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Giving & Receiving ~ Can Be SO HARD

Published June 27, 2018 by tindertender
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Abundance calls for giving, and that is what I did. I brought gifts for her, and him … I was told to be careful, or his wife would get jealous … I looked at her and gave her smile and a hug and asked that she not do that.

I remember the days when this would would happen to me … I would be suspicious of people when they were ‘too nice’. And so when I heard this it made me sad, for when people cannot accept genuine care without hooks or need of return, then the world becomes a sad and lonely place, suspicious of everyone and everything … essentially, what you see today.

I understand what is happening for I’ve worn the shoes of both aspects. I’ve been jealous, and yet I long to give, no strings attached. Jealousy usually comes from insecurity, in having the need for love, and not exactly trusting in that love.

When someone comes along with gifts and a smile, it doesn’t necessarily mean anything other than you’ve finally met someone who wishes to share and make life a little better. Someone who, by their actions, wishes to assist in the improvement of life in the whole of the world.

It can be difficult to trust when there has been so much hurt given. Shutting out kindness not only shuts out possibility for more hurt, but it closes the door to friendship, to care, to the ‘lifting’ of each other.

We must shed past habits of defense, to embrace sharing and caring, giving of ourselves to each other without strings … it’s the only way to heal.

Not everything is an attempt at theft … often, it is only an attempt of giving … receiving can be so hard.

“Humans are addicted to the illusion of separation. We fall for it constantly. We must protect ourselves from harm, but we are not separate from the fate of others. We are bound, relentlessly so, to one another. Harm to one is harm to the whole.”

Family & Friends

Published June 16, 2018 by tindertender
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Photo by Daan Stevens

It’s father’s day weekend, may you all be happy with your children. May there be peace between those parents who are separated (and still together) … for the sake of the kids.

Getting ready to go on a drive, meeting my father and new ‘family’. I have met a group of folks who are Sacred Wisdom Keepers, and they accepted me into their family so generously. Grateful to be alive and to have the opportunity to be part of something much larger than myself, or anything I’ve ever experienced.

I baked an apple/mango cobbler, and am bringing a crock pot full of butternut squash mac and cheese. No one told me it was necessary to do so, but that’s what I wish to contribute to this gathering, and so it is.

Blessings to you as you look for peace in your life this day, this weekend, this go ’round on the planet. May you understand that it is not in collecting things but in being part of something much bigger than self, something which benefits many.

Leave greed and need for power out of it, it has no place in the future of life.

Receive And Release

Published May 30, 2018 by tindertender

Sometimes what is thought about current reality is skewed, mistaken, in error. Someone comes along and tells a different story, sharing a perception they have from a different view. This sharing changes things, gives it a new perspective, opens the mind for alternatives and change that could possibly alter course for the better.

Remaining open and accepting of different ideas is so important in the land of learning. Sharing … and caring … is how we get along in this world.

It is plain that people have been pushed into a corner, a corner where only a few join them … family units. It is difficult to maintain in this fashion, for those who have pushed people into these boxes have also taken from them, leaving just enough to cause a scraping together of the minimum it takes to survive for a few more days. If any kind of illness or tragedy occurs, the walls come crashing down and they find no one there to support them.

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I see people coming to this realization. I see people expanding beyond these walls, reaching for each other. An awareness is coming to minds of this dire situation and they are creating change in the ‘family’ structure, change which is widening to include more than blood relatives.

The view on what a ‘blood relative’ is, is changing. We’ve all come from a long line of lineage. Tale has it that we stem from the same few who started life here on this planet. With this in mind, we are ALL family, related through time, DNA, and inherited knowledge.

Busting open the cage doors it is seen more clearly, the world as it is torn apart, as people from all over suffer. We see it, we feel the pain of it … from afar, and personally. This situation has been affecting everyone, some to greater extents than others. In this time the pressure is felt as the walls close in, even on those who have not suffered quite as extremely.

Those pulling strings have given some people a tad more ‘authority’ than others. They sit back and watch as these ones abuse the lesser, they laugh for they know the abusers do not realize that they, as well as the abused by their own hands, are equally deprived. Mind games, the manipulation is extreme, and people function in a sort of daze while they do the bidding of the ‘puppet master’, while they harm in the name of power … the illusion which will eventually be stripped from them.

