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Who is the Witness?

Published December 26, 2018 by tindertender

Someone speaks of a witness. I ask, “Who is the Witness?”

“Don’t worry about it”, he says.

There is a female who thinks there is a giant trap and asks, “Has anyone helped this person?”

A male calls me a slut. I ask him, “What do you consider yourself to be? You are an invader, a spy and a traitor … and I am your witness.”

As horrible as circumstances currently are in various places of the world, it is not difficult to be a witness. Observation is one of the easiest things to do, yet many are overwhelmed with outside influences to notice, taking everything personally, getting so entangled they cannot see clearly.

There is a consistent phrase being stated, “She’s stronger than I thought she was.” And I say, “I hope you are not in a position of power for obviously you do not know the art of leadership. You ought to look at every situation/person as though they are strong enough … simple, basic rules that you seem unaware of. But maybe you just got lazy.”

I ask, “What would you like, a chrysalis or a spiders silken thread casing? I do not see you being interested in transformation, so it might have to be the webbed casing.”

If it can be imagined, it will be. They’re all a bunch of ‘no names’, I wonder why? Secrecy, or perhaps they were never given names. One speaks up and says, “Gracie told me all about you.” Aaaahhh, finally, a name spoken, and no, I do not know a Gracie (except for my brothers new puppy).

This is a predominately male group who believes me to be dangerous. One of them is looking forward to the end of the sounds of constant crying.

When I was younger, at a tender age, alcohol was introduced to me. It is incredible how something that tastes so nasty can actually become a habit. I experienced over time a hidden manipulation which produced constant betrayal, despair and anger. These substances make the unseens job much easier, for it breaks down our will and our desire to fight that which intends to cause ruination of life.

There was a time daily living and events were puppeted without me having a conscious understanding. When I broke through the veil (which nearly killed me) I began to see what was actually going on. I could hear them working their plans, they hooked my mind in the attempt to control my actions.

Fortunately, there has been one who has loved me from beyond since the beginning. He sent to me those who assisted in the dissolving of the ‘hooks’ and stood by me as I built strength to overcome the invasive presence. Yes, they are still here, working diligently for the end they desire. And yes, I am their witness.

The odd thing is that although I’ve always been empathic, my senses are more so these days. People do not have to say a word, their energies tell the story far better than mere words could ever portray.

I’ve been in the practice of discerning energies, what is mine, what is being broadcast into my space. I have not been in the practice of searching others energies … only when they are placed in my space. I knew in the past how this felt, although I did not understand what it was … fully. I still do not understand it fully, but this journey I will continue to share with those who wish to read of it.

There will come a time when these skills will be needed, fine tuning is a must. The work is difficult, for transforming negativity is not an easy task, although with practice, it has gotten much easier.

As the energies of the planet shift, so shall the energies of the human, and they will become more conscious and aware of them. They will begin to see what the affects of their past actions and behaviors have had, and are having, on the world in which they live. At this point, there will be a clear choice to continue doing that which causes chaos and harm, or alter actions and words to build a brighter future.

This in no way means to allow others to stampede or break barriers. It means to stand ground for what is righteous and good … there are rules which must be respected, these rules will be enforced. My hope is that those who are hurting will realize that suffering people create suffering, hurt people hurt other people. When they understand this, they will be better able to view their actions and break the cycle, becoming part of the solution rather than adding to the problems we’ve been facing.

It is my belief we are in the end times. The battle is intensifying and while we would rather not be disrupted in our life, we will be … like it or not. It is better to be aware, to firm ourselves up, and prepare for this battle.

https://www.wake-up.org/two-witnesses/two-witnesses-revelation.html

The Coming New World

Published December 18, 2018 by tindertender

I saw him there, up high on the tallest mountain. He seemed so far away, and yet also quite near. I was in a meadow, the sun was shining upon the golden grasses. Before walking straight into the sun, and I believe into this life, I looked to the right and up at him as he stood there looking out over the trees. He looked at me, and without words told me he was mine.

There are those who still seek the messiah. They believe he will do certain things … granting favor to some, while rebuking others.

This ‘thing’ people devote their lives to, noses in books, focused on learning as much as they can so they will earn the reward of heaven … it lacks the heart, it lacks true connection to that which they long to have relationship with. Yes, studying the scripture is a much better habit than many others out there in the world, but still it is a habit, done with hope of reward in mind.

I see very little kindness given to each other.

