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We Are All Wounded

Published March 28, 2025 by tindertender

We are all wounded,
bearing invisible scars that lie deep within our souls—
where no light dares to reach.
We move through life with hearts stitched together
by trembling hands and whispered hopes,
praying that no one looks too closely.
The world teaches us to wear masks,
to force a smile when it hurts,
to cover our cracks and pretend we are whole.

But the truth is, we are all broken—
each of us carrying untold stories
we’re too scared to share.
The mother who sheds silent tears
long after her children have drifted to sleep.
The man who laughs the loudest,
masking an emptiness that echoes through the night.
The friend who always says, “I’m fine,”
because she knows that no one truly asks twice.

We bleed differently.
Some wounds are fresh—
still raw and aching to the touch.
Others have formed fragile scabs,
but the pain lingers like a ghost,
haunting us when we press too hard.
And some are buried so deep
we’ve convinced ourselves they don’t exist—
until something unexpected tears them open again.

Maybe it was betrayal that shattered you.
Maybe it was the love you poured out
that was never returned.
Maybe it was the dream you chased
only to be left with empty hands.
Or the person you lost too soon—
a void that time has failed to fill.
Maybe it was the harsh words you endured as a child,
or the deafening silence when you needed comfort most.

But listen, love—
your wounds do not make you weak.
They make you human.
They are proof of a life fiercely lived,
of battles fought with a heart brave enough to feel.
Your pain is a testament to your strength,
to the resilience of a soul
that refuses to give up.

And though we are all wounded,
we are also healers—
carrying soft words in our hearts,
offering comfort through unspoken understanding.
We mend each other with kind gestures,
with the warmth of a gentle touch,
with a reminder whispered in the quiet—
“You’re not alone.”
That is how we begin to heal.

So do not hide your wounds.
Do not pretend they are invisible.
Let them breathe—
let them teach you tenderness,
reminding you that every soul you meet
is fighting a battle unseen.

We are all wounded,
but we are also unbreakable.
We may stumble, but we rise again.
We may break, but we rebuild—
stronger, wiser, and braver than before.
Our scars are stories—
not just of pain and loss
but of courage and survival.

So if you feel broken today,
know this, my love—
you are not alone.
You belong to a world of souls
who wear their cracks with grace,
shining light through their brokenness.
And that—
that is what makes us beautifully,
irrevocably human.

Pain Journey

Published May 4, 2023 by tindertender

Don’t ever wish for another’s pain in their heart to go away. Don’t try to fix or remove it, or hurry it away. Don’t wish for them to be just happy, over it; okay.

For this pain holds essential truth for them. It holds the very seeds of the healing their soul needs, even if they don’t consciously know that themselves. At some deep unfathomable level, in a place that’s unseen and unknown, a quiet wisdom is working away, sowing the necessary seedlings for that person’s soul’s next steps. Their pain IS the essential soil of that healing. So to wish it away or gone or over already, is to stop growth in its tracks.

Everyone’s soul works on its own time. It must never be hurried or denied. Honouring this simple yet profound truth is the best type of support you can give to someone in pain. To be a solid yet soft presence in their life, holding consistent attention and love for them, is the most “doing” you ever need to offer them as they journey forward at their own pace and in their own way.

~ Angela Dunning Facebook.com/restoringthesacredfeminine

Artwork by Carol Spicuzza

Fate and Destiny

Published December 15, 2020 by tindertender

“Everyone experiences pain and most suffer from patterns that continue to make life miserable unless something or someone intervenes. The pain we feel comes from the cross-wise energies that keep curving back and cancelling the wise self and the good word that wait to be expressed from within us. Persistent pain is usually the indication that we have become trapped in a life too small for our true nature. That is the usual human fate and the common predicament where the little-self obscures the greater nature behind it. Until people realize what harms them and limits them from within, they are unlikely to call out for someone to help stop the pain. The remedy may be nearby, but until the pain becomes unbearable most remain caught in the agony of one form or another of self-inflicted wounds. As Rumi said, ‘The cure for the pain is in the pain.’”

– Michael Meade, “Fate and Destiny”
https://www.mosaicvoices.org/

Photo by Carey Nash

Pain Transmutation

Published May 6, 2020 by tindertender

My longest known friend of 30 years and I have history … a lot of history.

Yesterday, I unleashed on him. Something he wanted to talk about, kept putting it in my face, triggered a memory of pain from our past, and I lit into him. And I left, pissed.

Later, I called and came back by for a conversation.

You see, it is not his fault I carry pain. Sure, he participated in circumstances, but it is I who have yet to heal my trauma, learning how to love me, more completely.

I realized, that while I speak frequently about the “blame game” and how it does no one any good, I actually hopped on board the blame train yesterday, and I felt as tho I failed myself, and my friend.

The time to have these conversations was at least 20 years ago.

It is not my intention to cause suffering for a man who is in his final years. As I mentioned, the time for these conversations was a long time ago, and I chose not to have them then. The time for talking of the past is gone.

The time for healing trauma from the past is now. Without pointing fingers and taking the easy way out, by offloading pain into another being …. human or animal.

Too many people choose to put their pain onto another life form, regardless of their lack of participation in the original offense.

We must learn to transmute our pain, NOT spew it into the world, exacerbating and intensifying the pain already in the world. No, transmutation is the only way.

How to do this?

I cannot say for certain.

Yesterday I drove into the forest. I veered onto a road which turned off the main highway and I followed it for awhile. There were no vehicles or people there.

I pulled over to the side of the road and got my folding chair out of the car and had a seat. I began to pray.

Now, I’m not a regular praying type of gal. When young, my Prayer was done in song, and talk, into the seemingly empty forest. This is where I found myself once again. And so I began speaking.

I spoke of my feelings and how I am aware that blaming others for our pain is unacceptable. I asked earnestly to be shown how to transmute my pain so I did not leak it into the world. I prayed for a better understanding, so I could stop making assumptions based on a skewed perspective.

I asked for release, so I could offer it to my friend.

I choose to remain in love. And it isn’t always easy.

Looking for ways, asking for spiritual assistance, to shift perspective, clean up past emotional trauma, and move forward in a clean state of being, a state which only increases love with each encounter, rather than leaving behind anything that might cause doubt, anxiety, or any form of negative thought patterns in those I encounter.

https://medium.com/@paintopower7/transmuting-pain-into-power-f823087d1fe. According to Nicola, here are a few steps toward inner alchemy.

1) Face it Feel it. The first step of transmuting pain into power is to allow yourself to feel your emotions.

2) Pick up your jewels. The second step of transmuting the pain into power is recognizing that no experience should be left on the ground.

3) Don’t sit on it, share it. The final step in transmuting pain into power in my humble opinion is to share the lesson of it.

https://intuitiveartists.org/blog-posts/category/the-art-of-transmuting-pain. According to Jan, Emotional and even physical pain is the way our bodies (and hearts) tell us, “Pay attention to me. See me and understand me. Witness me and get curious about why I showed up here, and then I can be on my way.” It’s really only when we keep denying it or believing we’re truly oppressed by the pain that it shows up over and over again to teach us differently.

https://www.paintransmutation.com/. This site offers courses in transmutation. Healing from pain, trauma, sadness and energetic imbalance is a conscious choice. You have to decide that you deserve to live and feel free from pain and follow that decision through.

Will you transmute pain, sorrow, fear, loneliness and trauma with Soul Alchemy and love?
Will you break the karmic cycle with your awareness?
Will you accept your sacred path, and become what you are and always have been?
A fierce vessel of healing!
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Pain can be our gift, or it can be our ruin.