Only those with awareness, and courage to look quite deeply into their own countenance can turn this around. Integrity, honor, morals and care for others must be at the core of all decisions. In sharing the bounty this earth provides we begin the flow once more.

Holding onto something, we see a clutching, an absorption, there is no flow in this. Only by releasing into the world that which does us good, by sharing, will the doors open for more to enter our own life. A steady movement of receiving and giving allows the proper cycle. Much like the wind moving through the house when a window is opened, and another across the room, so a cross breeze begins.

May you be touched by the goodness in the world today. May you realize this gift as it moves through you, and may you bless others with the presence only you can give the world.

Peace.

Sharing: Tune Up, Tune In

Published April 2, 2018 by tindertender

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Have you experienced receiving a lot, and yet when you try to give are refused? Have you given a lot, yet never been gifted? Sharing is a beautiful thing. It takes time to learn how to give, especially if we’ve had adverse experiences through life. It can be even more difficult to learn how to receive, from a humble heart.

Life is an amazing journey, full of ups and downs, ins and outs, rights and wrongs. It is sometimes experienced as pure innocence and love, followed by betrayal. As one attempts to remain in love there may be many betrayals of many kinds. There may be serious harms done to the body and the mind. It may be that the path of anger and destructive action and thinking becomes the norm. It may also be that after time, there is a life lived in the shadows, no light, no love, only huge darkness. After awhile (or longer), there may be a reaching for that innocent love once more.

stormy seaBeing a slave to the emotions is a horrible experience. Really good feelings, followed by really bad ones, being tossed about on an invisible sea, seemingly with no hope in sight of a brighter day of peace, of calm, of love lost regained.

Cultivating love and compassion from a damaged heart is a tough journey, but one most of us take. While life continues it may be discovered that vengeful thoughts and actions are poison to the soul, and the one harboring these thought forms is actually the one most affected … it has potential of robbing them of their soul. Sometimes it may be that they honestly do not care, and that they would rather die and take many with them on the way out. This is the hook. Although they may think they have the power, they are actually being manipulated by something more sinister than even they have capacity to understand.

EnergyRemember … choice is where the power dwells. Every individual has the option of choice on some level. When the emotion arises and says, ‘you will be in fear’ or ‘you will be angry’ or ‘you will be distraught’, personal choice has opportunity to say “No, Sir Emotion (or Ms Emotion) you are not in charge today, THIS will be the experience I choose to create instead.” Difficult? Yes. With practice it becomes easier.

Feel everything, intensely get to know you. This way it will become easier to distinguish what energies are yours, and those that belong to someone else. Responding then becomes a little bit easier once you know what you are and are not dealing with (eg: if it is yours or not). If it is yours, change it to what you would like it to be, if it is someone elses, determine steps needed for forward, positive, progression.

Deciding not to participate in drama can be as difficult as it is to quit smoking, or drinking, or gambling, or cussing. It is the same though … just a decision away from the change desired.

The Day That Everything Changed

Published March 22, 2018 by tindertender

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The sun was shining. Leaning back in my lounge chair I watched the river flow, the sun glistened off the rippling current, the sound lulled my mind. It was quite warm, and amazingly there were no thoughts, I was wide open and at peace.

Connection happened just then with those I had not been aware of. I felt like a girl who had just been bestowed with attention, special somehow. I looked around me yet could not physically see the source.

That was summer of 2002. I spent over a decade trying to convince myself of what others opinions were of it, that something must be wrong with me. I drove myself batty trying to come back into the person I was, but chaos ensued … going back was / is … not possible.

For many years after 2002 there was a struggle going on, one which crushed my life. It seemed as though I was not the same person, there was no peace, only constant tug of war in mind. One thing I’ve discovered through it all is there is within me a will of iron. I survived.

Sacred Community

I met a wonderful group where I lived for 10 years after this experience. They helped me open up and to see the possibility and wonder of sacred connection. Chaos began to quiet and I sought to understand, with support from others who had a different point of view than the so called professionals I had been listening to.

I moved again 2 years ago and spent time in solitude, processing some pretty intense emotion. Again, chaos settled. I began searching for others who understand that reality is not what we may have understood it to be, it is so … much … more.

