Written by: @tyromper
A client & brother of mine started texting his wife every morning a few things he was grateful for.
There was always something about her, little stuff.
•Grateful you pack the kids lunches.
•Grateful you’re such a hands on mom.
Before this they had a roomate marriage at best.
A cool thing happened after a couple weeks of not getting much back besides thanks.
Then, it was thanks & have a great day too.
Then it was thanks I am grateful for you working so hard too.
Then it was videos back & forth.
Then it wasn’t roommates anymore!
I share this because the MAIN DM I get from men is I wish my wife would __ xyz then I would….
She wants to FOLLOW your lead & energy.
But you must lead & be worthy of following.
This starts by leading yourself & DOING WHAT YOU SAY YOU ARE GOING TO DO!
I used to complain my wife was negative & that she complained too much.
ALL I DID WAS COMPLAIN TO HER ABOUT:
-My boss & clients
-My life & challenges
She was simply mirroring back my energy.
Women are amazing.
They often magnify & AMPLIFY what we put out.
Now that I don’t complain my wife is my biggest source of encouragement & life.
It’s a beautiful cycle of uplifting one another in our home.
This all starts with you fellas.
You need to make a choice today that you’re going to lead!
Never blame your wife.
Your home is on you.
Take the lead.
Start with yourself!
•Wake up without snoozing.
•Get movement in & take care of your health.
•Help your wife & acknowledge all she does.
•Be present with your kids & high energy at home.
•Never blame anyone. There’s freedom in that.
The main thing guys need is community & accountability.
We need to grow together to be our best selves!
My brother @MikeSchiff_ & I are starting our second 16 week mens group soon.
Last group we saw guys lose weight, reconnect in marriages, become present dads & more!
Our groups go for 16 weeks, but to both Mike & I it’s a lifetime brotherhood.
It never ends.
If you want a community of men that’s going to challenge you, push you, & walk into your destiny as a leader & man then DM @MikeSchiff_ or I today TEAM & we will send you more info.
Whether you join our group or not,
Take ownership of your life today.
Take ownership of your home.
Take ownership of your mission.
I had only drinking buddies years ago & my marriage, health & life was in shambles.
Then 1 decision & a community around me turned my life around!
“A husband’s leadership in marriage is not based on superior abilities but on divine placement. Leadership means assuming responsibility for the relationship, being accountable to God and putting your wife’s needs above your own. It means making her load lighter, not heavier. It means helping her develop and utilize her gifts and abilities. It means loving her sacrificially.” -Dennis Rainey