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Inner Power

Published March 1, 2018 by tindertender

Stand, or sit comfortably, back straight.

(1) Like a wave the breath moves in … and out … arms up, bent at elbow, palms open. Breathe out moving shoulders and arms forward, breathe in pulling shoulders and arms back …. continue as you become one with the beat for a time.

(2) Elbows bent, palms together at chest level, listen to the beat with eyes closed, breathing normal. Focus on the breath as you listen to the beats, the rhythm. Feel the pulse between the palms of your hands. This is your Life Force. Rest here for a moment.

Quickly rub your palms together, breathe calmly, tighten your sphincter while doing so, this raises chi. Briskly rub you hands until they are hot. Repeat steps one and two. Feel the heat rise in your body.

Remember this moment throughout your day, come here to this memory in times of trial. Retreat to a quiet place and practice in silence if need be.

The power that is within you will overcome many challenges. Get in touch with it, be with it, you are it.

Searching For Purpose In Life

Published February 14, 2018 by tindertender

Looking at a situation, we are able to determine what needs to be done in order to improve the workings of a thing. We evaluate, and then follow up with the steps it takes to make the desired change.

People often wonder what their purpose in life is. Wondering around in somewhat of a daze this is probably the most asked question.


What if our birth here is no accident? What if we knew exactly the state of the world and where it was headed … what if we chose to come here at this time in order to make a difference, to make adjustments in the way things are in order to affect change that will alter the course of humanity, for all life on earth?

It is no easy task, it is not something the faint of heart decides to do. We came here knowing full well the dangers that awaited us, we knew we would face trials that might not be successfully passed. Even though it is extremely difficult to make it through this maze of harm and hurt, to overcome the self doubt imposed on us from childhood … here we are.

Those who wish to end life as we know it … that experience we have enjoyed at times in our own history … are working very diligently to do just that. It is our responsibility to counteract that destructive behavior.

All too often people are convinced that the way to make things better is through violence, through creating a destructive power so great that the ones holding the most destructive power would be the leader in peace.

It is comical, this logic.
It would be laughable were it not so deadly and dangerous.


Institutional learning has taught very well how to follow orders, how to do as we are told. From early on we learn how to ‘stay within the lines’. It becomes natural to do the bidding of another as we age, and graduate into other realms of being. We forget what it is to think outside the box.

Even those who exercise their creative mind are still following the desired path of someone else. When did we lose the ability to determine what is good, and clean, and beneficial? When did we become so geared to function for the sake of money alone? It seems the lesson here has been that life without money is no life at all.

We see how whole sections of humanity are forced into extreme poverty and starvation, their lives manipulated in such a way that survival is near impossible. This breeds need, and is followed by aggressive behaviors where people just decide they’ll take what they want, forgetting completely the methods and tools another must have also, not caring for their life.

The compassion born in a man and a woman is stripped from them as they face these challenges they swore to change upon birth, upon entry to this world. Getting caught up in all the mess it is forgotten … we are here to assist each other, to lift each other up … not just the few who deem themselves mighty, but all people, all life.

Impossible odds

This sacred world we live in is under attack, we accepted the challenge of making it right again, yet that oath was forgotten. Do you remember now … is it coming back to you?

Stepping out from the pain of rejection and desire, we must learn to see the bigger picture … life is not just about us personally, it is about the whole. Until we see it, and begin to behave in a manner which recognizes this fact, change will be impossible.

All of humanity is under a spell of a sort. When it is recognized, people will understand that we cannot blame someone for  their rejection, or for speaking harshly to us, or even for being used as a tool of destruction.

Stepping out of the box and viewing life from a different angle we can see the truth of the matter, and then proceed according to original plan. Imagine what Inner You is saying right now …

Digging deep within

Helping “We”

Published January 31, 2018 by tindertender

Helping OthersIs there a band-aid big enough to cover the wound? Can it be held in place long enough for healing to be? No patchwork will do, it either rips open and festers … or not. Is there a special salve which can speed the process? What exactly IS this miracle made of?

Helping We …

It is a grand task, so large it is daunting, so vast one can stare at it dumbfounded, not knowing where to begin. Life has taught, however, that the only way is to start moving, step by step, action by action.

Baby steps seem small, yet in hindsight cover space and time, actually becoming leaps and bounds as momentum builds.

Let us begin.

It’s All About You

Published January 31, 2018 by tindertender


“It’s all about you”, he said. She wasn’t sure if he was being sarcastic or trying to be funny … either way she felt guilty for thinking it could be about her. She felt the shame imposed on her from long ago.

“The world does not revolve around you!” This is was she had learned while growing up. She was told she was not special, she was taught to feel guilty every time she thought maybe she was special. Peers would say, “You’re special alright … special ED.”

Triggers, they get flipped when they are least expected. She knows these are false ideas yet years of training to behave a certain way, and to think certain things … well, these are habits which are hard to break.

