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The Military Trick That Stops Women From Falling for Toxic Men

Published September 22, 2025 by tindertender

1 – Delay your emotional engagement In military operations, rushing into action without intel is the fastest way to get trapped. The same rule applies in dating – don’t emotionally “invest” in the first weeks. Observe. Let the person reveal their consistency over time before you give them your trust.

2 – Run background checks in your own way.

Soldiers never walk into unknown territory without reconnaissance. In relationships, this means paying attention to how a man treats service staff, talks about exes, handles stress, and responds to “no.” These are your intel reports – not his promises.

3 – Use the “calm face” tactic.

Special forces are trained to show no emotional reaction to provocation. Toxic men feed on emotional highs and lows. If you stay calm, you rob them of the fuel they use to hook you – and you see their true character much faster.

4 – Test for long-term discipline.

A soldier’s value is measured in consistency, not charm. In dating, watch for a man’s ability to keep promises, follow through on plans, and show respect over months, not days. Toxic behavior rarely survives sustained observation.

5 – Keep your mission higher than the relationship.

In the military, the mission outranks personal feelings. In your life, your values, goals, and mental health must come first. When a man sees you won’t sacrifice them for his approval, you filter out the toxic ones automatically.

Falling for the wrong man isn’t bad luck — it’s a failure of early detection. Train your mindset, and you’ll never need to “fix” a broken partner again.

Love for Self

Published December 6, 2024 by tindertender

For me it was difficult to achieve. I am an intense individual who senses other energies greatly.

I will remember, although two people can be on different levels of awakening and find it difficult to relate to one another, it is still possible to have love for each other.

In allowing myself the freedom to express and experience fully, I gladly understand that those I love may not be able to relate to me as I would like. However, I still love and am so very appreciative they are, and have been a part of my life.

I will feel fully.

I will express honestly.

I will let my light shine vibrantly.

I will not take negativity personally.

I will love completely.

I will survive temporary waves of uneasiness.

I look forward to what is ahead.

Energy Vampires Looking for a Sacrifice

Published August 7, 2024 by tindertender

Three nights ago, 3 times my life force vitality was drained while sleeping, I woke cold during the drain. (Someone dressed up in my essence). Two nights ago, they covered my root in orgy magic, putrid! I transmuted that crap!! Last night, while sleeping, they sent in a succubus, but the energy had been transmuted, so they couldn’t take it, or see me as vile. (The foul ones stated, she transmuted the energy!! and the Djinn king said ” ‘she’ (the vampire) needs to raise her vibration, use the singing bowl, use the cannabis — and I said, she has a black heart, you really think she’ll match this energy? No …. the most she can do is ‘wear’ it.). Then, they tried to sacrifice me in the astral last night, making me responsible for their Last Chance. I woke with a start!! My heart pounded, and this morning, it eased. The attack went back. Somebody probably died. They should stop with the antics. The True King my God and ALL of our Divine Family throughout this multi-verse won’t be letting you have this essence. Be informed. Be cautious. I don’t walk alone any longer.

https://drjudithorloff.com/beware-of-the-go-for-the-jugular-vampire/

Wait …

Published April 28, 2024 by tindertender

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Wait for someone respectful, not only in the beginning stages of the relationship when things are bright and beautiful, but also when things get hard. Wait for someone who respects your boundaries and does not force you to do things that you’re not willing or ready to do.

Wait for someone who is giving and does not keep count of the good things they do for you.

Wait for someone who challenges you mentally. Someone who inspires you to be a better person.

Wait for someone who takes their time to learn and understand you.

Wait for someone who is consistent with their efforts in showing you how much they care about you.

Wait for someone who wants to be part of your world, and wants you to be part of theirs.

Wait for someone who lets you know you’re on their mind, someone who checks in on you, someone who wants you to know that they care for you.

Wait for someone who is willing to commit to you, someone who is willing to choose you.

Wait for someone who makes love feel easy, calm. Like coming home.

Wait for someone sincere. Someone who doesn’t confuse you because their actions don’t match their words. Wait for someone honest.

Wait for someone who does their absolute best to not hurt you, someone who strives to protect your heart.

