Have you ever been told you were wrong … wrong for not allowing another to impress their will over your own? It seems there are those who believe certain people have the right to squash what makes a person happy and at peace, forcing individuals to do what makes them happy instead.
This is what I see has upset the cart for humanity. Yet I also see historically, humans have behaved in this manner for millenniums.
Looking back through the years I see myself and others doing what was requested and suggested, folding under pressure to the will of another. How can it be that people are so easily convinced they are not good enough, or responsible enough, or worthy, or capable of making their own decisions? How is it people allow their self to become the ‘mini-me’ doing what another wants, what makes them happy, forgetting their own comfort or longing, denying their own peace and happiness?
As time passes, it may be realized this is no longer an option. We see everywhere in the world people rising and refusing to give up authority over their own life. I give a short little laugh now (as I remember personal history) but it isn’t funny in the least.
Decisions made in the past, made to please another, are not done in best interest of anyone. Pretend love leaves a cavern in the heart, it’s quite depressing once what was thought to be love becomes obvious as mere lust, lies and coercion. After time and deep reflection many would rather be alone than play these games.
The future will be built upon personal free-will, and guess what? Most people will not agree that the decisions made are good or right. In response, say, “My decisions are not good or right for you, but for me they are perfect.”
It is infuriating to see so many people trying to direct the lives of others, often forcing themselves and their will upon them. Entrapment, enslavement, coercion and denying people the right to live according to their own terms, values, and heart space should cease immediately.
Courage … Originally meant “to speak ones mind by telling all ones heart.” While the ‘norm’ has been to not lay all ones cards on the table, truth is, there is no need to hide from each other any longer.
There is massive courage in showing vulnerability. When we see those that do, we are also able to see others who attack. More and more people are preferring to lay it all on the line, sick of the game, tired of pretending. It takes far to much energy.
In the end, giving up ones self, becoming who another wishes one to be, is never enough to make ‘love’ stay. When it goes, the person who tried to be what someone else wanted will have to ‘rediscover’ who they are and begin again.