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What Is Your Breaking Point?

Published December 9, 2018 by tindertender

What is your breaking point?

What have you done when you’ve arrived there?

My breaking point came a few times in this life. The last one actually nearly cost my physical life, it surely did cause a ‘rebirth’ in my spiritual life, and a complete shift in the way I think and live.

Strength is born out of these times, when the world seems to crash down on our heads. It isn’t uncommon for a person to fall, then swim in the affects of previous actions. It can seem like drowning, dying, or make us wish we would, and sometimes that is exactly what happens.

For those times a person is able to crawl out of that deep well into the light of day once more they will find that a portion of them is left behind. That portion of them which caused the fall in the first place is shed, and newness is birthed to fill the space left from its removal.

Falling enough times, or falling so deep, and then the fight that ensues to come back to light, is indeed a rebirth … you may not even recognize yourself. You may find that many others will tell you, “This isn’t the you I remember.” Embrace it … especially if the layers of pain, which perpetuated pain I this world, are left behind.

Be bold in the creation of a new you … society no longer dictates who you will be … YOU do. This is your story now.

True Love Needs No Coaxing

Published December 4, 2018 by tindertender

I love many of the old love songs from the 70’s, they are my favorite. One thing I notice about them is they are singing of the need to convince someone of the love in their heart. I suppose this was the beginning (or perhaps the 60’s) of the shifting of love.

It seems the more we try to cling to love, the quicker it slips through the fingers. Love cannot be held, owned, possessed or controlled. Love must be set free, acknowledged for its power, and honored when it presents itself, in all forms, and also released when it’s purpose in our life (or the others) is complete.

Often when someone professes love they are laughed at, or outright attacked. Love is gentle, it is kind, it is open and free. There IS a force influencing this world to tear it down. The unconscious person flows with this attempt and acts upon it. It is no surprise that barriers have been erected to protect the heart.

I have been fortunate to love deeply four times in this life. Every time when it came to end, I was crushed … absolutely crushed. The final two times rendered me useless for the world for a time. The last especially … my mind disintegrated.

Rebuilding self I understand now that love flows, just as the shadow forms around everything, love is also intertwined there. It is a dance many call heartache. The heart aches with pure joy, and it aches when that joy decreases, or morphs into a new appearance. It is our concept of what love should be that causes this, for when it does not match our ideals, this is when the pain comes.

Love can last for short, or long times. When it stops flowing for us we tend to cling to it. The fact that love cannot be bound, is free, and moves whether we wish for it to or not often leads to pain. People have this habit of trying to force things, only making the pain worse. They forget why they loved, and it becomes anger, even hate. Rather than honoring loves flow they lay claim to it and retaliate when it is discovered to have grown wings.

It is thought that love is obligated to oblige the heart of others. Love is not obligated to anything but flow, to giving freely. I am not talking about being promiscuous or loosey goosey, but becoming part of this flow which is free.

It is a pity that love has actually come down to the physical involvement: sex. Sex is not love, it is something that accompanies it. Yet love exists even when sex is not involved. Love is so simple it is hard to understand. Humanity has complicated it with rules and stipulations. This is another one of those things that has become bastardized in this time.

There is coming a return to love, true love. Love owes us nothing, love is something we grow in our hearts until over flowing … this is how it enters the world, yet many people are looking to fill their cups from outside sources and are left wanting, every time.

Loosen up. You will begin to see the flow and a gratefulness will fill your heart when it flows your way, and you will be grateful for the next person who experiences that love which has touched you, knowing what a blessing it truly is. You will be happy for them, you will be happy you’ve had the experience, and you will be happy for the person who is sharing love with the world.

You will recognize that because love is no longer being poured into you from an outside source does not mean you are empty of love. The love within you is amplified by these gifts, and you can continue to grow your sweet garden of love yourself. Someone will come along that joins you again, and again, and again … it does not mean there will be sex involved, it means you will know what true love is, and participate in its advancement in the world.

Beautiful, whole, and free.