Wait for someone who will choose you over and over and over again. Love is a choice you make every single day. You deserve to find the kind of person who shows up for what you share, someone who believes in it.

Wait for someone who’s not perfect, but rather, real. Perfect is an illusion. Real is where you find something rare and special.

Wait for someone who reminds you that love was always meant to be soft. 🌱

~ The Counsellor

image – Amanda Oleander Art

Ignorance Exposed

Published February 7, 2024 by tindertender

He inquired of an invisible dominator masculine, “They like Dogs? Do they make their life better?”

Unfortunately, they like to get in my mental space, so they get to hear my opinion.

I responded, “How is it you are in management of anyone if you are ignorant of the fact that having someone or something to love and care for makes life better?”

F-ing Jack wagons.

Oblivious to the intricacies of relationship which make life worth living.

Dogs are friends, guardians, children, protectors, companions who accept without judgement and are always happy to see us, willing to go and do whatever it is we ask …

That masculines ignorance is astounding. Who decided he was worthy of leadership?

Truckers For Freedom

Published January 25, 2022 by tindertender

Looks like we got ourselves a convoy!

https://twitter.com/m3g3mikeqp17/status/1485808736442720256?s=21
https://twitter.com/i/status/1486091046903861251
https://twitter.com/hyperpiper17/status/1486221597006606337?s=21

https://video.foxnews.com/v/6293677812001#sp=show-clips

Schedule: https://canada-unity.com/bearhug/

https://www.npr.org/2017/06/06/531749486/the-legacy-of-convoy-how-a-trucker-s-protest-anthem-became-a-70s-hit

The convoy of trucks is arriving in OTAWA and surrounding Parliament, the mass arrival is expected tomorrow. The queue is 500 km long.

https://youtu.be/8nus5kOELaU
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Investigate

Published January 23, 2022 by tindertender

“No, I’ll look first.”

Too many people blindly follow others and in many situations we can find it easier to go with the flow, to trust in other people and even to follow orders. But Alice does not do this – not until she has thought it through for herself. She may be impetuous, adventurous and curious, but she is also sensible, cautious and enquiring. Alice remembers the good, commonsense advice she has learned through hearing stories of others’ mishaps – and right now, you must be like Alice.

Check something carefully before going ahead. You are being encouraged to take a daring new path of action, and while everything is most likely well, you still need to take responsibility and remember to be your own guardian and caretaker. Look over the details, check the packaging, be sure to know what is in the fine print, and ask questions about the arrangement or the offer which you are about to enter into or accept.

If, like Alice, you find there is nothing alarming or hidden about the arrangement, by all means go ahead. However, do not follow orders or blindly do what you are told. Investigate, decide, and if you go ahead, be prepared for unexpected changes when you sign, start, connect or decide to advance. There is always an element of the unpredictable – and there is no way of preparing for all the strange and wonderful things that will happen next!

An important decision requires you to enquire, inform yourself and think it through thoroughly. Find out as much as you can and look at the fine print!

Artwork by Jasmine Becket-Griffith

~ the Alice Wonderland oracle by Lucy Cavendish

Warbonnet ~ Advance

Published January 2, 2022 by tindertender

It is time to advance. Don’t waste energy on going backward or staying in the doldrums. You are now able to move to the next step on the Sacred Path. Like a Warbonneted Chief, you have earned the right to learn the next set of life’s mysteries. Take your Medicine Bundle and all of the strengths it represents and charge forward.

The advance can be on any level. Your spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional healings are understood through life’s experiences. You can now approach your destiny with every feather you have earned marking your past victories and see the destiny you have chosen emerging before you. Your Medicine is strong and will allow the advancement you need at this time.

