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Worldwide U-turn

Published November 8, 2018 by tindertender

Strength comes from
being blessed with an enemy.

Centuries have gone by where the hearts of women have been stomped on, where she has been beaten and killed, where the blame of mans brutalities have been placed upon her shoulders … still … her heart has not been tamed or extinguished. No ~ this has only made her more resilient.

When women war, it is much different than man. She carries with her the love and the nurturing. She combines it with the I’ve had enough and becomes the bear, or large cat, or even the eagle … and she fights to protect … not just to destroy.

The way she wars looks different too, although sometimes it may appear to be the same. The depth of woman is incredible. Preferring to be in ‘care’ she chooses to understand … herself, those around her, and even her enemies. Not simply to destroy, but to mend, to heal, to bring a return to love.

We see plainly what patriarchy has done to people and environments the world over. We are due for change, for a different approach.

What will be will be. Let us hope that a change for the better is supported by all of those (men and women) who see the truth of matters, and know in their hearts and minds a big ol’ U-turn is needed.

Let us work together to make this shift. Release the need for power over others and instead work together for the benefit of the whole … as partners … as a team.

Too Much Woman

Published September 16, 2018 by tindertender

Too Much Woman

There she is. . . the “too much” woman. The one who loves too hard, feels too deeply, asks too often, desires too much.

There she is taking up too much space, with her laughter, her curves, her honesty, her sexuality. Her presence is as tall as a tree, as wide as a mountain. Her energy occupies every crevice of the room. Too much space she takes.

There she is causing a ruckus with her persistent wanting, too much wanting. She desires a lot, wants everything—too much happiness, too much alone time, too much pleasure. She’ll go through brimstone, murky river, and hellfire to get it. She’ll risk all to quell the longings of her heart and body. This makes her dangerous.

She is dangerous.

And there she goes, that “too much” woman, making people think too much, feel too much, swoon too much. She with her authentic prose and a self-assuredness in the way she carries herself. She with her belly laughs and her insatiable appetite and her proneness to fiery passion. All eyes on her, thinking she’s hot shit.

Oh, that “too much” woman. . . too loud, too vibrant, too honest, too emotional, too smart, too intense, too pretty, too difficult, too sensitive, too wild, too intimidating, too successful, too fat, too strong, too political, too joyous, too needy—too much. She should simmer down a bit, be taken down a couple notches.

Someone should put her back in a more respectable place. Someone should tell her.

Here I am. . . the Too Much Woman, with my too-tender heart and my too-much emotions.

A hedonist, feminist, pleasure seeker, empath. I want a lot—justice, sincerity, spaciousness, ease, intimacy, actualization, respect, to be seen, to be understood, your undivided attention, and all of your promises to be kept.

I’ve been called high maintenance because I want what I want, and intimidating because of the space I occupy. I’ve been called selfish because I am self-loving. I’ve been called a witch because I know how to heal myself.

And still. . . I rise. Still, I want and feel and ask and risk and take up space.
I must.

Us Too Much Women have been facing extermination for centuries—we are so afraid of her, terrified of her big presence, of the way she commands respect and wields the truth of her feelings. We’ve been trying to stifle the Too Much Woman for eons — in our sisters, in our wives, in our daughters. And even now, even today, we shame the Too Much Woman for her bigness, for her wanting, for her passionate nature.

And still. . . she thrives.

In my own world and before my very eyes, I am witnessing the reclamation and rising up of the Too Much Woman. That Too Much Woman is also known to some as Wild Woman or the Divine Feminine. In any case, she is me, she is you, and she is loving that she’s finally, finally getting some airtime.

If you’ve ever been called “too much,” or “overly emotional,” or “bitchy,” or “stuck up,” you are likely a Too Much Woman.

And if you are. . . I implore you to embrace all that you are—all of your depth, all of your vastness; to not hold yourself in, and to never abandon yourself, your bigness, your radiance.

Forget everything you’ve heard—your too muchness is a gift; oh yes, one that can heal, incite, liberate, and cut straight to the heart of things.

