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The World Wants To Be Written

Published November 7, 2021 by tindertender

You might have been taught that creativity is something you have to work hard to access, or that finding your life purpose is so difficult that you must search high and low for it. Yet what you are is within you and wants to come out at every available opportunity! You don’t have to struggle so much. It is more about allowing space for it to manifest and let the energy flow. The real struggle is not in finding something. It is more about letting go of the idea that you need to search for your path in the first place. You see, the process of activating your life path is a natural one. The effort is in getting out of the way, not in making something happen.

As for being yourself, that is the foundation from which your true life path will reveal itself. Being yourself becomes easier when you give yourself permission to love, honor and accept yourself in all circumstances, especially the ones where you might be more tempted to reject and judge. Give the sacred rebel within the opportunity to decide your values – irrespective of whether they meet with general social acceptance.

What you are dreaming of or seeking to do, create, live or manifest, is actually very natural for you. That is why you want to do it.

If you experienced controlling or manipulative forces as you were growing up, you could have found it hard to access your natural state at the time. You would have been too busy trying to adapt and get through the trials of childhood.

When you finished navigating childhood and started to let go of who you were taught to be in order to become who you really are, you may have found your life path was not easily accessible. That is simply because your true and natural self was covered by layers of shame from the early conditioning that you had to be other than you are in order to win love or be acceptable.

However, the natural self hasn’t gone anywhere. It is still there within you. Now it is just chipping away at the walls of shame, perhaps with a defiant, “Who the hell cares, I am here and I am going to love myself anyway.” This allows you to risk bearing the feeling of any shame that arises as you release old emotional wounds and break away from any restraints to unconditional self love. The scared rebel within can empower you to love yourself no matter what, simply because you want to. You might decide to declare, “I am still loveable – so put that in your pipe and smoke it!” This will send an energetic message to whoever shamed you in the first place, whether they meant to or not. You can be freed to realize that the shame is just an emotion, not a truth, and you can defy any hold it has ever had on you and your ability to love yourself.

You are now powerful enough to break the cycle. It is time to stop the shame and claim yourself with love instead.

What you want to write, sing, dance or become, is you. It is natural. Drop your defenses, get into the grit and confront the power that any old shaming has had over you. It’s finished now. It is time for you to be naked with yourself, acknowledge how gorgeous you are and get on with your work. What you want to create, wants to be created. The world wants to be written. You just need to let go of any remnants of the past that have been in your way. Step firmly over them and on to your path.

Healing process ::
Say aloud, “I now choose to forgive and release any person, situation or circumstance that has ever been a source of shame or shaming for me, whether conscious or unconscious. I now release this from my body, mind and heart, through unconditional love. I choose to claim myself instead. I love, accept and claim all of me under the loving protection and wisdom of life. I choose to live as myself. Now. I call on the unconditionally loving assistance that life wishes to send me for this journey now. I honor my creative power and my innate worth. So be it.”

Be kind to yourself. Say this every day for the next few days or however long it takes for you to believe it. You are worth the effort.

Sacred Rebels oracle, by Alana Fairchild

Choose Wisely

Published November 7, 2021 by tindertender

I once asked a very successful woman to share her secret with me. She smiled and said to me…

“I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights with small fighters.

I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me…

I stopped fighting with my in laws…

I stopped fighting for attention…

I stopped fighting to meet peoples expectation of me…

I stopped fighting for my rights with inconsiderate people…

I stopped fighting to please everyone…

I stopped fighting to prove they were wrong about me…

I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight…

And I started fighting for
my vision,
my dreams,
my ideas and
my destiny.

The day I gave up on small fights is the day I started becoming successful and so much more content.”

Some fights are not worth your time…..

Choose what you fight for wisely.

Affirmations ~ November 7, 2021

Published November 7, 2021 by tindertender

Neuroplasticity happens when connections are made across the neural network in our brain. Essentially, our brain creates super-highways that it travels quickly in response to outside stimuli. Thought patterns that are repeated often create massive highways that the thought travels on. The more the thought occurs, the more it will occur.

One of the most effective ways to reprogram the mind, to reformat the consciousness, is through using affirmative statements. I share with you examples that you may find helpful should you wish to use them to assist in reformatting the thinking mind.

Aurora Borealis
Frederic Edwin Church, 1865

I am surrounded by light. That which is helpful comes to me now.

The light of love flows though me now, manifesting beauty in my world. Fear does not hinder this flow.

My intention is pure, heart focused.

My success is assured, it comes swiftly.

I am not distracted by other possible paths. I flow with the path I am on.

I stay positive. I stay happy.

With every ending comes a new beginning. I trust that the positive energy I radiate will attract what I wish for.

I stand in my light.

I am proud of who I am.

There is more to life than what I can see.

My needs are equally important to the needs of others.

I release negative situations.

I am willing to see the truth.

I outwit old patterns.

I am not drawn in to the dramas of others.

I sit with my heart. I take my time.

I trust what I feel.

I truly listen when others speak, I hear what they say.

I take time to rest and recover during my growth.

I listen to my soul, there is great wisdom being shared with me.

