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Sacrifice or Theft?

Published January 18, 2019 by tindertender

To offer sacrifice does not mean killing self, or any other form of living, breathing flesh. For years I have rebelled at the thought of anyone thinking it necessary to shed blood in order to appease God, or The Gods. It just seems so ridiculous to me.

Sacrifice does mean to put self second to another, to relinquish the lead so to speak. Yet when this relinquishing is suggested by another, or forced upon one, then it is no sacrifice … it is theft.

Many cultures practiced sacrifice, human and animal. They believe(d) that spilling the blood of a living soul somehow appeased the Gods and gain(s) them personal favor, power or reprieve. Perhaps it did/does … but it wasn’t/isn’t a true sacrifice. It was/is bastardized.

True sacrifice is willingly, without even a thought needed, gifting life, limb, or well-being so that another may live, and live better, safer, or more substantially. Parents to children, most would not hesitate to lay down their lives for them. Jumping between one who is plotting harm to another and the potential victim … that is sacrifice. Often, most often, these sacrifices aren’t intentional on a conscious level, they usually do not know they could die, they don’t even think about it … for the most part. Seeing a wrong and stepping up in effort to make it right without hesitation … now that’s beauty.

A person typically does not go searching for an opportunity to lay down life. Sometimes it cannot be avoided.

Being inclined to help someone in NO way requires a giving up of ones own sovereignty. If one does choose to lay down their power, to give it to someone else, that is not sacrifice, that is a choice to stop living. USING ones power so that another may live … that is the difference in the gift … and is why I say theft in one format, and gift in the other.

One instance is dark and greedy, filled with a need for power. The other instance is selfless, a joined effort in the hope of bettering the moment, or situation. No one thinks about someone dying in these selfless acts, there is simply a connection and aid from the heart. No one cedes sovereignty, in fact, all parties embrace their own and utilize it to assist each other … usually.

Let us hope that people will understand the difference and begin to embrace their own highest potential for good in the world … and share it so that it may grow and spread like the finest garden ever created.

Time To Heal

Published February 13, 2018 by tindertender

Divinity, in my mind, is about respect, compassion and honor. It doesn’t force itself on anyone. Instead, it sits back and allows people to live their lives as they wish, waiting for the time when they will be in a position to kick back and dwell in the afterlife of their choosing, the world they create.

Become awareUnfortunately, there are many who live in a constant state of chaos and ill will. They spin hurt and harm wherever they go, in all of its forms. This is the world many create, and when the body quits them, they will do everything they can to escape their fate. This includes butting in on other humans lives, trying to find an escape route into something more pleasant.

This could be why so many are behaving in such a brash manner, being completely selfish, for they are under the influence of these others who have realized too late their error.

Humanity is equipped with a will so strong it can overcome all obstacles, ALL of them, yet they often choose to be embraced, and then to return the embrace, of ill will. This is no excuse for bad behavior.

The bulk of energy spent in life should be given to self, as one fortifies their own mind in ability to withstand these attacks, and come back to center, stronger than before. There’s a difference between caring for self, and being selfish.

Anger is a serious issue. I know this is true … personal experience has brought all kinds of it to my mind and life, leaking into the lives of those around me. I also know it is choice which allows the release of it. The human will is strong and determined, whatever it is applied to will be.

The fate of the world really does lie in our hands, in our determination. Pain and anger will cause a person to retaliate, often upon those who had nothing to do with the creation of their pain. Many times, the ones we think cause our pain or anger, have only set our triggers of an underlying issue. Until this is dealt with, all people we deal with will eventually flip a trigger, and we’ll swim in pain and anger. Not only personally, but it will be inflicted into the world, causing the same ol’ same ol’ crap we’ve seen, over and over in its cycle.

Time to heal_1Often it is the pity we have for those suffering which keeps us trapped in scenarios which are hurtful. The fact is, we are the most important factor in our lives. If we do not show sufficient compassion to our self, we will never be able to give proper care to anyone else … truth.