~ Sacred Path Cards – The Discovery of Self Through Native Teachings by Jamie Sams

Universal Declaration of Human Rights

Published November 26, 2021 by tindertender

Preamble

Whereas recognition of the inherent dignity and of the equal and inalienable rights of all members of the human family is the foundation of freedom, justice and peace in the world,

Whereas disregard and contempt for human rights have resulted in barbarous acts which have outraged the conscience of mankind, and the advent of a world in which human beings shall enjoy freedom of speech and belief and freedom from fear and want has been proclaimed as the highest aspiration of the common people,

Whereas it is essential, if man is not to be compelled to have recourse, as a last resort, to rebellion against tyranny and oppression, that human rights should be protected by the rule of law,

Whereas it is essential to promote the development of friendly relations between nations,

Whereas the peoples of the United Nations have in the Charter reaffirmed their faith in fundamental human rights, in the dignity and worth of the human person and in the equal rights of men and women and have determined to promote social progress and better standards of life in larger freedom,

Whereas Member States have pledged themselves to achieve, in co-operation with the United Nations, the promotion of universal respect for and observance of human rights and fundamental freedoms,

Whereas a common understanding of these rights and freedoms is of the greatest importance for the full realization of this pledge,

Now, therefore,

The General Assembly,

Proclaims this Universal Declaration of Human Rights as a common standard of achievement for all peoples and all nations, to the end that every individual and every organ of society, keeping this Declaration constantly in mind, shall strive by teaching and education to promote respect for these rights and freedoms and by progressive measures, national and international, to secure their universal and effective recognition and observance, both among the peoples of Member States themselves and among the peoples of territories under their jurisdiction. 

Article 1

All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood.

Article 2

Everyone is entitled to all the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration, without distinction of any kind, such as race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, national or social origin, property, birth or other status. Furthermore, no distinction shall be made on the basis of the political, jurisdictional or international status of the country or territory to which a person belongs, whether it be independent, trust, non-self-governing or under any other limitation of sovereignty.

Article 3

Everyone has the right to life, liberty and security of person.

Article 4

No one shall be held in slavery or servitude; slavery and the slave trade shall be prohibited in all their forms.

Article 5

No one shall be subjected to torture or to cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment.

Article 6

Everyone has the right to recognition everywhere as a person before the law.

Article 7

All are equal before the law and are entitled without any discrimination to equal protection of the law. All are entitled to equal protection against any discrimination in violation of this Declaration and against any incitement to such discrimination.

Article 8

Everyone has the right to an effective remedy by the competent national tribunals for acts violating the fundamental rights granted him by the constitution or by law.

Article 9

No one shall be subjected to arbitrary arrest, detention or exile.

Article 10

Everyone is entitled in full equality to a fair and public hearing by an independent and impartial tribunal, in the determination of his rights and obligations and of any criminal charge against him.

Article 11

  1. Everyone charged with a penal offence has the right to be presumed innocent until proved guilty according to law in a public trial at which he has had all the guarantees necessary for his defence.
  2. No one shall be held guilty of any penal offence on account of any act or omission which did not constitute a penal offence, under national or international law, at the time when it was committed. Nor shall a heavier penalty be imposed than the one that was applicable at the time the penal offence was committed.

Article 12

No one shall be subjected to arbitrary interference with his privacy, family, home or correspondence, nor to attacks upon his honour and reputation. Everyone has the right to the protection of the law against such interference or attacks.

Article 13

  1. Everyone has the right to freedom of movement and residence within the borders of each state.
  2. Everyone has the right to leave any country, including his own, and to return to his country.

Article 14

  1. Everyone has the right to seek and to enjoy in other countries asylum from persecution.
  2. This right may not be invoked in the case of prosecutions genuinely arising from non-political crimes or from acts contrary to the purposes and principles of the United Nations.

Article 15

  1. Everyone has the right to a nationality.
  2. No one shall be arbitrarily deprived of his nationality nor denied the right to change his nationality.

Article 16

  1. Men and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion, have the right to marry and to found a family. They are entitled to equal rights as to marriage, during marriage and at its dissolution.
  2. Marriage shall be entered into only with the free and full consent of the intending spouses.
  3. The family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the State.

Article 17

  1. Everyone has the right to own property alone as well as in association with others.
  2. No one shall be arbitrarily deprived of his property.

Article 18

Everyone has the right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion; this right includes freedom to change his religion or belief, and freedom, either alone or in community with others and in public or private, to manifest his religion or belief in teaching, practice, worship and observance.

Article 19

Everyone has the right to freedom of opinion and expression; this right includes freedom to hold opinions without interference and to seek, receive and impart information and ideas through any media and regardless of frontiers.