AHA Moments In The Silent Hour

Published November 30, 2018 by tindertender

“This woman you speak of keeping for your own, she has her own dreams, her own intentions, her own desires, and her very own ability to choose. Although you choose her, she may not choose you, and in a world of freedom you must accept this fact, and allow it. If you do not, you force your will upon another, and this will be your reward, for what you give, you receive. Choose wisely. Behave in a manner which honors life.”

It is curious how the spinning mind chooses its thoughts, its questions. Recently I ask myself if hypothesis and theory mean the same thing, and although similar, not quite. HYPOTHESIS implies insufficient evidence to provide more than a tentative explanation.  a hypothesis explaining the extinction of the dinosaurs. THEORY implies a greater range of evidence and greater likelihood of truth.

I also wonder what year the word defalcate entered he English language. I look it up and it appears its first use was in 1541. I learned this word shortly after (or during) the year 2003, when an angry person used “defalcater” to describe me. Interesting, my recent past life regression hypnotherapy session took me to 1547. I can tell you, many bad things were happening then, provoked and carried out by self-proclaimed “righteous” men.

I ate a bit of chocolate while I lay half asleep in my bed. My mind went to the cocoa farmers and their reaction when, for the first time, they were given a chocolate bar, made from the product they grew. They had no idea what it was used for, or how sweet it could be. My thinking is, this situation is being completely taken advantage of by the wealthy. Someone should have (long ago) helped these people who were working so hard for pennies get set up and teach them how to make their own cocoa products, and then trade with them … Free Trade, so they could afford a life with more benefits.

Was it you who dreamed all this up? Who is the dreamer?

The Infinite ~ Time

I am in time, you (all) are ‘stuck’ in time. I am that moment in time you are stuck in! My question is, “Why did you choose to be stuck in this moment of time? The answer came, “For the experience”.

Life is a series of raising and lowering the emotional ‘shield’. As a child, shield down; at 1st trauma, shield up; gaining a friend, shield down; some sort of attack, shield up; falling in love, shield down; heartbreak, shield up; despair, shield down; survival, shield up; submission, shield down; rebellion, shield up.

‘They’ listen and track when the shield goes up, and when the shield goes down, monitoring the emotional behaviors and stresses and stressors for all people, ‘practicing’ flipping the switches in the minds of humanity. As many as are talking to any given medium or psychic, are as many as they hear as well. Plotting and planning, playing and toying.

Mind Blown is a collective, human experience. We all have it happen, time and time again.

Freedom is the ability to sit alone, in the quiet, without disturbance. I think most people get the meaning of ‘freedom’ wrong. The word and the meaning of it has been bastardized.

The natural man vs  a man infected by greed, anger and fear is quite stark in comparison. For a visual, I see a family pet, happy to see you when you arrive home after a long day at work vs that same pet once bitten by a rabid critter, turning on those who it once loved so much. The natural man is not capable of jealousy, theft, or creating insecurity in others, or feeling it in himself.

Look around you, what do you see? Look into your own heart and mind. Has the sticky fingers of the invisible grabbed hold of you? Are your emotions a raging ocean? The first step to balance and health is to realize there are outside forces at play, and it isn’t just a damaged you.

Between A Rock And A Hard Place

Published November 28, 2018 by tindertender

Have you ever considered where duality stems from? Have you wondered if this field of opposites is being played out behind scenes which the majority is not aware? I guess there isn’t anything we can do about that, since most will scoff and be against even toying with the idea of it.

There is that old phrase about an angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other. Both of them constantly whispering in the ear, playing out a battle for the human mind. This is something many of us can understand, for we are all familiar with temptation.

Superstition never makes way for forward movement, for progression, it only lends avenues which shrink and atrophy the mind and spirit. I find myself there occasionally, as I’m certain many of you do … how in the world did this fear of the unknown creep into the psyche of humanity when many do not attend a religious service, nor have they been raised around, or taught about deities?

Who is it that sits behind the scenes, pulling strings? Do you suppose they are laughing? Do you think they try, try, try again until successful at causing anxiety, depression, anger, sorrow or any other typical emotion in the human mind?

I imagine them conversing, same verbiage, day after day, year after year, watching the reaction of people. I’m thinking they do so for they wish to experience every single emotion possible, through mankind, vicariously. Not really giving two hoots about the affect on the mind, they continue, for they need to know what makes us tick.