Ingrained beliefs were pounded in her mind, followed by adulthood spent finding, clearing, and creating new ways of thinking … new habits.

It seems life’s goal is to embody error and then shed it as well. “Is there enough time?”, she wonders. “Will there be enough effort applied?” She has nearly lost hope that life might be anything other than that.

She realizes it’s a cycle, a revolving door of faulty thoughts and beliefs.

Potential Coming To Light

Published January 31, 2018 by tindertender

Strange how a thought of ‘becoming’ something turns into the knowledge that one has always been that which they seek to be. Potential lies very deep within a person, sometimes not so deep. In order to find it, much work and focus must be applied, as well as an allowing of hidden ability to be released.

There is a propensity to think one must paint this way, or write in this manner, or sew a pattern according to someone else’s design. Getting hung up on the way things should be hinders a showing of the way things are. This is where the allowing comes in.

CreationOne may feel quite childish, or amateur in their efforts … I know I do … but this opening the door of creativity must begin somewhere, and it is in the effort to just put pen to paper, or paint on canvas, or thread to cloth, or whatever your desire is. Sometimes it starts out as a mimicking of another’s project ~ once the motions become comfortable, then personal creativity will flow easier. Without effort, nothing will happen.

It is important not to judge the way this flow begins for you. Of course it would be beneficial to have creativity nurtured as a child, but if you make it to your 50’s, after a lifetime of stuffing creativity due to fear of harsh judgement, you owe it to yourself to be the nurturer of hidden talents. Being in touch with this flow enhances life. Again, without effort, nothing will happen.

Yours is the only opinion that matters when it comes to your ability to bring your senses into matter. Don’t look to others for praise or approval, for if they tell you it is not that good, it may stifle the flow coming from you. Just be with your creation … and call it good.

Building Authentic Clarity

Published January 17, 2018 by tindertender

conscienceLooking straight ahead objects seem so far, yet when I focus I see that they are actually quite near. I think life is like this … everything one has ever wanted, eg: true love … seems so far, yet is so very near. The focus is blurred and skewed ~ a concentrated effort must be made to bring harmony and balance, but first, a recognition that perception is indeed, out of focus.

Walking through life, having a multitude of experience … some which bring joy, some triggering pain of many types … the latter causing a mind to narrow, the heart to shut down, to be somewhat ‘afraid’ to be open, to see a bigger picture. Fear of unpleasantness creates a little cage in which the mind becomes trapped.

The task for those wishing freedom, true freedom, is to step into that fear, to embrace ones self as vulnerability is allowed to come forth, to practice standing tall and strong in the face of that which causes pain. Being exposed one learns to be open and to practice forgiveness ~ of others, and of self. It is a long and difficult process, one which may never end, but without effort no progress will be made at all. This isn’t to say one ought to stand there and be hammered by the same individuals who trigger misery … only as much as we can take and then … Release.

Authenticity requires sensitivity and a willingness to bare the soul. Courage develops here … in a gentle allowing.

“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.” 
― Bruce Lee


Whatever You Desire

Published October 21, 2017 by tindertender

The hardest work you have to do is to learn to depend on your Inner Self because you have been taught to look always to someone else.
     ~ Venice J. Bloodworth


It may be difficult to comprehend, but you are not meant to bend to anyone elses will. You are a sovereign being and at the deepest core of you, you have something that is more real than anything that this world has taught you.

You may have been looking for it all your life, and you may have had proven to you, time and again, that it is not here. The issue of whether it is here or not isn’t the sad part … the sad part is that so many do not recognize that what they have been searching for dwells within them. People run around asking, “Do you have this love I seek? No? Well, how about you?” they ask the next person, and the next.

A wise woman once told me, and others, when it came to the proliferation of pain, and the holding back of that which is good … “STOP IT, just stop it.”

Individuals have power to turn tides, especially when working together to build harmony, and that which benefits the whole.

Darkness only holds those who permit it to. Without your consent, it cannot live in your heart, in your mind, and essentially, in your life. When you stand, when you rise above that snare, you are showing how it is done, and living a life that will assist others in doing the same.

See the BIG picture.
Know that everything is short lived,
Including negative scenarios.

Creating a world where love and goodness reign is indeed a possible reality … Upon your choosing, it will be … whatever you desire.

This dream that is ours
This dream that the world can wake up to itself
Through rapturous respect and radical reverence
This yearning for love
This unfurling request for tender living
This is not too much to ask|
For this is the way of our soul when we let the sunlight ripple in our mind
And the breezes teach us how to touch
When we let the gaze of the deer fall softly into our eyes
And the salmons steady returning remind us how to bow to our own beginnings
When the forest floor finally shows us how to share
And the steady patience of the trees seeps into the curve of our own spines
We shall fall softly into the dance
Of our own becoming
And recognize ourselves in all things living
But first we must bow
And allow
The remembering
That paves the path home
To reverence.

~ Clare Dubois, Founder of TreeSisters

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