Article 20

  1. Everyone has the right to freedom of peaceful assembly and association.
  2. No one may be compelled to belong to an association.

Article 21

  1. Everyone has the right to take part in the government of his country, directly or through freely chosen representatives.
  2. Everyone has the right of equal access to public service in his country.
  3. The will of the people shall be the basis of the authority of government; this will shall be expressed in periodic and genuine elections which shall be by universal and equal suffrage and shall be held by secret vote or by equivalent free voting procedures.

Article 22

Everyone, as a member of society, has the right to social security and is entitled to realization, through national effort and international co-operation and in accordance with the organization and resources of each State, of the economic, social and cultural rights indispensable for his dignity and the free development of his personality.

Article 23

  1. Everyone has the right to work, to free choice of employment, to just and favourable conditions of work and to protection against unemployment.
  2. Everyone, without any discrimination, has the right to equal pay for equal work.
  3. Everyone who works has the right to just and favourable remuneration ensuring for himself and his family an existence worthy of human dignity, and supplemented, if necessary, by other means of social protection.
  4. Everyone has the right to form and to join trade unions for the protection of his interests.

Article 24

Everyone has the right to rest and leisure, including reasonable limitation of working hours and periodic holidays with pay.

Article 25

  1. Everyone has the right to a standard of living adequate for the health and well-being of himself and of his family, including food, clothing, housing and medical care and necessary social services, and the right to security in the event of unemployment, sickness, disability, widowhood, old age or other lack of livelihood in circumstances beyond his control.
  2. Motherhood and childhood are entitled to special care and assistance. All children, whether born in or out of wedlock, shall enjoy the same social protection.

Article 26

  1. Everyone has the right to education. Education shall be free, at least in the elementary and fundamental stages. Elementary education shall be compulsory. Technical and professional education shall be made generally available and higher education shall be equally accessible to all on the basis of merit.
  2. Education shall be directed to the full development of the human personality and to the strengthening of respect for human rights and fundamental freedoms. It shall promote understanding, tolerance and friendship among all nations, racial or religious groups, and shall further the activities of the United Nations for the maintenance of peace.
  3. Parents have a prior right to choose the kind of education that shall be given to their children.

Article 27

  1. Everyone has the right freely to participate in the cultural life of the community, to enjoy the arts and to share in scientific advancement and its benefits.
  2. Everyone has the right to the protection of the moral and material interests resulting from any scientific, literary or artistic production of which he is the author.

Article 28

Everyone is entitled to a social and international order in which the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration can be fully realized.

Article 29

  1. Everyone has duties to the community in which alone the free and full development of his personality is possible.
  2. In the exercise of his rights and freedoms, everyone shall be subject only to such limitations as are determined by law solely for the purpose of securing due recognition and respect for the rights and freedoms of others and of meeting the just requirements of morality, public order and the general welfare in a democratic society.
  3. These rights and freedoms may in no case be exercised contrary to the purposes and principles of the United Nations.

Article 30

Nothing in this Declaration may be interpreted as implying for any State, group or person any right to engage in any activity or to perform any act aimed at the destruction of any of the rights and freedoms set forth herein.

Source:
Universal Declaration of Human Rights | United Nations

With His Dying Breath, A Marine Stands and Solutes!

Published October 6, 2020 by tindertender

“Weeks before my son died, we were still hopeful that he would recover from his second brain surgery and regain some quality of life. He wanted to live. He fought so valiantly. As a mother, I could not be prouder of my son.

So…go ahead…take a knee.

Btw….just a little bit of information about this picture. This is physical therapy working with my son. She asked him to sit on the side of the bed. Michael…on his own, chose to STAND ….with whatever power he could muster, AND SALUTE.

My dad…who was helping his only grandson during physical therapy and saw what Michael was doing…asked for a picture to be taken. (So glad he did….and if anyone knows my dad…he is not a real fan of pictures, but he felt this was THAT IMPORTANT. )

This is a picture of a UNITED STATES MARINE showing respect with the last bit of energy he had in this earthly life. But you entitled fools go ahead and kneel.”

Signed a GOLD STAR MOM.