Communication

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Changing the World

Published September 9, 2025 by tindertender

It is why many countries don’t allow certain people to learn reading or writing.

It’s why certain channels here get shadow banned.

“They” know you’re shifting consciousness, just by be-ing, exist-ing.

Why I Speak

Published July 12, 2024 by tindertender

“Half of what I say is meaningless, but I say it so that the other half may reach you.”
–from “The Forerunner” (1920)

Kahlil Gibran

The Art of Communication

Published March 1, 2024 by tindertender

A rocketscientist and a heartsurgeon can have a discussion and not understand a word of what the other person is saying.

If you refuse to speak in understandable language you can speak without being heard.

If you are unwilling to listen, you can hear without understanding.

Any form of communication, any form of two people interacting respectfully will always require BOTH parties to meet halfway. Life is messy, compromise inevitable.

We All Do It

Published May 21, 2023 by tindertender

It’s funny how most folks don’t like others telling them who they are, why they feel like they do, what their issue is, how to fix issue … yet many folks do just that to others. I do it too … sometimes format needs improvement.

Many of my posts are self-talk, personal realizations. At times, it sounds like I’m talking to others, mostly, I’m talking to self as third person.

I feel many people are doing that, even though it sounds like they’re talking to folks outside self.

“When using third person or “non-first-person” pronouns during self-talk, you do not use pronouns such as I, me, or my. Instead, you speak to yourself (either in a hushed tone or silently inside your own head) using pronouns such as you, he, she, it, or your own first or last name.”

“Essentially, we think referring to yourself in the third person leads people to think about themselves more similar to how they think about others, and you can see evidence for this in the brain. That helps people gain a tiny bit of psychological distance from their experiences, which can often be useful for regulating emotions.”

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-athletes-way/201707/silent-third-person-self-talk-facilitates-emotion-regulation

Me talking advice to someone is often me speaking advice or awareness to self in third party. While it seems I’m addressing others outside self, often it is communication to the self I witness within, and the self I see in others.

Often, this self reflective third party way of recognizing and communicating seems like it is conversation with another, and it is … communication to the self we recognize in others.

Tricky …

“… the brain data from these two complimentary experiments suggest that third-person self-talk may constitute a relatively effortless form of emotion regulation.”

https://www.anxietycentre.com/research/third-person-self-talk-to-control-emotions/

Previous research has suggested that a psychological strategy called “self-distancing” can help us better control our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. From enhancing our self-control in the face of temptation to helping us reflect on difficult past experiences without getting stuck in a downward spiral of negative thinking, the ability to “step back” a little from ourselves seems to be a useful, if slightly odd, psychological skill.

All in all, the studies found that talking to ourselves using our own name, or pronouns like “you” or “he/she” as opposed to “I” or “me,” resulted in reduced anxiety, better performances, and less shame, negativity, and rumination afterwards.

https://bulletproofmusician.com/gain-a-psychological-edge-by-talking-about-yourself-in-the-third-person/

While some are speaking out, making posts of advice as third person, others really are judging others as needing guidance other than their own … without even asking.

I think most people are looking into the world seeing self, brokenness, flaws, weaknesses… and are simply doing their best to put it together using words, spoken. Unfortunately, this change must happen inside before it can be seen outside …

Self distancing.

Perhaps this is why society is addicted to pointing at others and naming flaws … they cannot bear to look inside.

Projection. A form of survival. A form which is unsustainable in the long run.

Communication

Published April 20, 2023 by tindertender

Inside of us is a very large book, the story of our lives and the experiences which formed our character and presentation in the world.

When we speak, we use shorthand usually, creating a mini movie. We say the least amount possible believing the story to be understood at a fraction of its value.

Could it be that our essence is speaking in energy, emotion, vibration, and at our core we believe (unconsciously) that the energies in themselves speak a portion of the story?

We speak in one way, but most often we don’t listen … with the ears, or with our inner receptors, our “feelers”.

We’ve forgotten the language, Universal Language. The language of vibration.

Many are empaths and have felt the storyline their whole lives, transmuting denseness.

Others utilize words and energy to weave a web, a snare.

Oh the art of communication. That long ago, tweaked and fouled, verbal and energetic connection.

Can we begin to “hear” again, by feeling?