It is not a great discovery finding that all of life takes after this crazy mold. We are all raving lunatics, arguing about this, and about that, mad at ourself, or someone else, feeling righteous or ashamed. Pfft … it is all quite … undeserving of words, actually, because it never changes. It’s always this ‘game’ in which players change roles but no one ever wins.

It is not entertaining, it is quite annoying … and yet here I am, inserting an emotion into the mix once more. I guess it’s better than being a zombie, although I do wonder about humanity actually already being the ‘walking dead’. Looking around, it seems all too real … so much so I have difficulty in denying it.

I laugh to myself and I think, “I may be going a little mad.” I think about Tesla, and of the other great and whacky minds from the past. Many more than I am aware of … and then I think, “I keep good company.” And I laugh yet again thinking, “Ya, right.”

What in the heck was I thinking?

All I will now say is, “The paths of my mind are my own.”

Present In This Silence

Published November 27, 2018 by tindertender

You say that I have changed, that I am not the same as I once was. You are mistaken. I am exactly as I once was, the only difference being I have added to it, I have grown, I have become more than I was before.

Distraction, you have supplied plenty of, will not hinder this growth, this expansion of self. I refuse to remain in a little box, stagnant and only listening to what you would like me to. No, I will stretch my wings until the day I die, then I will fly.

Silently, yet quite clear, a suggestion is made.

“You’ve got to let it go! If you don’t, they’ll keep jerking you around. Speak to me. The one who always hears but chooses not to fill your head with clutter, leaving room for you to interpret the world using your own capacity without interference. Rather than talk to them, talk to me. Put yourself on that path of long ago. See the trail, see the road. Visualize the conversation, and then have one.”

The one who supports you makes suggestions and does not demand … respects your freedom and does not enslave you … loves you for your uniqueness and does not insist you change to please them … reflects the goodness in you when your eyes gaze deeply into their own, and makes it easy to see how pure and spectacular you’ve always been, and always will be.

Bringing peace to a fearful world, to a fearful mind … there is no greater responsibility.

How do you eliminate fear? How do you eliminate greed and the struggle for power, or dominance?

This work is personal. Love cannot be demanded of others, just as a change of personality cannot be forced upon anyone. Those times are gone.

The future is space where all people will be free, working together for the benefit of the whole. There will be suffering and pain along the way. There are those who will never choose to be anything but harmful to their fellow man, or animals, or toward the earth. This change, this shift, will require a sort of cleansing … and by this I mean, those who choose to live by the sword will die by the sword until there aren’t any people left who choose that path.

Do you suppose the time is near when people will decide that killing and fear mongering is not the profession of choice? It seems more and more people are hopping on the war train. But perhaps this is the crux of the situation … many will fight, until the fighting ends.

Choice … it seems simple enough.

Individually, we are creators of our life. Collectively, we choose to assist each other or to use and abuse each other, creating circumstances which have potential for rebound … rebound of the positive, or of the negative.

Some ‘leaders’ are fine with the suffering of the people, as long as they are feared. Again, it comes back to fear, that pesky destroyer of families, of culture, of life.

I watch as people project their energies into whatever cause someone else dictates … war, behavior and decisions made by others, beliefs and religions, diet and dress, speech and mannerisms. Humanity moves about listening to these suggestions and then … just as a youngster who longs to be part of the ‘in crowd’ they take action for whatever they think will bring them acceptance, or some sort of respect.

Too often the energies poured into the agenda of someone else is not honored. C’mon, people die for someone else’s ideals … Losing their own life before they’ve even had a chance to discover the depths of their own hearts, or see the hidden pools of yumminess in their own eyes when peering at their reflection.

This is called ‘stolen life’ by the puppet master … who is not a master at all. The true ‘master’ is the one who encourages each individual to become master of his or her own mind, heart, spirit, and soul.

Look at your life. See who is pulling your strings, take back your power. Own it. The creation of the future, the one you will be reborn in to (believe it or not), is your choice. Beauty? Or shit.

And remember, wealth of any kind cannot be horded, for eventually all things will be redistributed, and the experiences one provides for others will become their own.

