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What Does Equality Really Mean?

Published June 17, 2018 by tindertender

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To me, equality means being equally valued. There are different roles which must be filled in order to create harmonious balance, every position cherished and honored.

City life is a challenge, in that the definition of equality has been skewed. It’s about equal pay, voters rights, the freedom to choose. And while all of these things are important and necessary to be considered, the aspect which makes them poor, and will always see they remain so, is the lack of honor and respect shown toward each other.

There must be an inner desire to see others be successful in whatever they choose to take part in that is of benefit to someone other than themselves (which in turn is benefit to them). The logic, which is really very simple, has been jacked all out of context.

For the most part, it is my observation, this imbalance revolves around ‘greed’ and need for ‘power’. Lack has been bred into the system we find ourselves in, leaving folks scrambling for money needed to acquire enough for their families. The most prevalent problem in today’s environment is that there isn’t opportunity to earn enough anymore. Although wages have increased, they in no way measure up to the demands, that have also increased.

Essentially, the only way to combat this hole most of the world has been stuffed in to, is unity. Coming together, merging resources, working as a team and having honor and respect for each other for all our contributions.

The shackles which the powerful and greedy have given average people to wear must be shed. The system they’ve created isn’t working. It only serves to entrap and enslave. There is no real freedom.

There is possibility for freedom though, and it is in the hearts and minds of all people. It is up to each and every one how to go about breaking chains, for each and every experience has its own structure. Only those within the structure can organize an exit, one which will be easiest on those loved and cared for, while merging into a larger, more beneficial whole.

Climbing Mountains

Published June 14, 2018 by tindertender
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He said, She said … How long has this been going on? Argument … consistent, never ending, argument. Who is right and who is wrong? Is there any such thing?

Has a human ever found it easy to place themselves in a situation they find someone else in, before making an assessment? I am aware there are many cultures who cultivate certain responses, certain controls of self, and nurture their ability to have compassion and understanding for others.

There are others who practice thinking before speaking … resting with emotion, and rather than let the emotion be in charge of what comes out the mouth, they choose to not say a word, until later, after the adrenaline slows.

It seems the tendency to jump to conclusions is prevalent nowadays though … it is seen plainly, every day, wherever one may find themselves.

Becoming older, learning to break habits and alter the ‘training’ learned from youth, to shed the person of the past, is a true blessing. Just to have the opportunity to recreate that which we are is HUGE!! So many people never see it, so many people stay in the strangle hold of that which someone else gave them to wear.

In youth, it is often that someone else forms who we are. How the hair is worn, what fashion is adopted, if any, how we speak, or act in public, what we eat, how we chew, whether we say please or thank you, or ask permission at all, whether we take, or give, acknowledge lack peacefully, or strive to have more and more.

If fortunate to live long enough, this point becomes noticeable, opportunity arises to recreate that person-hood who we walk through life being. Shedding habits, forgiving others, in order to hopefully, one day forgive self, lightening the load of humanity and assisting in making positive change for the world, bringing light and song and joy to the day, every day that is consciously chosen.

There will always be someone to try and stop it … to create doubt and feelings of insufficiency … this is their reality and they try to impose it into others lives … to make others wear who and what they are (… in that particular moment).

You do not have to bear that load for them, the energies you produce will always be spent on what you allow them to be spent on.

Power is in Choice … every day, you wield it.

 

Recognizing Personal … And Others … Pain

Published June 9, 2018 by tindertender

There is a tendency to push the load, to give it to someone else to carry. Often life’s experiences are so painful the weight cannot be shouldered alone.

When time is taken to look deeply into the emotional life, the pain which is ours, and that which has been given us to carry for another, can be seen clearly.

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Although we may think we are helping someone by carrying their load, in reality this only depletes personal ability to utilize energy for that which is wished to be seen in the world.

In truth, unless people are willing to look at their own suffering, come to terms with it, and then work toward healing it, it will not be healed. No matter how much energy we dump into it, or into them.

It is sad, for we want to help those we love. We want to heal them and make them whole. All the while, being so busy with this, we haven’t looked into our own personal stuff to see if there is anything which must be faced, dealt with and worked on for personal healing.