I forgive myself and others.

Divine Discernment

Published November 7, 2021 by tindertender

To the one who can perfectly practice inaction, all things are possible. ~ Ernest Holmes

Step back to find clarity.

Take a breather and honor your yin (feminine) nature. This is not always so easy to do in a culture that honors and celebrates the yang (drive/strive mode), while turning its nose at the virtues of the yin qualities of flow and letting go. In yang mode we get things done. In yin mode we fill our tank and reflect on our larger vision and purpose, so when its time to move, we do so with precision. If we are to live in balance, we need both action and reflection. There are times to do and times for inaction. To know which mode is most appropriate, step back, and practice discernment.

Mantra ::
Divine discernment lets me know when to go, when to stop, and when to drop into the space in between.

Artwork by Rassouli

The Hero’s Journey dream oracle, by Kelly Sullivan Walden

Affirmations ~ November 6, 2021

Published November 6, 2021 by tindertender

Neuroplasticity happens when connections are made across the neural network in our brain. Essentially, our brain creates super-highways that it travels quickly in response to outside stimuli. Thought patterns that are repeated often create massive highways that the thought travels on. The more the thought occurs, the more it will occur.

One of the most effective ways to reprogram the mind, to reformat the consciousness, is through using affirmative statements. I share with you examples that you may find helpful should you wish to use them to assist in reformatting the thinking mind.

I ‘unhide’ myself.

My life is shifting and I move into a new field of consciousness.

I trust in the love of my heart.

I trust in my instincts.

I trust in the flow of life.

Light dwells within me.

I let go of judgement.

I accept my divinity.

I am unstoppable.

I cast off the works of anyone who seeks to torment me.

I move into balance, into harmony.

I utilize the intuitive approach.

I do what feels truthful.

I do not make myself small in the attempt to make others more comfortable.

I step out of fear and live more freely.

I let nature take its course.

The ancestors are supporting me and blessing me for all the time invested in spiritual healing.

I utilize the protective qualities of water in ritual bathing.

I call on the guides and ancestors to bring me protection.

I surround myself with positive people who make me feel safe.

I have been hurt and disrespected by others. I do not allow that hurt to consume me. I let it go.

I concentrate on the positive, not the negative.

Perspective View of the Visible Creation
Thomas Wright, 1750

Armor of Love

Published November 5, 2021 by tindertender

“Do you love Me?” Alice asked.

“No, I don’t love you!” replied the White Rabbit.

Alice frowned and clasped her hands together as she did whenever she felt hurt.

“See?” replied the White Rabbit. “Now you’re going to start asking yourself what makes you so imperfect and what did you do wrong so that I can’t love you at least a little.

You know, that’s why I can’t love you. You will not always be loved Alice, there will be days when others will be tired and bored with life, will have their heads in the clouds, and will hurt you.

Because people are like that, they somehow always end up hurting each other’s feelings, whether through carelessness, misunderstanding, or conflicts with themselves.

If you don’t love yourself, at least a little, if you don’t create an armor of self-love and happiness around your heart, the feeble annoyances caused by others will become lethal and will destroy you.

The first time I saw you I made a pact with myself: ‘I will avoid loving you until you learn to love yourself.’ “

~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Affirmations ~ November 5, 2021

Published November 5, 2021 by tindertender

Neuroplasticity happens when connections are made across the neural network in our brain. Essentially, our brain creates super-highways that it travels quickly in response to outside stimuli. Thought patterns that are repeated often create massive highways that the thought travels on. The more the thought occurs, the more it will occur.

One of the most effective ways to reprogram the mind, to reformat the consciousness, is through using affirmative statements. I share with you examples that you may find helpful should you wish to use them to assist in reformatting the thinking mind.

I surrender in my process with trust.

I have committed to this process. My wildest dreams will soon come true.

I remain patient and hopeful.

I align with the universal heartbeat.

I listen to my own heartbeat.

I am passionate for this life.

I allow myself to feel.

My mind serves the truths of my heart.

My innermost self knows what to do and knows what is true. It does not matter if my mind agrees.

I trust my heart.

I rebel against fear.

I let my heart lead me.

My mind surrenders to my heart.

I let go of the old way of doing things.

I relax and allow trust to be reborn in me.

I embrace this moment.

Greater Love is unfolding for me now.

I no longer need to hide my true self.

I trust my intuition.

I move through this world in the most authentic way possible.

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The Perfection of Life

Published November 5, 2021 by tindertender

Have you ever seen a storm pictured from above? It can appear to be so beautiful and elegant. This is certainly different to the ground view which can be quite a violent experience. So too, there is great beauty in your life now. However, at this point in the natural process, you may be experiencing it as anxiety-inducing rather than beautiful. You may sense it as internal chaos. You may feel it as something that is waiting to erupt from within, as a restless anxiety that you cannot quite articulate but sense vaguely nonetheless.

Whether the chaos seems subtle, strong, internal or external, know that all is unfolding according to a perfect higher order. You are currently enduring a cosmic, spiritual storm which is having an impact on you. It is clearing things out, preparing you for that lovely, super-fresh, uplifting feeling that one experiences after the storm has finally passed.