Going Deep

Published November 25, 2018 by tindertender

The mind expands, so full of, seemingly … everything. Awareness embraces the elements ~ water, air, earth, fire … it embraces possibilities as they enter the field of thought.

The effort to purposefully open consciousness in order to receive information can be a tricky balance between sanity and ultimate confusion. Doing so will provide access to those “aha” moments as well as those who despise the blessing of the “aha” onto humanity. One must be prepared for this and remain strong while the fingertips of the unseen play with the mind.

Discernment … how does one become good at it? Often the senses, those inner strings which are toyed with, allow a trigger to be activated … flight, strong stance or fight, a going to, and a turning from … these ‘skills’ can only be honed in the midst of experience.

Often life gives us things which we deem as unpleasant, yet these very things work out to be our greatest blessings … in hind-sight … although we’d swear the opposite during the most intense moments.

That which has kept the innermost portion of a man, a woman, separate from each other is breaking down. We find that our attention is being focused in many areas at once, aware of so much more that what is within the four outer walls … of the flesh, of the house, of the country.

Our emotions are amplified as we take note of the hidden, as we realize life as we’ve known it has been but an illusion.

The question then is how do we undo the training received and actually help one another? How do we release the need to safeguard our personal spaces and open up to facilitate healing?

While those intent on harming life will be successful, causing pain, the balance will be shifting, and when balance is met, even tipping to the opposite of what we’ve known, the harm will begin to decrease and peace will begin to grow, quickly becoming normalized.

Those brave souls who do this work are the most courageous of humans, for they risk everything in order to gain this balance … for the benefit of all life.

As you sit in meditation, or simply in a still space, in silence, absorb the thoughts which pass by, have the aha moment, go deep into this world and pull forth from it the things which will assist in expansion … of thought, of understanding, of compassion, of care and of love.

When we see that our emotions are the same as others, when we understand that all of humanity wishes to be recognized, understood, loved, and blessed with a sense of honor for that which they contribute, no matter how detailed, then we begin to know fully how alike we truly are. When this happens, we can look at someone and see their argument, their frustration, their joy … it is exactly as we have experienced during life, at differing times.

Fear, pain and the shriveling of self they cause are similar for all as well. Some are able to fortify and pull up, while others are more vulnerable (children and those who have suffered since the dawn of innocence). Rather than saying to those they should buck up, man up, woman up, it is imperative that we instead assist in the healing … especially if we are some of those who are among the first who are able to firm up.

The depths of our being are intertwined. It is quite truthful in that when one suffers, we all suffer. It may not be apparent in the visual, but it will affect all life as the ripples of the situation will forever expand and mesh with all other experiences.

Why does it seem the negatives are so much more powerful that the positives? Why does fear and pain seem to override joy and love? Why does war seem to overtake peace?

The reason behind the imbalance is quite simple … the negatives in life are promoted. They are promoted by governments, by television programs (movies and news), and by those who follow through with the ‘programming’.

Those who are awakening to the larger reality are often drugged and labeled as having a ‘mental’ issue, simply because our health care system is not equipped with knowledge or understanding. They are trained in symptom management only. Thankfully they are, and my hope is that they will rise to take their knowledge one step further, into that of true understanding of the union between the seen and the unseen.

Truth can cause anxiety and/or depression … once the workings of our current system are seen and understood, they cannot be forgotten.

The more we choose to ‘fight’ something, the greater energy needed to maintain the fight, for the energy dumped into it only makes it stronger. I am surprised more people do not understand this.

“It takes a strong man to go into battle, it takes an even stronger man to walk away from one.” The one who decides to stay and fight is doing their perceived duty, protecting that which is seen in need of protection. The one who walks away sees that the energy is being harvested, manipulated, and utilized to increase the warring. And while they walk away from the fight, they are attacked by their fellows because of it, so they are inwardly fighting a resistance to those who would manipulate them, and to those who have been convinced that fighting is the only way to be, the only way to survive.

It’s a double whammy for certain. Many folks in this world are battling two enemies, in fact, we all are. We struggle against peers who would steer us, we battle against the unseen manipulator who would have us destroy each other, and our self. We work diligently to manage our thoughts, to maintain control of the emotions rather that letting the emotions control us.