If not careful, too much energy will be spent on that which is outside us, and if not received and results seen, the temptation to become angry or upset happens, for all that we have given may seem to have been wasted, and many times that is the truth of it.

Focus on healing your own wounds. Recognize that which is yours and that which belongs to someone else. It is possible to love someone while putting personal health first. It is crucial, for if we allow ourselves to be depleted, we can do no one any good.

What you may have believed to be your own burden may actually be the load of another you’ve become accustomed to carry.

Gift yourself freedom.
Freedom to love and care for you,
while still loving others.

Capacity to give love, and care, and compassion, are greatly increased when we become healthy.

 

 

A Little Out Of The Ordinary

Published May 25, 2018 by tindertender

I waited in line yesterday to purchase dirt and saw an older man walk by me, foreign in appearance and obviously military. He was followed by a woman about my age who looked slightly stressed, and then by an older woman. The two women looked me in the eye. The younger seeming frazzled, the elder seeming cold. The man walked by again, out of the entrance, stopped and turned and walked in again, looking at me.

I made note of others in the parking lot of the same nationality. Older, men with women, not seeming to be shopping, but more just walking by or idling near their car. I wonder if they were in pairs to be nonchalant or if it was my imagination that there were many more than normally seen in one space at the same time.

Other days I would not have thought twice about it, but the stature of the first man, obvious straight laced military in civilian dress, followed by sight of so many others was unusual.

I did not mention it to the person with me, they did not notice anything as they focused on their purchase.

I’m not paranoid about this … or insinuating they shouldn’t be there … or being discriminatory … it’s just strange how the mind picks up on these instances where things ‘are a little out of the ordinary’, and I didn’t know how else to paint a picture of the situation for you.

What Can Be Said Of Time?

Published May 10, 2018 by tindertender
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Every morning before I get a chance to talk myself out of it I climb onto the stationary bicycle. There is that moment when I begin to say to myself, “it can wait until tomorrow”, which is why I get on before I’m fully awake.

After the remaining exercises I sit and breath, quieting my mind, learning how to be still anew, every morning. With the work schedule it is easy to tell myself I haven’t time for deep silence or contemplation, yet this is exactly where the connection with the larger reality is made. By NOT allowing proper time, we only cheat our self of that which is most beneficial.

The mind gets distracted by things, time disappears as it gets caught in webs placed around us … advertising, television, commotion in the household, neighborhood crime, world events … to remain centered and come from that place is a challenge many do not take.

Strong energy is always inspiring and provoking. Anyone who wishes to follow an interest or continually grow toward something worthwhile has an enthusiastic energy.

Seeing imbalance in others seems simple, yet seeing it in ourselves is difficult. Finding balance is key.

Honoring our self is critical, and respecting the earth as sacred is just as important, for an unhealthy planet cannot support us as we need.

It is never too late to change. Regret is useless. Forgiveness may be necessary. Bravery is valuable. It’s beneficial to act with courage and to be empathetic, to grow knowledge of how our actions affect others and the planet.

It’s Not Meant To Be Easy

Published May 7, 2018 by tindertender

Great transformation is upon us. The entire world is heaving with change. This shift can be quite painful and cause tremendous pain and suffering. Through all of it remember:

Throw-a-pebble-in-theWhile healthy anger can fuel wise action, rage rarely does. There is a big difference between expressing healthy anger and expressing the uncontrolled negative energy of rage; it is worth knowing your triggers and seeking help if you do regularly escalate into rage.

Hope is a life-changing emotion. Without it, people literally die. It is important, though, to understand that hope requires some action. It is said that a wish  sent from a place of nondeservedness or ill feeling will sink early and not be granted. It is important not just to hope for a change but to hope from a place of good intentions and to act.

If strong, healthy self-esteem tips over into arrogance it is not true balance. In todays world it is not surprising that many people believe self-esteem and self value come from the outside in, from the admiration of others. Take the admiring people away, and if there is no solid core of self-worth, there is little left.

