And the Gryphon added, “Come, let’s hear some of your adventures.”
“I could tell you my adventures – beginning from this morning,” said Alice a little timidly; “But it’s no use going back to yesterday, because I was a different person then.”
In this lovely moment, Alice is being asked to recount her adventures for the Gryphon who longs to hear them and is genuinely interested. Alice would love to share, too. But, she knows if she talks a great deal about what has happened and where she is from, she will never truly be able to move forward and find out who she is now that she has changed and is within the world of Wonderland.
The Gryphon wants her to share so she can be entertained, and perhaps get to know her a little better. But for Alice, the thought of reliving the past is no good, as it will not help him know her, as she has changed too much. And therefore, her history is not a way to true friendship. Perhaps this is the same for you. Focus on creating new memories, on sharing experiences, on getting to know someone and letting them know you in the present, through observation and conversation. Accept that you have changed.
As we change, the simple telling of who we were and what we did, is sometimes not as powerful as sharing who we are becoming and experiencing new adventures right in the heart of the precious present moment. Yes, we can share our past adventures and histories, but perhaps you were quite a different person then. So, consider adventuring forth and fully experiencing the present with people you have connected with. Your past will spill out of you, when the time is right for the sharing of such things.
You are more than your past. You have evolved and changed. Sharing your history is only to share who you once were. You are no longer the same person.
~ the Alice Wonderland oracle by Lucy Cavendish