Follow Your Own Good Advice

Published January 3, 2022 by tindertender

“Come, there’s no use in crying like that!” said Alice to herself rather sharply. “I advise you the leave off this minute!” She generally gave herself very good advice (though she very seldom followed it).

There are times when we become overwhelmed and begin to feel as if there would be nothing better at all than to collapse, cry and to turn in on ourselves – particularly if we have made an error of judgement! This is understandable, and we must be permitted to express who we are and how we feel. However, once Alice has cried about a seemingly unsolvable situation, about forgetting something very important, she tells herself that continuing to cry will have no use. This stern command to her emotions brings her back to a place where she can contemplate what is best done next.

Anytime you make an error, it can be helpful to grieve a little for the difficulty you have created. But once you have done this, continuing with sadness serves no real purpose. It is best to follow Alice’s example. Cry, then stop, and follow your own good advice and your own good sense. You know what you need to do … you need to clear, ground and center yourself, so you can contemplate what to do next.

You do know what is best for you and often give yourself excellent advice – but you don’t often follow it! You are being gently advised to settle yourself emotionally, to think through a problem, to stop admonishing yourself and to follow your good advice to yourself. Perhaps treating yourself like a close friend, or a dear child, will help you to move calmly forward, without criticizing yourself too harshly for the situation you currently find yourself in. You can change this, if you follow your own very good sense!

Harsh self-judgement for a mistake or an error made. Unmet personal expectation causing inconsolable sadness. A reminder to detach, find clarity and follow your personal internal guidance system which has some very practical solutions!

Artwork by Jasmine Becket-Griffith

~ the Alice Wonderland oracle by Lucy Cavendish

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