As difficult as it sometimes is, as horrible as the deep pit of despair feels when it builds in the stomach, you must breathe through it, allow it to loosen through the breath … it will dissipate after a time and forward movement will once more be possible.

Living is not easy, it is meant to challenge you, to allow opportunity for you to build strength though endurance and creativity, to hone the ability to solve problematic situations. Action must be taken with eyes and mind set on positive outcomes, change which benefits all life. With focus, combined with determined action and solid faith in the desired outcome, with unwavering belief that it will be … it will be.

Focusing on personal spaces shrinks the ‘box’ you have to work in. Opening to others, to the well-being of the whole, will eventually destroy the little box you’ve been living in. Strengths others possess, skills which they have mastered will combine with your own. An immovable force will be created. Together massive change can become reality very quickly.

You’re growing into your power, it many indeed be painful … just as the bones stretch when the body ages through youth. Know this, when all is said and done, you will be quite satisfied with the result.

Earth Wages

Published April 29, 2018 by tindertender

That is what we are raised to earn. We are taught to pay the farmer for food and companies like Nestle for water. We are taught that it is business who gives us what we need to survive and it is we who must earn it. (Of course there is labor, and those who do the work ought to be rewarded for their efforts).

Truth is, the earth provides everything we need to grow food and the clean waters run abundant. Rather than stopping people from growing food in their yards and evicting them from their lands for going off-grid, it ought to be allowed to learn of living in harmony with the planet. Those with plenty should consider drilling wells for those whos water lays under the surface.

Wages of sin

There is enough to go around, but greed and need for power causes lack. Blackened hearts who are given power create sorrow and suffering in this world while they (for a time) reap benefit. While they collect liberal ‘earth wages’, what do you suppose they are collecting outside of the earth, in the land beyond time?

Narrow mindedness prevents a person from seeing the larger picture. They are concerned with the type of car they drive, the size of the house they dwell in, the amount of money in the bank and the power they hold over others. They practice manipulating people, sometimes masses of people into doing what is wanted for an outcome which benefits them, not caring about those who achieve this goal they desire.

Older now, having come from a place of lack into the present where there is enough, I see clearly how people are treated when they have little versus when they are not struggling. I also see those who have more than enough and the way they are coddled and followed by those who wish to catch the crumbs.

The one with the golden load struts about, earning big earth wages. Others follow behind that big bird with desire to advance, hoping they may be tossed a trinket or given blessing by the flesh walker who possesses an illusion of power, they too earn earth wages. Some are completely forgotten, starving in the streets, freezing in the cold and roasting in the heat with no shelter, ignored by the majority, dependent on others generosity to have even a drink of water.

While the dream is chased our inherent connection is forgotten. The suffering of the earth and the waters is not seen, the poisoning of the air we breath is denied, the harming of brothers and sisters is ignored.

Earth wages … is this really what life is about? Power over other humans … is this what you desire? While the rich and powerful may not physically ‘rape’ a person, they are doing the deed in other ways, equally damaging to the structure of life. It is difficult to see, it is even more difficult to ask ones self if they are participating in the destruction. It is hard to ask the tough personal questions … not of others, but of our own heart.

True courage comes in doing so, and effective change which benefits ALL life cannot happen unless people are brave enough to face their own inner demons, tame them, and take control … creating a better environment, a better world, for everyone.

When you look in a mirror, do you see a flawed person? Do you cover your face, pretend to be someone else, keep hidden the real you? Only the lionhearted will bare all, allowing vulnerability to come forth, and learn to stand strong amidst the attack of those who pretend. The ones who are brave enough to be open, who see their flaws and begin the personal alchemy process, will also be the ones who affect great change in this world. The pretenders? They keep illusion alive.

What ‘job’ do you wish to have in this world? To follow illusion and stay in the mode which has been around for centuries? Or break the mold, to stop hiding, to work on creating kindness and compassion … in your own heart, which will then ripple out into the world.

Choice … that beautiful gift we have been given. This is where the power is, and when used consciously, can be a wonderful tool for benefit, or for destruction.

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