Do not be afraid of this gift, and let no one shy you away from it. Your too muchness is magic, is medicine. It can change the world.

So please, Too Much Woman: Ask. Seek. Desire. Expand. Move. Feel. Be.

Make your waves, fan your flames, give your chills.

~~~ Ev’yan Whitney

Lilith ~ Can’t Get You Out Of My Mind

Published July 30, 2018 by tindertender

LilithI can’t get Lilith out of my mind. I think of how she must have felt when a mere man behaved as though she were less than he, attempting to keep her under his thumb, ordering her around as though she were his puppet. I have lived life and experienced this myself! And I do not blame her one bit for telling him to go screw himself.  And I don’t blame her for being angry … for that ‘man’ caused her to lose her home, and her children.

I imagine she would like to return.

If you ask how Lilith herself, the first wife of Adam, became evil, the answer lies in her insubordination to her husband Adam. It is her independence from Adam, her position beyond the control of a male, that makes her “evil.”

Ever wonder who created all these ‘stories’ religions preach about? Ever wonder why the woman is seen as less valuable than dirt? Responsible for everything that has gone sour in this world? Who do you suppose planted this poison in minds?

According to the “first Eve” story Lilith was created by God from dust and placed to live in the garden with Adam until problems arose between Adam and Lilith when Adam tried to exercise dominance over Lilith … 

Lilith fled the Garden of Eden to gain her independence. Adam told God that Lilith had left and God sent three angels, SenoiSansenoi, and Sammangelof, to retrieve her. The three angels found Lilith in a cave bearing children but Lilith refused to come back to the garden. The angels told her they would kill 100 of her children every day for her disobedience.

Can you just imagine being in her position?

The ultimate betrayal! How is it that what is good for one is not good for the other? Who dreamed up this out of balance wheel that has been turning this ‘life’ since time began? It’s no wonder chaos has nearly ended everything.

Perhaps there is still time to make it right. Perhaps it is possible to heal the wound(s) that have haunted this planet for it’s entire existence.

http://witcombe.sbc.edu/eve-women/7evelilith.html
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lilith
https://www2.kenyon.edu/Depts/Religion/Projects/Reln91/Power/lilith.htm

She Is Such A Person

Published May 17, 2018 by tindertender
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Photo by Nathan McBride

Her mind free from thought,
her appearance calm and tranquil,
her forehead beams simplicity.

Her chill is as elemental as autumn, her warmth that of spring. Her joy and anger flow like the four seasons. She always does what’s suitable, and has no limitations … Without showing affection her blessings extend through ten generations.

She has her likes and dislikes. What she likes is the One and what she dislikes is also the One. What is One is One, and what is not One is also One.

Such a person lets the gold stay hidden in the mountains,
and the pearls sleep in the deep waters.
She doesn’t consider property or money to be a benefit
and avoids riches and honors.
She doesn’t rejoice in long life,
nor grieve over early death.
She doesn’t account prosperity a blessing,
nor is ashamed of poverty.

From scattered pages of the book of Chuang Tzu

Woman ~ You Are Invited

Published May 9, 2018 by tindertender
 Wild Soul Woman
“When we consider how embedded we are in the Earth,
how we are literally made of the same stuff
as rivers, rocks and roots,
we can see how separating from this beautiful, fecund
world might be damaging to our psyches.
Have you ever suffered a terrible accident, betrayal or loss?
Then you know you can be left depleted, depressed,
perhaps even cast adrift…
As if you aren’t quite whole.
In losing our intimate relationship with the Earth
we modern humans have suffered a particular trauma
that has caused our wild souls to split off.
How do we heal the wounded wild?
How do we reclaim our wild souls?
The answer lies within each one of us.”

~ Poem: Mary Reynolds Thompson
You’re invited to join Mary and TreeSisters for this (FREE) online initiation your wild soul has been waiting for…

http://www.awildsoulwoman.org/initiation

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