Recently I was introduced to a small group who gathers and the teachings are different and profound. I feel my head ‘pressurizing’, or shall I say, ‘depressurizing’.

Finally, 16 years later, I am so close to releasing all that rubbish and beginning again, with what is true and good and beautiful. I am closer to that day of stillness in mind than I have been since the beginning, I sense it is so near, the space of ‘no thought’. It is not a spacey frame of mind, just complete stillness, in awareness. There is a comfort there I have missed greatly.

SunflowerSoon I will meet another group of people, who celebrate union with life in a different manner than past exposure. I am being blessed with these two introductions to varying groups of people, it’s as though the time has come … to try again, to merge.

Once again this life is molding into a we consciousness. Many others feel it too, it is seen in the actions of people in all arenas of the world.

What a wonderful thing to have someone state so clearly that the mind will find millions of ways to keep a life in suffering. Sometimes, when we aren’t used to sacred connection, ‘hearing’ is difficult, although it happens just the same. The ability to process information needs fine tuning, and I at least find it easiest to sit with others who have walked the path and are able to speak in a way that is readily understood.

My perception of what a wise man once said is, “You can stand stoically alone, strong, yet you are still alone.” Community helps us to stretch boundaries more swiftly, moving beyond where we are in solitude.

Being vulnerable is difficult, yet it is also the door to freedom, truth, and acceptance. There is no need to hide from each other any more.

It’s 11:11 a.m.

Published March 9, 2018 by tindertender

I seek once more … have there been changes recently in the time space continuum? Could the future have shifted due to one minor flip of thought? Perhaps …

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It is easy to get lost along the way, the mind races constantly, and unless effort is made to tame it, to lead it, we will be pulled here and pushed there by it.

The smallest of details show the largest of beauties. Their significance is as important as the air we breath, unnoticed much of the time, yet providing dramatic substance to daily life. Keeping in touch with the often overlooked things will bring balance to a chaotic world.

Viewing our self in the mirror made by events in life can be difficult, acknowledging that we attract our circumstances by our conscious choices can be a challenge. Remember to honor every part of your story as essential to your highest unfolding. Answers are found through honest self appraisal.

Stubbornness may have been ingrained in the DNA of humanity, for often we wander though life thinking we can do everything our self. Reaching goals requires cooperation with others, for only upon working together is it possible to utilize strengths we alone may not possess. It is important to let someone else be at the helm, taking a break here and there … a little nap will do us all good once in awhile. As on a long journey of road travel with companions, the destination is reached quickest if everyone rotates through a pre-planned and shifting driving schedule.

Gathering Strength

Published February 24, 2018 by tindertender

Look around you, really take in the beauty which is there. There has been a great disconnect from all that surrounds us.

The ‘stand’ which we take is not for us alone, but for the animals who have no way to protect themselves … from those intent on harming them.

This firm position we take is for the soils that produce for us needed nutrition to sustain life. The prayers and chants released in response to the waters call, we form a bond with that life giver which makes up the majority of all physical bodies. The air we breath now filled with toxins, released by an organization wishing harm, destruction, death. We rise and state our desire for truth, which is for every single organism on this earth.

The line between those who destroy, and those who do not wish it is thinning. An awareness is spreading across the globe, and a union between factions is taking place. People gather together for what they want for the world, for their loved ones.

Choice … the armies are forming. Who else can see it? One is funded by tax payers dollars, and the other is tax payers left without funding. It seems the odds are against us, however, this is exactly what we need. For those who have, rest in that knowledge, and those who have not dig deep, and form connection with something greater, something far more powerful that that which money and greed can buy.

This isn’t about left or right, red or blue, rich or poor. It is about what is good for ALL, and that which seeks to destroy it. It is about the core of who we are and what we birth into the world.

GreatnessEveryone will need to choose … have you decided where you stand? If so, how will the connection be strengthened with others to realize the goodness in your heart? We must learn to come together in a bond unbreakable, firm in solutions, and humble enough to listen intently to each other, adopting that which works for all, and releasing that which causes strife.

Conscious cooperation is possible. Greed does not live there. Only a desire for peace … which war never brings. Collecting our personal energies, combined together, greatness will occur. Do you believe this?

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