When a narcissist says “I LOVE YOU,” those words take on a whole different meaning. This is a letter written from the perspective of the narcissist for the souls who have fallen in love with someone who can never love them.

Dear collegue,

I’m going to say something that I would never say or admit to you.

When I say “I LOVE YOU”, I mean that I love the way you want to believe that I love you madly.

I love the things you do for me.

I love the power you give me to take advantage of your goodness by exploiting your good intentions.

Making you feel worse makes me feel better.

I love making you feel insignificant.

I love the fact that your life revolves only around me. You fix my problems, you solve my doubts, you ease my pain.

I love that all your time is dedicated to me, not to you, and how your attention is only for me.

I love making you doubt yourself and question your own sanity. You don’t know what’s right or what’s real unless I tell you.

“I LOVE YOU” means that I need you because I need someone who won’t abandon me. I need someone I can use as a punching bag.

Someone to make me feel good.

I love how my expectations of you are constantly increasing, while your expectations of me are gradually decreasing.

I love seeing failure and disappointment on your face.

When I say “I LOVE YOU”, I mean love by hate towards you.

I love myself vicariously through the love you feel for me. And I need you to suffer because I hate having to depend on you for this.

I love how my happiness is your responsibility.

I love how I feel when you are near me. How can I become a victim when you try to bring up one of my many personality flaws or harmful behaviors.

I love how I make you feel horrible when you mention something I did that hurt you.

Like you won’t leave me because you’re hooked on this toxic relationship.

I love how you support me and that I have never had to support you. Why would he do that? The things you’ll never get keep you with me.

I love how you think you are with a person who loves you.

But I am a person who shows love and affection as a manipulative tool.

I love how you need me and how you think you are with the right person.

How I make you feel unworthy and insignificant.

When I say “I LOVE YOU,” it’s not because of what love really stands for. When I say “I LOVE YOU”, it means I love how you respect my rules and how you live by them.

You need to know that I will use hurtful words and manipulation tactics under the guise of love.

You will never change me.

We both know this isn’t real. We both should know.

Regards,
Your narcissist.

~ Author Unknown