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The sign read, “DADDY’S FUNERAL – NEED SCARY MEN”

Published August 18, 2025 by tindertender

The little boy came to our table of leather-clad bikers and slammed down a paper that said “DADDY’S FUNERAL – NEED SCARY MEN.”

His tiny fingers were still stained with marker ink, and his Superman cape was on backwards. The diner went dead silent as fifteen members of the Iron Wolves MC stared at this kid who couldn’t have weighed forty pounds soaking wet.

“My mom said I can’t ask you,” he announced, his chin jutting out defiantly. “But she’s crying all the time and the mean boys at school said daddy won’t go to heaven without scary men to protect him.”

Big Tom, who’d done two tours in Afghanistan and had a skull tattooed on his neck, carefully picked up the paper. It was a child’s drawing of stick figures on motorcycles surrounding a coffin, with “PLEASE COME” written in backwards letters.

“Where’s your mom, little man?” Tom asked, his voice a low rumble that usually preceded a fight, but was now impossibly gentle.
The boy pointed through the window to a beat-up Toyota where a young woman sat with her head in her hands. “She’s scared of you. Everyone’s scared of you. That’s why I need you.”

I’d seen Tom break a man’s jaw for disrespecting his bike. But his hands shook as he read what else was on that paper – a date, tomorrow, and an address for Riverside Cemetery.

“What was your daddy’s name?” someone asked from the back.
“Officer Marcus Rivera,” the boy said proudly. “He was a police. A bad man shot him.”

The silence in the diner got heavier, thick enough to choke on. Cops and bikers weren’t exactly natural allies. Most of us had been hassled, profiled, some even beaten by police. And now this cop’s kid was asking us to honor his fallen father.

Tom stood up slowly, his towering frame casting a shadow over the small table. “What’s your name, superman?”

“Miguel. Miguel Rivera.”

“Well, Miguel Rivera,” Tom said, kneeling down so he was eye to eye with the boy, a giant meeting a sparrow. “You tell your mom that your daddy’s going to have the biggest, loudest, scariest escort to heaven any police officer ever had.”

The boy’s eyes went wide. “Really? You’ll come?”

“Brother,” Snake spoke up from the corner, and I could hear the conflict in his voice. “He was a cop.”

“He was a father,” Tom said firmly, his gaze never leaving Miguel’s. “And this little warrior just did the bravest thing I’ve seen all year. We ride.”

The next morning, I arrived at the cemetery two hours early. I thought I’d be the only one, a chance to get my head right before the awkwardness and the stares. But then my jaw dropped.

The narrow road leading to the cemetery entrance was already lined with bikes. Not just the fifteen of us from the diner, but our entire chapter. Forty men, standing quietly by their polished Harleys, the morning sun glinting off the chrome. But that wasn’t what stopped my heart. Further down the road, another group was pulling in. The Vipers. Our bitter rivals. And behind them, the Sons of Odin. Word had gotten out. A call had been made for scary men, and the entire goddamn scary underworld had answered.

When the funeral procession finally arrived, the hearse slowed to a stop. I saw Miguel in the car behind it, his small face pressed against the glass. His mother looked up, and her hand flew to her mouth, her expression of fear melting into stunned disbelief.

There were over a hundred of us. A silent army of leather and steel.

At some unseen signal from Tom, a hundred engines roared to life at the exact same instant. The sound was biblical. It wasn’t angry or aggressive; it was a deep, thundering proclamation. We are here. We formed a double line, a guard of honor for the hearse and the family, and escorted them through the gates.
At the graveside, a small group of uniformed officers stood stiffly, their honor guard looking tense as we dismounted. They watched us, we watched them. But there was no trouble. We formed a wide, silent circle around the service, our backs to the family, facing outward. We were a wall, protecting their grief from the world.

After the service, as the last of the mourners were leaving, the police chief walked over to Big Tom. He was a hard-looking man I’d seen on the news a dozen times. He stopped, looked at Tom, then at the sea of bikers standing in silent respect.

“I… I don’t have the words,” the chief said, his voice rough. “Officer Rivera was a good man.”

