There is a reason Scripture uses marriage language when speaking of God and humanity.

Because marriage reveals love most clearly —
and abuse most obviously.

Scripture says:
“No one ever hated his own body,
but nourishes and cherishes it.” 💍

That statement alone exposes a massive distortion.

Because if God truly hates, tortures,
or eternally punishes His creation,
then God would be doing
what no healthy husband ever does.

So let me tell this as a parable.

📖 THE PARABLE 📖

There was a man who married a woman
and told her he loved her.

At first, everything seemed fine.

But soon, he began to find fault.

She didn’t wash the dishes correctly.
She didn’t cook the food the way he liked.
She didn’t fold the clothes the way he expected.

He told her,
“If you really loved me, you’d do better.”

Over time, his love became conditional.

“You’re still my wife,” he said,
“but you disappoint me constantly.”

Eventually, he told her:

“Because you didn’t live up to my standards,
I will now torture you forever —
and this will prove how much I loved you.”

When people recoiled in horror,
he replied:

“You just don’t understand love.
I warned her.
She chose this.”

No one would call that love.

No one would call that justice.

They would call it abuse.

Yet this is precisely how God
is portrayed in much of church culture.

🧠 THE PSYCHOLOGICAL FRACTURE 🧠

When people are taught that:

• love includes torture
• justice requires endless punishment
• forgiveness still demands payment

the psyche splits.

The mind is forced to hold two opposing ideas:
“God is love”
and
“God will torture you forever.”

That contradiction cannot be integrated.

So the soul fractures.

Some become fearful.
Some become cruel.
Some become numb.

Many begin defending abuse as righteousness.

This is what happens
when the carnal mind governs theology.

The carnal mind only understands
control, reward, and punishment.

It cannot comprehend restorative love.

🔥 WHAT JESUS ACTUALLY REVEALED 🔥

Jesus did not reveal a God
who punishes His bride.

He revealed a God
who lays His life down for her.

He did not say,
“I will destroy you until you comply.”

He said,
“Father, forgive them,
they do not know what they are doing.”

A God who tortures His own body
would be less loving
than a human husband.

And Scripture never presents God
as less loving than we are.

⚠️ WHY THIS MATTERS ⚠️

When the church teaches people
to worship an abusive image of God,
it doesn’t just distort theology.

It damages the nervous system.
It fractures the psyche.
It normalizes domination.
It trains people to tolerate harm.

People begin to believe:

• abuse is love
• fear is obedience
• silence is holiness

This is not the gospel.

It is trauma
wearing religious language.

✨ THE TRUE MEASURE ✨

Love does not torture.
Love restores.

Justice does not destroy.
Justice heals.

And a husband who hates his own body
is not a reflection of God —
he is a warning.

Spirits Whisper 🕊️
Love never needs cruelty to prove itself.
What terror demands, love freely gives.
God does not punish His bride —
He heals her memory of who she is.
Anything less is not holiness, but harm.