biggest source of encouragement & life.
It’s a beautiful cycle of uplifting one another in our home.
This all starts with you fellas.
You need to make a choice today that you’re going to lead!
Never blame your wife. Your home is on you.
Take the lead.
Start with yourself!
•Wake up without snoozing. •Get movement in & take care of your health. •Help your wife & acknowledge all she does. •Be present with your kids & high energy at home. •Never blame anyone. There’s freedom in that.
The main thing guys need is community & accountability.
We need to grow together to be our best selves!
My brother @MikeSchiff_ & I are starting our second 16 week mens group soon.
Last group we saw guys lose weight, reconnect in marriages, become present dads & more!
Our groups go for 16 weeks, but to both Mike & I it’s a lifetime brotherhood.
It never ends.
If you want a community of men that’s going to challenge you, push you, & walk into your destiny as a leader & man then DM @MikeSchiff_ or I today TEAM & we will send you more info.
Whether you join our group or not,
Take ownership of your life today. Take ownership of your home. Take ownership of your mission.
I had only drinking buddies years ago & my marriage, health & life was in shambles.
Then 1 decision & a community around me turned my life around!
“A husband’s leadership in marriage is not based on superior abilities but on divine placement. Leadership means assuming responsibility for the relationship, being accountable to God and putting your wife’s needs above your own. It means making her load lighter, not heavier. It means helping her develop and utilize her gifts and abilities. It means loving her sacrificially.” -Dennis Rainey
I am not the first person you loved. You are not the first person I looked at with a mouthful of forevers. We have both known loss like the sharp edges of a knife. We have both lived with lips more scar tissue than skin. Our love came unannounced in the middle of the night. Our love came when we’d given up on asking love to come. I think that has to be part of its miracle. This is how we heal. I will kiss you like forgiveness. You will hold me like I’m hope. Our arms will bandage and we will press promises between us like flowers in a book. I will write sonnets to the salt of sweat on your skin. I will write novels to the scar of your nose. I will write a dictionary of all the words I have used trying to describe the way it feels to have finally, finally found you.
And I will not be afraid of your scars.
I know sometimes it’s still hard to let me see you in all your cracked perfection, but please know: whether it’s the days you burn more brilliant than the sun or the nights you collapse into my lap your body broken into a thousand questions, you are the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen. I will love you when you are a still day. I will love you when you are a hurricane.