True Value

Published November 2, 2022 by tindertender

Crowfoot stood and watched as the white man spread many one dollar bills on the ground.

“This is what the white man trades with; this is his buffalo robe. Just as you trade skins, we trade with these pieces of paper.”

When the white chief had laid all his money on the ground and shown how much he would give if the Indians would sign a treaty, Crowfoot took a handful of clay, made a ball out of it and put it on the fire.

It did not crack.

Then he said to the white man, Now put your money on the fire and see if it will last as long as the clay.

The white man said, No….my money will burn because it is made of paper.

With an amused gleam in his eyes the old chief said, Oh, your money is not as good as our land, is it?

The wind will blow it away; the fire will burn it; water will rot it. But nothing will destroy our land.

You don’t make a very good trade.

Then with a smile, Crowfoot picked up a handful of sand from the river bank, handed it to the white man and said, You count the grains of sand in that while I count the money you give for the land.

The white man said, I would not live long enough to count this, but you can count the money in a few minutes.

Very well, said the wise Crowfoot, our land is more valuable than your money. It will last forever.

It will not perish as long as the sun shines and the water flows, and through all the years it will give life to men and animals, and therefore we cannot sell the land.

It was put there by the Great Spirit and we cannot sell it because it does not really belong to us.

You can count your money and burn it with a nod of a buffalo’s head, but only the Great Spirit can count the grains of sand and the blades of grass on these plains.

As a present we will give you anything you can take with you, but we cannot give you the land.”

Chief Crowfoot : Blackfoot Confederacy

True Value

Published November 2, 2022 by tindertender

Crowfoot stood and watched as the white man spread many one dollar bills on the ground.

“This is what the white man trades with; this is his buffalo robe. Just as you trade skins, we trade with these pieces of paper.”

When the white chief had laid all his money on the ground and shown how much he would give if the Indians would sign a treaty, Crowfoot took a handful of clay, made a ball out of it and put it on the fire.

It did not crack.

Then he said to the white man, Now put your money on the fire and see if it will last as long as the clay.

The white man said, No….my money will burn because it is made of paper.

With an amused gleam in his eyes the old chief said, Oh, your money is not as good as our land, is it?

The wind will blow it away; the fire will burn it; water will rot it. But nothing will destroy our land.

You don’t make a very good trade.

Then with a smile, Crowfoot picked up a handful of sand from the river bank, handed it to the white man and said, You count the grains of sand in that while I count the money you give for the land.

The white man said, I would not live long enough to count this, but you can count the money in a few minutes.

Very well, said the wise Crowfoot, our land is more valuable than your money. It will last forever.

It will not perish as long as the sun shines and the water flows, and through all the years it will give life to men and animals, and therefore we cannot sell the land.

It was put there by the Great Spirit and we cannot sell it because it does not really belong to us.

You can count your money and burn it with a nod of a buffalo’s head, but only the Great Spirit can count the grains of sand and the blades of grass on these plains.

As a present we will give you anything you can take with you, but we cannot give you the land.”

Chief Crowfoot : Blackfoot Confederacy

Surviving Grief

Published November 2, 2022 by tindertender

Living with a Broken Heart

Remember what the Tin Man said in the “Wizard of Oz” after he finally got a heart….

“Now I know I’ve got a heart because it’s breaking.”

If someone you love died, your heart is probably broken. So how do you live with a broken heart?

The answer isn’t how you fix it or move beyond it. The skill is learning to live with your grief as an ongoing way of being in the world. It’s the way you honor that which you love.

What I’m proposing is that, with enough healing, living with heartbreak can become natural, and very normal.

From my personal and professional experience, I can tell you that as you embark on your healing journey, you’ll start crying a whole lot more. Not just to clear pain, but for the simplest of everyday reasons, and out of nowhere. You’ll cry when you see a bird, a can of paint, an apple, or even the shape of a cloud.

Random things will make you cry.

The heart is designed to grieve, it wants to grieve…..it has to grieve!

Especially when it’s broken.

This is the price you pay for love. The loss of the life you thought you had, the life you once knew and held so dear. Loss of a dream you believed was true.

But you can also find and feel grief in opening your heart.

Opening it to love and to new possibilities. Opening it to what the future holds.