If you cannot believe there is anything happening – even at a subtle level – because you feel stuck, denied, bored, thwarted or stale, no matter what appears to be, in truth there is only the unfolding, creative genius of the universe. You are not forgotten. You have not been looked over. You have not been denied, found wanting or rejected as unworthy.

The storm that needs to erupt is in your own heart. Do your liberating rain dance! Rage, weep, pray, dance, paint or sing. Express whatever is needed, however it is needed, to exorcise the blocked energy in your heart. Then you will call on the powerful perfection of your life path, as it aligns for the next creative turn of the spiral of life.

Mantra ::
I give thanks for the higher order of my life, which I trust implicitly, as it guides me into wholeness and love. From what appears as chaos, new order is rising. I trust this and receive the gift of higher order in my life now. Through grace and mercy, so be it!

Sacred Rebels oracle, by Alana Fairchild

Beyond the Mind, the Heart Beats

Published November 4, 2021 by tindertender

In the chaos of modern life and the constant fluctuations of our minds, it can be difficult to remember that a sublime sanctuary lies within. Yet it is always there. Beneath the ceaseless activity, there is an endless, vast spaciousness that restores and connects us to something greater – something that exists outside of time.

Universal love inspires, energizes and moves us to create – even beyond what we once thought was possible. Your love for life, the need to feel alive and express yourself, and the quest for that which is truly fulfilling … these are the sacred urges that rebel against fear and promote passion for being alive, they flow through your blood and can be felt through the beating of your heart.

There is the way of the mind – which can make mountains out of molehills even when it thinks it is turning mountains into molehills! Then there is the way of the heart. It is subterranean and moves subtly beneath possible obstacles, intelligently shifting with exquisite sensitivity, sensing the way forward, through dangerous pathways and responding to what is before it even occurs in the physical world. However, with the hearts intelligence we cannot see and know in the same way that we do when we allow the mind to direct us. We have to open to another way if we want to benefit from the innate intelligence of the heart.

The mind sees, plans, strategizes. The heart feels, responds, senses and intuits. When we walk the path of the heart, we must feel and respond rather than plan our way. It is a different way to live and create. It is closer to the earth and to the source of life itself. It is not for those who are lacking courage and trust, but you are not one of those! Trust your heart, and drop into it. The mind is important, but it cannot supplant the heart.

Deep within, you know what to do and you know what is true. It matters not whether the mind and its plans seem to agree with your inner sense. Your willingness to trust your heart and to rebel against fear will serve you well. Let your heart lead you. Be sure of your faith and trust in what you feel.

Your head and heart have been in conflict at times over the course of your life. This has brought you struggle and, sometimes, deep suffering. A truce will soon be declared and the appropriate outcome – of the mind waving the white flag in surrender – is imminent. Soon, if not already, you will finally be feeling that your heart is leading you. You will feel that your mind is learning to follow the guidance of your heart, rather than trying to be out front. What a relief to let go of this old way! Your mind can become more relaxed and trusting. There will be a period of adjustment, as you get used to living without so much foresight, but with more insight, wisdom and energy in the present moment to create.

If you are finding that you cannot plan or strategize as you once did, or you feel that you know less than you have ever known about where you are heading or how you are supposed to get there, know that these are healthy signs of a shift from the head to the heart. You are not proceeding in error. You are exactly where you are meant to be, doing exactly what you are meant to be doing. You are now in a position that is more powerful than ever, because you are allowing yourself to be guided by your heart – a heart that beats in harmony with the heart of all existence. Your affairs are in accord with love and no matter what may appear at times, all is unfolding according to that greater love.

Sacred Rebels Oracle, by Alana Fairchild

Affirmations ~ November 4, 2021

Published November 4, 2021 by tindertender

Neuroplasticity happens when connections are made across the neural network in our brain. Essentially, our brain creates super-highways that it travels quickly in response to outside stimuli. Thought patterns that are repeated often create massive highways that the thought travels on. The more the thought occurs, the more it will occur.

One of the most effective ways to reprogram the mind, to reformat the consciousness, is through using affirmative statements. I share with you examples that you may find helpful should you wish to use them to assist in reformatting the thinking mind.

I am committed to my growth.

My success is meant to be.

I let go of limited thinking.

I am open, and receptive to a bold life.

I invite what I wish for to come into the space I have provided for it.

I surrender my forcefulness, even for just this moment.

I allow what I want to come to me.

I relax.

I have faith that what I wish for will soon be here.

I feel the energy I wish to attract.

I embrace the power of magnetism.

Faith is enough.

I have many friends and supporters in the unseen.

My willpower gains supply by the power of life itself.

I accept my position in this life.

I am protected.

I am imbued with an inner knowing.

I receive assistance along my path, even while it seems I am alone.

There is something grander than I am able to imagine happening now.

“And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare
feet and the winds long to play with your hair.” ~ Kahlil Gibran

A forest fairy wanders through the forest with a white owl. Gyana is a mythical creature in a green dress.
Artistic Photography, Public Domain