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Self-Love or Lack Therein

Published October 19, 2020 by tindertender

I’ve come to the realization that the things and people in my life are there because I chose them, or allowed them to be.

I’ve also realized that I have been ‘settling’ … I’ve been settling for a shitty situation when beauty is right out in front of me, and I see it while others enjoy it. I hold myself back from it, while putting another before myself.

I’ve somehow convinced myself that by catering to another’s needs that I’m being caring and kind … when in actuality, I’ve become an enabler for one who cannot, or will not, take care of their own problems and needs.

When expressing my thoughts about this I was asked, “So, your problems are my problems?”

What a lovely and transparent thing to say. Now I am free from making their problems my problems any further.

Now, I come to the point of creating my future. I can tell you, it does not look like this.

Self love requires me to put myself first in the coming days, especially with this realization of how little my efforts to ensure the comfort and needs of another being met have been valued so very little.

I will not settle for this crappy situation in my future.

It is only I who can change it, by making new and different choices.

Self-love …

One cannot possibly love another sufficiently if one cannot even love themselves properly.

I write about this for the simple act of visually reading and acknowledging my own situation, and for convincing myself it is time to be a little bitchy … I’m no stepping stool.

I Am Enough

Published August 28, 2020 by tindertender

I see myself in joy and love
I know myself
I am enough

Authenticity

Published August 1, 2020 by tindertender

Embracing who we are as individuals is a difficult task.

Through life many of us were neglected, and when we did receive attention, it may have been negative.

Growing up we may have developed the idea that somehow we were not worthy of love, or respect. Perhaps we entered the adult world and picked up where others left off and became our own worst enemy, abusing self, and allowing others to do the same.

Once we begin to cultivate self-love, and self-respect, denying others the right to harm us in words or deeds, we can never go back, no matter how minor the offense.

Others may try to tell you your “words” are not acceptable, that the way you express your thought is not sufficient, or lacking in some way.

It never fails … they will always be there, waiting to try and mold you into their preferred version of you.

Ppfffftt ….

Once we get to a certain point, it cannot be tolerated, not even in the slightest.

Embrace your authenticity. If it “rubs” people wrong, the issue is with them, not you ….

Of course, to be understood and have your ideas and perspectives accepted or at least pondered on by others, a certain tact must be used in the verbiage chosen.

I’m still working on tact.

And while I appreciate, and am grateful for suggestions, a cold, and seemingly superior ‘instruction’ as to my BE-ing will always be rejected.

No one usurps my will …. no one …. not any longer.

May you embrace your authentic self in a fierce manner which leaves no room for manipulation by others.

Respect …. when you have it for self, you tend to demand it from others.

And if they are not capable, if they insist on looking down their nose in a superior fashion … Let. Them. Go.

Show Up For Yourself

Published June 30, 2020 by tindertender

I do it every day.

Sometimes I dance with myself, sing to myself, have play dates with myself, fall in love all over again with myself.

I have debates (of course I always win too!)

Mostly, I just sit with myself and think you’re the most loyal, best friend I’ve ever had!

And then I remember,

I’m never alone!

Written by Alicia Tarin

Is there a Self?

Published May 11, 2020 by tindertender
Photo: https://unsplash.com/@cy_entertainment

The mysterious “Over-self”?

The point where the intellect is transmuted into intuition = The Realm of Illumination.

To save the world is the Path of Salvation.

Dedicated service is the Hallmark of a Revealed Soul.

Alice A. Bailey, Forward in “The Secret Path” by Paul Brunton