I live in a way now that if something feels broke, I fix it.
I don’t often lament anymore. Or get stuck in shame, or talk to my mom about it for hours or get everyone’s opinion or eat a bag of whatever.
I do something about it.
For example: Yesterday I was having a real AF relationship check-in with my husband, we hit a painful spot, and decided to get coaching ON THE SPOT.
We got clarity, excitement, closeness, and spent the rest of the day in bliss. The ease that we get when we have nowhere to be and no schedule to keep under other than the spaciousness of going on adventures and experiencing the world together, is incredible.
If something feels like it hurts in my relationships, I lean in and figure it out. I refuse to walk around in pain or allow my loved ones to be in pain.
I often face panic whenever I’d look at my bank account. After a year of feeling like shit, I decided to get some training on money and been rocking my woman on fire programs ever since, that continue to book up effortlessly and with so much fun.
Whenever I look at my bank account, all of my bills have been paid and I still have more than enough. It is an unreal feeling.
If something feels unclear or uncomfortable? I have a conversation right away, or at least I want to.
If something doesn’t feel quite right? I inquire about it and get to the bottom of it.
To allow something to be crunchy, uncomfortable, or unfinished, or not to speak to what I perceive to be an elephant in the room and figure it out, THAT is where I struggle.
To sit in the UNKNOWING and have no idea how something is moving or what is happening, that is when I start to freak out.
Not when I feel like I can act, repair, create, influence, make something.
I know I’m not alone in this:
High achievers, perfectionists, emotionally mature humans, we can have a real hard time with having a hard time.
Letting it not feel that good, and not making a story about it or heaping judgements on self or others. Not RUNNING from the thing that feels momentarily unsolvable, and instead, making space for all of the uncomfortable unclear feelings that come along with it.
In woman on fire, we learn how to sit in the fire. Unharmed. Freaking the FOOK OUT or going numb, running away or leaning in, and learning self-compassion and gentleness. Learning how to take a breath and make enough space for a feeling until it reveals your heart underneath. It reveals a need you didn’t realize you had, or a desire you have been ignoring.
We get to NOT BE PERFECT, and stay with it anyway. If we fail or succeed or are loved or hated, it makes no difference, for how we learn to show up for ourselves is what keeps us in the fire. Everything that is not meant to be, burns slowly and steadily away. So our aliveness can wake up fully.
Reach out to me to chat to see if this community is for you. For the ones who are tired from running from their fire and ready to embrace it.
Need and Necessity: Night and day exist within the very same moment. Creation and destruction wear the same face. You only see one or the other because you are not seeing the whole. What you may see as harmful, another may believe to be good. All is based upon perception. In nature, all occurs according to need and necessity not right and wrong. Ask yourself – Is there a genuine need to act? Is change necessary for your continued wellbeing and happiness? If the answer is yes, then act. If the answer is no, then do not.
Time to Reflect: Have you been rushing along, living from one moment to the next without thought or care? Have you failed to notice and acknowledge all that you have achieved and accomplished? Stop. Take a moment to pause and reflect upon all that has happened and all that is happening. See how you have grown. See all you have succeeded in accomplishing. Acknowledge and delight in your journey and understand how it has played a part in creating the you who lives in the present.
Show That You Care: Do not distance yourself from life and those around you. Reach out. Ask for help or support if you have need. Or, if someone within your circle is in need of care and support then give it without hesitation or question. A trouble shared is a burden halved. Now is not the time to withdraw and be alone, nor is it time to leave another in need. Be aware. Be caring. Be compassionate. Reach out and be a friend and allow others to be a friend to you.
Time to Ground: We all experience moments in our lives when we feel confused, unfocused and surrounded by chaos and turmoil. These moments are often unavoidable, as are the lessons the moments can impart. But how you respond to them is a choice only you can make. Take a deep breath and a moment to pause and reconnect with Gaia and nature. Seek the silence of the void within whilst your spirit spirals downward to anchor itself like an ancient tree root in the cleansing embrace of the earth beneath you.
Share Your Thoughts: You have hopes, dreams, goals and ideas. Do not guard your ideas jealously nor keep them locked within for fear that another may steal them or offer ridicule instead of support. It is time to share your vision. Tell Great Spirit and Gaia of your dreams and hopes so they may send you what you need. Speak of your dreams to others. Connect with those who share your goals and hopes for they may be able to help you realize your dreams sooner.
Challenge Your Perception: You cannot challenge an outdated perception or one born from a lack of understanding if you are unwilling to put aside your feelings and beliefs and embrace another’s point of view. To do so makes you aware of the whole and stands you up on high where you can see that both parties involved in a dispute can act against an injustice. Both can be right, both can be wrong, and what one may perceive to be harmful, may be seen as both healing and beneficial by the other.
Change is Unavoidable: Every second of every day you undergo change. Your perception is altered by what you see, feel and experience from one moment to the next. Your body ages and moves closer to death with every breath. Autumn will always come to end the bounty of Summer, and the new hope of Spring will always follow the Winter. Change is all around you. Do not let your fear bind you to the past and prevent you from enjoying your present and future. Stop fighting. You cannot resist the inevitable so choose instead to embrace it with acceptance and peace.
Embrace the Masculine: Within ourselves there are two aspects to our nature – the masculine and the feminine. Here in the present, you need to embrace the Masculine aspect of your nature and let it guide your steps. Now is time to be assertive, to act with authority, and stand up for both yourself and your truths. Fight for what you believe in. Do not allow others to tell you that you must not, or cannot. But remember, whilst you allow your masculine self to be dominant, you need to temper your assertiveness and determination with gentleness and compassion.
See Yourself in Nature: You are born of man and woman, but humanity is born of the natural world. Now it is time to reconnect. Look out into the natural world. Explore your world and you will see who you are. Peel away all judgement and dogma born of man and see your truest nature mirrored in the beautiful world around you. See that your emotions are like the weather, and that your senses reach into the sky and earth like the branches and roots of the trees. See yourself in nature and nature within yourself.
Let Go of the Old: Are you holding on to beliefs and notions that no longer serve you? Are you blocking your own growth and forward momentum because you fear to end a chapter in your life? It is time to release all that you hold onto that no longer serves. It is time to say goodbye to all that no longer has a place or purpose in your life. It’s time to have an emotional, or physical, spring clean. It’s time to let go of the past so you can be open to what the future may bring.
Know You Belong: You have place. You have purpose. You are special. Do not change who you are just so others might accept you. Do not dishonor your truths by allowing someone else to tell you who you must be. Change made just so you fit the expectations or social criteria of a clique or group does not honor you. You do not need to change in order to belong. You are a blessed child of Gaia and Great Spirit and belong simply because you are.
Love that You are Different: You have strengths and weaknesses and both are worthy of love. Know them, honor them, and do not heed those who tell you that you must change in order to fulfill their expectation of you. You will never be who others expect you to be. You can only be the unique individual you are meant to be. Love that you are different for it is your differences, and loving those differences, that make you truly beautiful.
“I am Gaia. I am the daughter of Great Spirit, who is the Source of All. I am both magical and divine, as is all which I create. I am the Great Mother. I am your mother, and you, beautiful soul, are a physical manifestation of my love.”