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TO THE HUMAN WITH NO BOUNDARIES

Published July 6, 2020 by tindertender

Written by Maria Palumbo

I get it.

Mom had you be her confidant
lover
sister
brother
mother
father
husband
wife

Now it gets confusing.

What is family, what does family look like?

What ARE boundaries?

What does it mean to have boundaries?

Who should I have s*x with, be naked with? Open my soul to?

Who is worthy of me, who deserves me? How much do they get to have of me?

You may want to put everything inside of you that moves. It doesn’t matter. Having little authority over your body, mind, heart growing up, it can be hard to find authority over yourself now.

Everything floods into everything. It’s hard to tell who is:

Partner
Sister
Co-creator
Friend
Brother
Mother

S*x permeates EVERYTHING. Inappropriate boundaries feels NORMAL, healthy, even s*xy.

Siblings being attracted to siblings. Not sure of how to handle the attraction, therefore acting out at each other for attention.

Who deserves your allegiance? Who does not?

When all lines were crossed.

Father looked at you and your needs/feelings/body/health of your own, no longer existed.

He made you his:

punching bag
savior
devil
victim
perpetrator
angel (the rare times you impressed him.)

Shouting in your face. Making mom seem like a welcome escape.

His love was terrifying.

Therefore you wonder: If I am terrified, then am I in love? If I am lost in a confusing web of unclear needs, is that love?

If the walls keep changing, is that love?

It feels like love.

In woman on fire we begin to separate you from everyone else. Untangle you string by string.

The ropes on your feet, around your hands, the ropes around your mouth, keeping you lost. You begin to shake free slowly, gently, from what they told you love was.

Maybe it means f*cking everything that moves, until you are sickened and so alone that you do not know what to with yourself. We will walk with you back home to you.

Maybe it means celibacy. Walking away from everything for a bit so you can feel the pulsating of your heart underneath your pu$$y. So you can feel how truly deeply they are linked. We will listen as you trust who you are again. What you really want.

Maybe it means somewhere in between. Letting in slowly your true desire. And being able to breathe deeply as the lights go on.

When you can see it all for what it truly is, you no longer live in the darkness of confusion.

I love you and I love this. Us. Together. Getting free.

Starting soon 

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There Is Always A Choice

Published June 8, 2020 by tindertender

There is always a choice

Right before you hit an org8smic state

You can lean in, open, accept, surrender, trust

Or you can push it away, shut down, close, limit

No one tells you that the way to org8sm is actually LEANING INTO what is alive right now

Numbness

Anger

Sadness

Hunger

Surrender

Love

Annoyance

Turn on

Fear

True pleasure is making space for what IS and then seeing what is underneath that

then underneath that

And feeling the shell crack of the walls we hold up

to protect ourselves from ourselves

to protect ourselves from the other

to protect ourselves from love.

There is always a choice in every relationship

To lean in, speak up

Or to lie, shut down, start again somewhere else

As if somewhere else we will be different, as if we won’t find ourselves excactly the same.

Feeling the same things eventually.

Every relationship will remind us of the abuser

The things we hate

The things that make our skin crawl making us feeling like we want OUT QUICK.

Just like before every org8sm you might feel like you could die

Like you could lose everything and not know what to do with yourself

at the end of this

Every good relationship will bring up the same thing.

Do you lean in or shut down and hide/defend/go numb?

I suggest you lean in.

Woman on fire is a growing family of women across the world holding eachother as we fall in love with what is alive right now

Not what we thought it should be

Not what our parents said it should look like

Not the pressure we put on ourselves to feel something

We don’t.

But only what is the deepest truth.

Registration closes tomorrow.

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