Consciousness

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Real, or Illusion.

Published January 3, 2020 by tindertender

Perhaps the reversal of our words in the anther is the same for you as it is for me. However, you have been aware of it, so you say the opposite of what you mean in order to get your true message across.

Nature has it that when we hear a negative, which is what I hear when going deep, we get defensive, obstinate even.

Yet maybe it is actually the surface message that you mean.

Maybe my reaction is actually born out of decades of emotional response training …. lifetime habit.

It could be that you are not the villain I have imagined you to be.

It’s probable that both friend and foe speak in the anthers at the same time, both residing at polar opposites, further confusing the message.

It IS time to open the imagination, freeing it from preconditioned thought forms, attached to emotional residue of the past.

Yet then again, this could all simply be an illusion …

Precious Woman

Published January 2, 2020 by tindertender

Written by Maria Palumbo, https://www.facebook.com/maria.palumbo.loves, https://mariapalumbo.com/

The women who struggle in relationships the most, the ones who have a hard time finding someone they can trust, are truly some of the most:

Brilliant

Creative

Loving souls.

Perfectly sensitive. Unendingly kind.

But they do not always see this.

They tell me they are broken. That no one will ever love them. Yet to know these women is to love them. They are easy to adore despite years of programming and dating advice telling them to be stronger:

“Just love yourself.”

“Don’t be clingy.”

“Don’t be needy.”

“Be mysterious.”

“Just be more: alluring, submissive, feminine, sweet, gentle, interesting.”

“You can make him into the man you want if you try harder.”

“Don’t whine.”

“Don’t be a pushover.”

And when I hear this, when she begins to tell me these stories that were pushed on her, I want to hold her face. Her hands. Her heart.

And ask her:

How can you be anything but precious?

Can you see these wounds as beautiful because they are yours?

I am offering not a ten step program of how to get a lover. But a loving witnessing. Holding a mirror to your heart so you can see more and adore what you see. Understand. Awaken. Nothing to change here. Only more tenderness.

And when it hurts. When the stories get louder, respond with more tenderness.

https://mailchi.mp/ad1196350cb9/whyyoudothatthingyoudo

The Backfire Affect

Published January 2, 2020 by tindertender

“Allow yourself the uncomfortable luxury of changing your mind.” ~Maria Popova

“The Chief trick to making good mistakes is not to hide them ~ especially not from yourself.” ~Daniel Dennett

https://www.brainpickings.org/2014/05/13/backfire-effect-mcraney/

Dreaming … Wide Awake

Published December 31, 2019 by tindertender

A young, bearded, no mustached man came to me in the moments between waking and sleeping this morning.

He said time was short, and he wanted to sing me a song.

His face was sweet. His voice was sweet.

I rose to thank him, hug him.

I looked at the paper where the words to his song was written.

Two lines, before the one about me stood out.

They said, “I don’t give a fuck about Donald Trump, I dream of his wife …” then the part about me … whatever it was.

My focus cut out after reading these words.

Disturbing?

Yes.

The sweetness of the face, the sweetness of the song, do not match the words or intention.

Completely backwards.

A friend of mine said that these ones (for this is not my first experience) have been “cut off”.

Hoping it remains so.

I’m certain you are already, but please guard The First Lady well Mr. President Trump. As you know, this is much bigger than the ‘physical’.

Rising Out Of Shadows

Published December 31, 2019 by tindertender

The days of “making an example” of people in order to generate fear of, and power/control over others is coming to an end.

Soon, people will rise, not only caring about self, but they will be sharing the good, the benevolence they hold within them, with others.

All will be risen in this manner.

All will come home to Love in this way.

Embracing New ‘Form’ In The Formless

Published December 30, 2019 by tindertender

I’ve deleted Facebook, Minds and Twitter from my smartphone thinking social media a destructive activity.

Yet, sometimes, it just might be the necessary distraction we need … or is this idea only part of the wormhole I find myself in?

Partaking of the Earth in any manner, regarding foods and medicines grown, in no way insinuates ones life is for sale … or their spirit, or soul.

Creator (#1) gave us these things to sustain ourselves. Use of them is good, not to be harshly judged, unless it harms others, or self.

Life must be honored, all forms, all ways.

Past actions are the result of, sometimes, years of training by those in a corrupt world.

We now step out from this, into the New.

Vision blurred yet perfect still … is ‘alteration illusion’ present, or is it real?