This life is indeed a battle, a battle for our sanity, for our ability to love our self and others, for control. In this control wars are fought, lives are lost, people starve … for food, for love, for acceptance, for encouragement, for recognition.

Stop the fight. BE you, BE whole, it is yours already. Stop allowing others into your mind, shut the door on their permissions for manipulating your thoughts and actions. It is but a game, a dangerous game … step out from it into the freedom inherently yours.

As you step away from the perpetrated drama, you will begin to see more clearly, from the outside. You will view the world as those who remain fighting crush each other, mentally, physically. You will see how they manipulate situations in their ability to live, and to thrive. You will see how they take … and only give when there is something greater to be gained. You will watch them as they destroy each other.

Being part of the destruction will not stop it. The only thing which will stop it is a non-participation in it.

Do you foresee a future where people will take note of it and act upon it? Do you think humanity is strong enough to withstand those who would destroy them? Do you think those who wage destruction will eliminate each other rather than eliminating the whole?

Are we willing to do our part, stepping back and preparing the tools (inner and outer) which will be needed to assist in bringing healing to those who leave the fight?

It is unfortunate that so many in this world make a game of war. It IS a game, one in which they are paid handsomely for … with money, washed in blood, while those who give the orders feast on warriors death and stolen power.

Who better to teach them than those who have already walked the path and are now in the unseen worlds providing influence for continuation? Continuation of death, and pain, and destruction which fuels their energy collection, and therefore their continued life … vicariously through our own, and the collective suffering of the world.

It has become quite clear humans are very good at destroying each other … mentally, emotionally, physically. Are we just as good at promoting health and care and wellbeing? Only WE can answer that question, should we wish to know the answer well enough.

These negative influences must be ended, they must be denied should humanity and all other life have a chance at true love and gracious living.

Social Terrorism

Published November 4, 2018 by tindertender

It’s tearing our world apart, and it does not require physical violence.

For centuries people have terrorized each other. Man against woman, adult against child, child against child, adult against adult, government against government, government against its very own people. Humans beat each other, kill each other, mentally abuse each other, and even abuse themselves. They butcher and consume animals, they mistreat the animals without care for the harm they do.

This terrorism is bred into society. Governments speak of terrorism daily. It trickles into the minds of all who listen. The pain created by individuals who ‘play the terrorist game’ is absorbed into minds of those who are inflicted upon.

This is learned behavior. Just as children learn from watching their parents, all people learn from watching their ‘leaders’ to gauge what is acceptable, what is deemed appropriate. Governments say it is all about ‘bad people’, but this is what they themselves finance and foster and do in covert ways every day.

It has been talked of, and performed for so long that it has become a normal part of existence. Crimes against humanity have been neglected and approved by so many in the world that it continues, and its intensity grows.

Bullying is more than that … it is social terrorism, and often it is overlooked and ignored.

Domestic abuse is more than that … it is social terrorism, and often, it too, is overlooked and ignored, until someone dies.

Peer pressure is more than that … it is social terrorism, requiring many times that people conform to the ‘accepted rule’ of the few, or ‘bullying ensues’.

This is the behavior of many countries representatives. It is no wonder the average person falls into it as well.

My hope is that people the world over will stop ‘softening’ what is actually going on here and call it for what it is. Stop making bad behavior acceptable, hold people accountable, hold yourself accountable.

It is never okay to stomp on another’s head. You don’t agree with them or their life? Move on, find people who you DO agree with and stop making others miserable. This only shows how miserable of a life you yourself must have.

Being responsible means taking a good hard look at your thoughts and actions. Evaluate the imprint you are putting into this world. Look at it and see whether it is adding to healing in the world, or exacerbating the pain. Adjust accordingly.

If you are of the mind that you would like to facilitate pain and destruction, you will get what you give. If you intentionally, consciously work for healing in this world, you will get what you give …. in this life, or the next. By ‘next’ I mean in Spirit, or your next go ’round in physical form.

The cycle must be broken.
Social Terrorism is NOT okay.

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