Can we clear up our connections so we can understand each other?

I Think Wi-Fi signals mess up our toroidal fields, affecting our mental, emotional, energetic balance and ability to send/receive properly.

Perhaps there will be a shift.

Awareness Is Key

Published October 27, 2022 by tindertender

I say we ought not to take things personally, yet at times, I do. I’m not perfect.

Change cannot occur without awareness. I am aware.

When speaking about things that make me uncomfortable, I vow to keep it impersonal … no names mentioned. I understand this can often times be considered gossip, even if what is said is the truth.

Hard to believe, but even at 56 years old I have a lot to learn still.

The last twenty years have been spent unlearning what I was trained to be, and altering habitual patterns to be of some benefit, to self, and the way self is presented in the world, hopefully affecting others in a good way.

This past weekend I identified in my communication methods something that needs to be adressed, and I’ll work on this one aspect until I feel I’ve got it under control. Wrestling ones personal methods of communicating can be a challenge, for certain.

It is my hope we can share patience with each other as we navigate our own issues, and hopefully deal with them in a good way so we are less likely to hurt each other.

English Alphabet

Published October 1, 2022 by tindertender

Written by: @AxtroMagic

Our language is all back to front! Metatron ensured of that!

He reversed our wording😔😔

My remark:

I did not know this. My speech is sometimes backwards from the system. Similar to how Spanish folk will speak English sort of backward, is how I catch myself speaking sometimes, but I’m American, white, born and raised with this language. Internally I know it’s off.

Response from Author:

You are more in-tuned with our REALM reality than 99.9% of us!

The fallen angel Metatron did such a number on humanity😔🥺

Astro-speaking, DYK you were brilliant in your previous re-incarnation? Reason for your language difficulties now, so you can learn more.

STAY BEAU💝

The Art of Communication

Published April 9, 2022 by tindertender

Pictograph.

It’s the language of the higher realms.

The Sumerians and the Egyptians didn’t use pictograph because they were primitive. They used it because it is the language understood by the gods.

What if petroglyphs weren’t just cavemen drawing on stone, but survivors of the last “reset” telling the gods what they wanted to fill their world with? The rehabilitation of a world freshly cleansed of parasitic infection.

Want to be understood? Learn the language.

… or continue only in the mutation of AI and its binary coded Matrix.

Nature Communication

Published February 1, 2022 by tindertender

“O Tiger-lily!” said Alice, addressing herself to one that was waving gracefully about in the wind, “I wish you could talk!”

“We can talk,” said the Tiger-lily, “when there’s anybody worth talking to.”

Alice thinks that because the flowers are, well, flowers, that they cannot speak, reason or communicate. They are not like her, and therefore she thinks they cannot ever understand or connect with her. Alice assumes the same applies in the opposite direction, but to her surprise, the flowers in the world Through the Looking Glass can speak – and they are very critical, very picky and very aware of their choices. While they also make assumptions, thinking Alice to be a flower like them, yet unlike them, they reveal that most of the time they do not speak, because they feel there simply isn’t anybody worth talking to.

Alice then realizes the flowers have recognized her as someone worth talking to … perhaps because she has praised their beauty and simply wished to be able to communicate. She also has humility and a desire to understand.

Do not make assumptions about people, creatures or beings who seem too different for you to communicate with. There is always a way to bridge the gap between us. If you request for these beings to speak with you and stay open to that possibility, there will be communication. This is especially important when working with the plant kingdom – trees and flowers, elementals and faery energy.

Be a person worth communicating with. Open your heart and mind, and express your desire. In that way, new bonds and cords of understanding can grow between the human world and the wonders all about us.

You are being asked not to make assumptions. Be open to possibilities that seem to be outside rational expectation. Attempts to communicate with beings from other realms – within nature, spiritual planes or even just humans it is thought there is no chance of speaking to or being understood by. Be open and express the desire for communication. Be more lateral and less literal about the ways communication can take place. Be a being worth communicating with – this will go far!

Artwork by Jasmine Becket-Griffith

~ the Alice Wonderland oracle by Lucy Cavendish

The Black Telephone

Published March 28, 2021 by tindertender

Those of us old enough to remember when the phone was wired to the wall, usually in the kitchen, can relate to this story. I loved this read.