Tom just gave a short, sharp nod. “He had a good son.”

That’s when I saw Miguel, holding his mother’s hand, walking purposefully toward us. He stopped in front of Tom, who immediately knelt down again. Miguel wasn’t wearing his cape anymore. He was holding the folded American flag from his father’s coffin.

He held it out. “This is for you,” he said, his voice clear and steady.

Tom gently pushed it back. “No, little man. That’s yours. That’s your daddy’s.”

“My daddy was a hero,” Miguel said, pushing the flag firmly into Tom’s huge, tattooed hand. “He protected people. And today, you protected him.”

Tom stared at the flag in his hand, his jaw working, his whole body trembling. The man I’d seen walk through a bar fight without flinching was completely undone by a forty-pound superhero. He couldn’t speak. He just nodded, his eyes shining with tears he refused to let fall.

We didn’t ride away with a roar. We left one by one, a quiet rumble that spoke of a respect that went deeper than clubs or colors or the badges on a uniform.

We had come because a little boy asked for scary men. But we left knowing we’d just met the bravest one of all.

Enter My House With Respect

Published January 4, 2025 by tindertender

Not to say the one within you IS you …

Translation of the text written at the Entrance to the Temple of the Egyptian Goddess Sekhmet, Karnak Temple

I only ask you to enter my house with respect. To serve you I do not need your devotion, but your sincerity. Neither your beliefs, but your thirst for knowledge. Enter with your vices, your fears and your hatreds from the greatest to the smaller ones, I can help you dissolve them.

You can look at me and love me as a female, as a mother, as a daughter, as a sister, as a friend, but never look at me as an authority above yourself. If the devotion you have for any god, It is greater than the one you have for the God that is within you, you offend them both and you offend the one👌

HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF

Published January 12, 2023 by tindertender

(1) Stop looking for who is not looking for you.

(2) Stop begging.

(3) Stop saying more than is necessary.

(4) When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.

(5) Don’t eat other people’s food more than they eat yours.

(6) Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don’t reciprocate it.

(7) Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy.

(😎 Stop entertaining gossip about other people.

(9) Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.

(10) Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.

(11) Be an achiever. Get busy with your goals.

(12) Respect your time.

(13) Don’t stay in a relationship where you don’t feel respected and valued. Walk away.

(14) Learn to spend money on yourself. That’s how people will learn to spend on you.

(15) Be scarce sometimes.

(16) Be a giver more than a receiver.

(17) Don’t go where you are not invited. And when invited don’t overstay your welcome.

(18) Treat people exactly the way they deserve.

(19) Except they owe you money, two call attempts is enough. If they value you they will call you back.

(20) Be good at what you do.

~ Author Unknown

Authenticity

Published August 1, 2020 by tindertender

Embracing who we are as individuals is a difficult task.

Through life many of us were neglected, and when we did receive attention, it may have been negative.

Growing up we may have developed the idea that somehow we were not worthy of love, or respect. Perhaps we entered the adult world and picked up where others left off and became our own worst enemy, abusing self, and allowing others to do the same.

Once we begin to cultivate self-love, and self-respect, denying others the right to harm us in words or deeds, we can never go back, no matter how minor the offense.

Others may try to tell you your “words” are not acceptable, that the way you express your thought is not sufficient, or lacking in some way.

It never fails … they will always be there, waiting to try and mold you into their preferred version of you.

Ppfffftt ….

Once we get to a certain point, it cannot be tolerated, not even in the slightest.

Embrace your authenticity. If it “rubs” people wrong, the issue is with them, not you ….

Of course, to be understood and have your ideas and perspectives accepted or at least pondered on by others, a certain tact must be used in the verbiage chosen.

I’m still working on tact.

And while I appreciate, and am grateful for suggestions, a cold, and seemingly superior ‘instruction’ as to my BE-ing will always be rejected.

No one usurps my will …. no one …. not any longer.

May you embrace your authentic self in a fierce manner which leaves no room for manipulation by others.

Respect …. when you have it for self, you tend to demand it from others.

And if they are not capable, if they insist on looking down their nose in a superior fashion … Let. Them. Go.