All posts tagged Intimacy

What Doest Thou Know Of Love?

Published November 23, 2020 by tindertender

Green is the color of the heart chakra, symbolizing love to others, forgiveness, compassion, understanding, transformation, warmth, sharing, sincerity and devotion. As with all colors, green brings forth some negative connotations.

Red is the color of extremes. It’s the color of passionate love, seduction, violence, danger, anger, and adventure. Our prehistoric ancestors saw red as the color of fire and bloodenergy and primal life forces – and most of red’s symbolism today arises from its powerful associations in the past.

Everyone is so focused on passion, sexuality, and physical togetherness they’ve completely left out of the equation the most important color aspect for love … that which holds it all together even when sex is absent.

Green is the color of life, renewal, nature, and energy, it is associated with meanings of growth, harmony, freshness, safety, fertility, and environment.

The Green Love always precedes the Red love, it is the first love.

Many have forgotten the first love and have favored skipping steps, taking shortcuts, and they wonder why love more often than not fails in relationships.

Walking hand in hand along a brushy trail, speaking softly to each other about that which makes the heart warm. Picnicking while surrounded by long beautiful grasses.

Searching for berries and mushrooms, getting lost and finding your way to the river through the trees, together.

Sun warm upon your faces … a flush begins to build … in the heart, on the cheeks, on the lips.

Do not forsake the first love …

This is where the base is laid …

The foundation.

Green is the precursor, if love cannot be found in this green stage, when knowing each other is new an fresh, then the red stage ought not even be considered.


Please Love Yourself

Published September 8, 2020 by tindertender

I am so very tired of this traveling shame show. I can’t take it any longer. It’s ridiculous.

So many of us wandering around not happy with who we are, not comfortable in our own skin, swearing we will finally celebrate our lives when we finally do that one next thing.

When does it end?

It ends when we end it. It ends when we clear the emotional debris and try a self-celebratory way of being on for size. Not when someone’s love for us hands us back our self-worth, but when we decide to on our own terms.

Many of us go through our whole lives not loving ourselves for one minute. This has to stop. Lets stop it. Lets practice self-love. A little more every day.

Please love yourself.

You are SO divine.

There Is Always A Choice

Published June 8, 2020 by tindertender

There is always a choice

Right before you hit an org8smic state

You can lean in, open, accept, surrender, trust

Or you can push it away, shut down, close, limit

No one tells you that the way to org8sm is actually LEANING INTO what is alive right now








Turn on


True pleasure is making space for what IS and then seeing what is underneath that

then underneath that

And feeling the shell crack of the walls we hold up

to protect ourselves from ourselves

to protect ourselves from the other

to protect ourselves from love.

There is always a choice in every relationship

To lean in, speak up

Or to lie, shut down, start again somewhere else

As if somewhere else we will be different, as if we won’t find ourselves excactly the same.

Feeling the same things eventually.

Every relationship will remind us of the abuser

The things we hate

The things that make our skin crawl making us feeling like we want OUT QUICK.

Just like before every org8sm you might feel like you could die

Like you could lose everything and not know what to do with yourself

at the end of this

Every good relationship will bring up the same thing.

Do you lean in or shut down and hide/defend/go numb?

I suggest you lean in.

Woman on fire is a growing family of women across the world holding eachother as we fall in love with what is alive right now

Not what we thought it should be

Not what our parents said it should look like

Not the pressure we put on ourselves to feel something

We don’t.

But only what is the deepest truth.

Registration closes tomorrow.

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