When I was a young boy, my father had one of the first telephones in our neighborhood. I remember the polished, old case fastened to the wall. The shiny receiver hung on the side of the box. I was too little to reach the telephone, but used to listen with fascination when my mother talked to it.

Then I discovered that somewhere inside the wonderful device lived an amazing person. Her name was “Information Please” and there was nothing she did not know. Information Please could supply anyone’s number and the correct time.

My personal experience with the genie-in-a-bottle came one day while my mother was visiting a neighbor. Amusing myself at the tool bench in the basement, I whacked my finger with a hammer, the pain was terrible, but there seemed no point in crying because there was no one home to give sympathy. I walked around the house sucking my throbbing finger, finally arriving at the stairway.

The telephone! Quickly, I ran for the footstool in the parlor and dragged it to the landing. Climbing up, I unhooked the receiver in the parlor and held it to my ear. “Information, please,” I said into the mouthpiece just above my head.

A click or two and a small clear voice spoke into my ear.

“Information.”

“I hurt my finger…” I wailed into the phone, the tears came readily enough now that I had an audience.

“Isn’t your mother home?” came the question.

“Nobody’s home but me,” I blubbered.

“Are you bleeding?” the voice asked.

“No, “I replied. “I hit my finger with the hammer and it hurts.”

“Can you open the icebox?” she asked.

I said I could.

“Then chip off a little bit of ice and hold it to your finger,” said the voice.

After that, I called “Information Please” for everything. I asked her for help with my geography, and she told me where Philadelphia was. She helped me with my math. She told me my pet chipmunk that I had caught in the park just the day before, would eat fruit and nuts.

Then, there was the time Petey, our pet canary, died. I called, “Information Please,” and told her the sad story. She listened, and then said things grown-ups say to soothe a child. But I was not consoled. I asked her,

“Why is it that birds should sing so beautifully and bring joy to all families, only to end up as a heap of feathers on the bottom of a cage?”

She must have sensed my deep concern, for she said quietly,

“Wayne, always remember that there are other worlds to sing in.”

Somehow I felt better.

Another day I was on the telephone,

“Information Please.”

“Information,” said in the now familiar voice.

“How do I spell fix?” I asked

All this took place in a small town in the Pacific Northwest. When I was nine years old, we moved across the country to Boston . I missed my friend very much.

“Information Please” belonged in that old wooden box back home and I somehow never thought of trying the shiny new phone that sat on the table in the hall. As I grew into my teens, the memories of those childhood conversations never really left me. Often, in moments of doubt and perplexity I would recall the serene sense of security I had then. I appreciated now how patient, understanding, and kind she was to have spent her time on a little boy.

A few years later, on my way west to college, my plane put down in Seattle. I had about a half-hour or so between planes. I spent 15 minutes or so on the phone with my sister, who lived there now. Then without thinking what I was doing, I dialed my hometown operator and said, “Information Please.”

Miraculously, I heard the small, clear voice I knew so well.

“Information.”

I hadn’t planned this, but I heard myself saying, “Could you please tell me how to spell fix?”

There was a long pause. Then came the soft spoken answer, “I guess your finger must have healed by now.”

I laughed, “So it’s really you,” I said. “I wonder if you have any idea how much you meant to me during that time?”

“I wonder,” she said, “if you know how much your calls meant to me. I never had any children and I used to look forward to your calls.”

I told her how often I had thought of her over the years and I asked if I could call her again when I came back to visit my sister.

“Please do,” she said. “Just ask for Sally.”

Three months later I was back in Seattle. A different voice answered, “Information.” I asked for Sally.

“Are you a friend?” she said.

“Yes, a very old friend,” I answered.

“I’m sorry to have to tell you this,” She said. “Sally had been working part time the last few years because she was sick. She died five weeks ago.”

Before I could hang up, she said, “Wait a minute. Is your name Wayne?”

“Yes.” I answered.

Well, Sally left a message for you. She wrote it down in case you called. Let me read it to you. The note said,

“Tell Wayne there are other worlds to sing in. He’ll know what I mean.”

I thanked her and hung up. I knew what Sally meant.

Never underestimate the impression you may make on others. Whose life have you touched today?

~ Source unknown