Isn’t that what life is all about? Endings and beginnings, closings and openings? The heart was designed to navigate you through this forever winding adventure called life. But you have to be willing to feel…..and to live with a broken heart.

Here’s the thing…..you can learn to live with your broken heart by befriending your grief.

You can discover the love that still exists around you…..and share that love with others who are also living with a broken heart.

  • Gary Sturgis – “Surviving Grief”

Shiny Angels

Published November 1, 2022 by tindertender

A star shown thru a telescope. Remind you of anything?

Looks like a human form, an Angel with wings.

What if shooting stars are actually “fallen angels” coming to inhabit a recently deceased body?

What Is Really Important Right Now?

Published October 30, 2022 by tindertender

You are journeying toward the Divine in All.

Once the bridge is crossed there will be great bounty. Allow yourself contentment. Appreciate your experiences and know your worth.

Reinvest energy into the future.

You have viewed the situation wholly. Let the world dance begin. Harmony.

Pay attention to your dreams. Envision the goal. Wander in the end result desired. See it. Feel it.

Crystallize the idea of prosperity. Give your most unselfish love.

Dark Night of the Soul?

Published October 30, 2022 by tindertender

Must accept 100% responsibility.

Life constantly reflects back to us what we put into the world.

Meditate. Stop complaining. Take action. Double your goal. Think bigger.

Waiting until there’s no fear? It doesn’t work like that. Feel the fear, take action anyway.

That’s called courage.

Courage to:

Acknowledge mistakes

Lower pride, don’t make yourself more important than others, make them equally important.

Fear cannot be suppressed or denied. It must be embraced. Our society has become “feeling avoidant”. Go to the center of the energy and really feel into it, breathe the breath of life into it.

Gain emotional competence.

Go to the center of the most intense portion of the energy.

“Not useful” emotions create a cloud around us. It’s only a projection of “what might happen” into the future.

Having fear of the future potential calamity holds back the possibility of “more”.

Empathy

A compassionate feeling and caring for another human being.

Whatever you want … give it first.

Scavengers of Peace

Published October 30, 2022 by tindertender

An unfortunate waste of intelligence.

What you give you shall receive … nothing more … ever.

Which means you must be really happy with what you’ve got.

Have you learned to close your hell?

You could be a healer of life rather than a creator and collector of … tears, fears, anger and argument.

Scavengers of peace.

Consistently covering over truth, perplexing minds.

Collective Scars

Published October 30, 2022 by tindertender

Most of us have no way of seeing the emotional and energetic scars of others. The closest we can come is inwardly touching our own, remembering them, and then entertaining the possibility that those same scars may reside inside others, to a greater or lesser degree.

A person can appear healthy and whole and still be wearing these invisible scars.

I think if we considered our own suffering to be as another’s we might be more inclined to be gentle, rather than throwing fire.

Emotional wounds baffle the mind and blind the heart. It can inhibit the capacity to function normally, like drinking and driving.

1 trauma, ok, may bounce back. Even 2-5 traumas. But there comes a time when inner doors shut, at least temporarily, making communication and a gentle way with each other even more challenging.

Beingness

Published October 30, 2022 by tindertender

I turn off the floor lamp and walk around lighting the evening candles. I tell Alexa to play Solfeggio frequencies and stand in the middle of my living room. I begin to do stretches and bends, breathing deliberately, intently. My body warms, my tension lifts. The sage has filled the room with its Smokey aroma.

I look around. A voice inside me says, “ This is your life, what do you see?”

My eyes rest on every item around the room. Everything on the wall is attached to a memory, an event, a creation moment. Everything has meaning. I notice hearts everywhere, books galore, my totem pole right in my living room, and every treasured item.

Father Time; Love, friends, protectors, sacred items, significant intention and prayer. Candles lit in honor of the night, gentle glow, ease of mind.

I speak out my prayer, I am sincere and earnest. I ask to be led to the lesson in the situation, I desire to learn it and am eager to understand.

It seems time is of the essence. Old patterns and habitual scenarios must be eliminated.

All that hooks the attention and drags the pure energies fownward must be cast aside.

The health and progress of my own being in my own relation with Creator and All That Is must come first.