Here is the advice of one … people who suffer anger and pain ought to delve deep inside, find the cause and deal with it, heal it. Those who suffer at the hands of those in pain and anger … walk away, reclaim your energy and do not let it be used to flame the fire of this persons issue. Instead, harness it and use it to heal yourself.

Where attention goes, energy flows.
It’s time to starve out anger and pain.
It’s time to heal.

 

 

A Free Ride

Published November 9, 2017 by tindertender

That’s what they’re after. That is what they have been taking advantage of all of these years … riding upon the backs of people who are full of integrity and care, who allow them to piggy back simply due to the compassion which resides in their hearts. There is a time though, when the load must be lightened. Constantly giving to those who consume, who take relentlessly, is no longer an option.

If you are one who has been the caregiver of an energetic vampire(s), you know full well what I am saying. Too long you have given, given so much that you have depleted your reserves, to the point where little remains for yourself.

They disrespect you as you allow them to walk upon your spirit, your soul. They laugh and tell themselves how smart they are, getting you to behave as they wish you to. But you see now … you see more clearly than you may have ever seen. You also recognize that self care is not selfish, regardless of what the takers want you to believe. You know that what they say is not your personal story.

You understand that the ending of a cycle is coming to a close, rapidly. You sense that the beginning of an era is upon you … upon all of us in the world. With eyes and mind wide open, you see the changes occurring in the masses, you relate to them, for these changes are also occurring in you.

Giving a free ride to those who choose not to work toward wholeness, preferring to be leeches of the world, does no one any good. The world needs you to rise, to shine like the magnificent spark of life you are. Take off the tether, walk your journey as it is meant to be walked. Give yourself permission to be free.

Personal Permission

True Self

Published October 15, 2017 by tindertender

True Self

What the world needs now more than anything else is authentic human beings. You need more examples of your genuine nature to inspire others and to give others the opportunity to see themselves. You see, when you are true to yourself, you are more good to your fellow humans than when you pretend to be what you think you are supposed to be.

💛💚💙💜

Leroy Boekhout van Solinge

Self Love

Published September 18, 2017 by tindertender

“Self Love ~ This is not lust behind you.”

Over time, throughout life, you may have been told that it is selfish to think of yourself before others, you may have been made to feel shame for doing so.

Shed that falsehood. It was only meant to control you.

You Are EnoughSelf love is not found in the opinion of what others have over your ‘appearance’ or ‘what you possess’. It is not found in the passion (lust) one may feel for you.

Self love comes from respecting yourself, from going within and discovering who you are. It comes from looking around at the people in your life and seeing whether they add to, or subtract from, the value you feel ought to be there. Not through ‘things’ but through actions.

Are you being assisted? Are the household chores shared? Who feeds the animals every night? Who cooks the dinner and cleans afterward? Laundry? Who changes the sheets on the bed? When every electronic gadget in the house is left on, whether in use or not, does this speak of caring about what the monthly bill will be? Does this carelessness show concern over the pocketbook and what is left for necessary purchases?

Look at the small things, the little things that add up to so much. Go deep into your heart and mind and see there what you find has true value.

A comparison I like to use is … seeds, or money (things)? When shtf, what do you suppose will have more value?

12 Steps For Self Care

Published August 22, 2017 by tindertender

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We see everywhere we look people marching for this and for that, attempting to “change” other peoples minds about a different number of subjects.

The truth is, we have better control over changing our own heart and mind, and this is often the most avoided method of altering the world reality.

When we say, “So and so is this or that”, we ought to ask our self, “Am I this or that?” Only by doing this will we better understand that we, and they, are not so different, and the opportunity for change becomes greater.

It is near impossible to change the heart and mind of another, but it is absolutely possible, and a necessity, to look deep into our own heart and mind, shifting all behaviors that do not benefit us, or the whole.

Leading by example is the most effective way to alter the course of our collective future.

 

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