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Taught to Submit

Published January 23, 2020 by tindertender

Written by Maria Palumbo: https://www.facebook.com/maria.palumbo.loves; https://mariapalumbo.com/

In the 1950s women were trained to submit to the man. It was very enticing.

“Wear the dress. Wear the pearls. Cook a good stew. Smile. Be a good girl. You will have everything you could ever dream of.”

How to curate their entire essence, so it was feminine, alluring, charming. So the man would want them.

Things have not changed much in spiritual circles teaching divine and masculine unity.

“Submit. Give in. Stop whining. You’re emasculating. Stop complaining. Be grateful. You’re lucky he wants you at all, you pathetic sweet creature.”

I am disturbed over what is being taught to women and digested by the masses, regarding divine feminine and masculine power and empowerment.

It involves two things:

  1. Deny self in order to attract The One
  2. Know true joy from being chosen by a “King”

It is ALL very enticing. Especially for those of us who have been traumatized.

For trauma teaches us to NOT THINK for ourselves and WE ARE MAKING IT ALL UP in our head. The outcome of trauma can make us confused, question our needs/desires/and boundaries, and this is exactly what these teachings are encouraging:

“Let HIM decide how you feel. In fact, if you feel uncomfortable or even hatred, YOU are confused and misunderstanding him. And that is why you are alone.”

They are teaching, “Do not THINK, do not question, do not despise any treatment. Just open wider to let him in. If it hurts, it is your problem.”

And once you do, once you finally crack the feminine code of being in FULL SUBMISSION to the masculine, you will be loved, held, seen, desired, in every way you could possibly imagine.

Every day sparkling with a prince that will save you.

I wish it was that easy.

I wish that opening further, responding in love, could actually magically transform someone.

But it doesn’t.

The wounded child in me can fall prey to that mindset. She is susceptible to thinking she needs to work harder, keep trying, putting in more work, when it BLOODY HURTS. For that is exactly what Daddy told her: “If only you were a little better sweetheart, I wouldn’t get so angry.”

My inner child WOULD LOVE to be saved. Would love the fact that disappearing herself and giving herself over to the masculine, would result in true love. To be chosen finally. For someone to come along and make it all make sense. She thinks if she tries harder, loves a little more, she can subdue the darkness in the man she loves.

But she cannot.

And to teach women to not be discerning with their submission, but to JUST SUBMIT, is not only dangerous, but traumatizing a generation of women. It is using the toxic voice of the unhealed father, to control and create harm.

What these teachings are missing is CONSENT from the feminine and also discernment about WHAT they are consenting to. Using flowerly psuedo spiritual language, only confuses further.

And my fellow community members, we are INCREDIBLY susceptible to leaning towards teachings that re-traumatize, while calling it “power.” Because many of us have experienced trauma, we need to be:

  • EXAMINING allegiances in relationship, in friendship, in business, and beyond, instead of quietly going along with “spiritual” gratefulness
  • HEALING instead of taking another pill of submission and bypassing our healing and letting someone control us
  • HIRING trauma and relationship specialists with healthy relationships, instead of guru-like leaders with little street cred when it comes to healthy relationship
  • SPEAKING OUT against toxic masculinity by looking at ways to heal it through the male, female and non gender lens, instead of making it an issue of women JUDGING or condemning men

And ultimately, stop buying into the idea that The One will make life worthwhile. That there is A One who is created for you and his every move will make you feel like the woman you were meant to be.

For there is no such thing.

To letting go of the toxic dream of being saved and to doing the healing to wake up in bed with someone with bad breath and endless tenderness for you.

https://mailchi.mp/d4e4301dfa32/your-wound-is-sexy?fbclid=IwAR3CN1Uvy7VRsCC5tFF3hZ7XDAeqNG2nLPX8QMuqsH3w4ejjmxj6snfFCcI

January 17, 2020

Published January 17, 2020 by tindertender

And it snowed last night.

They wonder … what is she doing?

Sometimes one simply needs to step back and away. Or do they ever truly create separation … it could be only an illusion.

The earths climate has been purposefully thrown off to create the illusion of prophecy come true. It’s a farce. The plants know it. This weather is unnatural.

Dominators’ Catch 22

Published January 13, 2020 by tindertender

Don’t believe known liars! They’re so desperate for any kind of attention (just to keep relevant) that they’ll stoop to any level of deception and making up their opponent in order to convince themselves they’ve won.

Such is below you.

And if they can’t communicate effectively or without becoming violent (lack of self control, discipline, emotional intelligence), then one will often fall into a trap whereby the tactic is to get people to play along debating nonsense in a derogatory manner.

This was used as a mind control strategy, for many years, covertly. Now we are seeing it center stage.

The careless nature and lack of emotional control or clarity is related to the repeated use of one’s mind for the purpose of dominating others through disruption, deception and degradation. They, themselves, become victim to their own entropic thinking and feeling.

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Major Mental Health Issues On The Rise

Published January 13, 2020 by tindertender

https://stillnessinthestorm.com/2019/05/designer-nanobots-changing-humanity/

It is these nanobots (above article) Elon musk is using to integrate the human mind to AI

What is smaller than a breadbox and can carry 8,000 times its weight? If you guessed an ant, think smaller. Nanobots are so small they function on the same level as viruses and bacteria. A nano is a millionth of a millimeter, or 40,000 times smaller than the thickness of human hair.

Neuralink. https://qz.com/1671286/elon-musks-neuralink-is-trying-to-put-an-ai-chip-into-your-brain/ These ‘chips’ are in the atmosphere, sprayed via aerosol, the same ones people refuse to see overhead.

September 2018 ~ “I think we’ll have something interesting to announce in a few months … that’s better than anyone thinks is possible,” the Tesla CEO said on “Joe Rogan Experience.” “Best case scenario, we effectively merge with AI.” https://www.cnbc.com/2018/09/07/elon-musk-discusses-neurolink-on-joe-rogan-podcast.html

Mental health issues increased significantly in young adults over last decade.

It’s no surprise really.

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/03/190315110908.htm

March 15, 2019

The rate of individuals reporting symptoms consistent with major depression in the last 12 months increased 52 percent in adolescents from 2005 to 2017 (from 8.7 percent to 13.2 percent) and 63 percent in young adults age 18 to 25 from 2009 to 2017 (from 8.1 percent to 13.2 percent). There was also a 71 percent increase in young adults experiencing serious psychological distress in the previous 30 days from 2008 to 2017 (from 7.7 percent to 13.1 percent). The rate of young adults with suicidal thoughts or other suicide-related outcomes increased 47 percent from 2008 to 2017 (from 7.0 percent to 10.3 percent).

It doesn’t help that 5G is activating certain scenarios. It will get much worse before it gets better, for many (if not ALL) governments and their actions, or flat out lies, appear to be on the payroll.

https://pfcleadership.org/blog/2019/04/30/20000-satellites-for-5g-will-send-focused-beams-of-intense-microwave-radiation-over-entire-earth/

In local urban communities there would be a cell tower approximately every 500 feet along every street.

As bad as these small cell towers might seem from the standpoint of constant exposure to radio frequency (RF) radiation in close proximity to the source, perhaps an even more alarming prospect will be the beaming of millimeter length microwaves at the earth from thousands of new communication satellites.

The FCC gave approval to SpaceX on March 29, 2018, to launch 4,425 satellites into low orbit around the Earth.

The total number of satellites that is expected to be put into low and high orbit by several companies will be 20,000 satellites.