In The Four Agreements, Ruiz writes about the domestication of the human by means of punishment and reward. “The domestication is so strong that at a certain point in our lives we no longer need anyone to domesticate us”, Ruiz explains and lays out how we create a comfort zone of lies to uphold this domestication. We rather go in denial, he suggests, than giving up the lie which would mean death. The solution? According to Ruiz, we agreed to the domestication and lies. Hence, the way out is new agreements.
The first agreement: Be impeccable with your word. Speak from love, integrity, joy, harmony. No self rejection. No self judgement.