A person just yesterday made claim that arthritis can be cured. The communication was a bit condescending as this person refused to offer any kind of documentation, advice, or links to this ‘cure’, claiming instead that they were not presently taking any new clients.

There are many people who have made it their ‘job’ of helping people. Unfortunately, most of them refuse to assist folks unless they get paid, offering opinions on what people are doing wrong, and never offering advice on how to get it right, without payment. One can only wonder, do they actually know what they speak of, or are they merely a scam artist, looking for that paycheck?

What ever happened to sharing knowledge with each other for the sake of helping each other, no reciprocation necessary … yet reciprocation always is, because all people do the same? It used to blow my mind how co-workers refused to share any of their knowledge of certain skills … it was as though they feared they might be replaced, or perhaps they felt that by sharing, the one who would benefit from the knowledge would not have to work as hard at learning. Isn’t this the point though? To make life easier for each other?

I understand the need to make a living, I really do … I’ve been doing it for a number of years. There is a difference in being of service, and of being insulting of others efforts in order to drum up business. Circumstances have gotten quite twisted as the idea of success revolves around ‘money’ and ‘status’ rather than a genuine sharing and caring.

We are going back to a healthier way of being, sooner than any of us really know.

I sit here eating a cinnamon roll and I think, oh yes this is tasty … tasty poison. I look forward to the day when poison will not be in our food, when the soil our vegetables are grown in is not full of toxins, and when the water runs pure once more, in rivers and in rain. What is good for the mind and body will require a little more effort than swinging into a drive through for that poison burger … no concept of the hidden within which is eaten.

I look forward to sentient beings not being used for food. No more rivers of blood, no more terror, or pain or abuse for any living being.

My hope is, that what is coming does so swiftly. May those that are left in the aftermath help each other rather than harm each other. May the world which is reborn be a kinder, gentler world, where honor, morals, and integrity are inhabited in the heart and mind … may love and kindness outweigh them all, and may greed and need for power be forever abolished.

In The Name Of ‘Science’ ~ Blowing Holes In The Universe

Published December 9, 2018 by tindertender

Have you ever asked yourself why there is a treaty regarding Antarctica? What is so special about this place and why have so many countries agreed that all things related to Antarctica be done with peace?

Looking around this world we see clearly that mere men war constantly in all parts of this world. They sell weapons to those who would destroy each other, they manipulate people so they will do harm, rather than good. This leaves serious questions about what it is that would make them actually ‘agree’ on anything, actually upholding a treaty made in 1959.

Countries all over this globe signed treaties with the indigenous people of their own land and did not honor them … again, what is it that incites them to be so careful in relation to Antarctica?

“Operation Deep Freeze I was the International Geophysical Year 1957–58. IGY as it was known was a collaborative effort among forty nations to carry out earth science studies from the North Pole to the South Pole and at points in between.”

I find it intriguing that the ozone was being studied since the year 1957-58, right after Operation Deep Freeze started.

Do you find it interesting that the ‘mission’ is: ” … to understand the Antarctic and its associated ecosystems; to understand the region’s effects on, and responses to, global processes such as climate; and to use Antarctica’s unique features for scientific research that cannot be done as well elsewhere.” … and this is also where a huge hole in the ozone layer resides? What kind of energy weaponry are they toying with in this region, have you considered this might be the cause?

In 2002, “Switzerland sought a greater say in how Antarctica is administered amid growing concerns about the continent’s environmental health.” The Large Hadron Collider (CERN) is also located in Switzerland.

Is it possible these countries involved in this ‘treaty’ are punching holes in the ozone, and possibly in other dimensions, or parallel universes?

Do you think the so called ‘devils’ in our shadow world are actually other life forms which have been pulled into this realm, trapped here? If so, they are probably pretty pissed their lives have been disrupted … I know I would be. Governments and priests would have you believe they are devils … but the devils are those who are punching holes in the space/time continuum, claiming it is ‘science’.

They have come right out and admitted what CERN is being used for. Are these ‘scientists’ actually trying to duplicate the Big Bang? Yes … they are. Indeed they have. Worlds, time-lines, and life in all realms is being disrupted and destroyed. “The LHC allows scientists to reproduce the conditions that existed within a billionth of a second after the Big Bang by colliding beams of high-energy protons or ions at colossal speeds, close to the speed of light. This was the moment, around 13.7 billion years ago, when the Universe is believed to have started with an explosion of energy and matter.”

The World Wide Web was born at CERN. Yes, I know the story … but how did this get ‘born’. My belief is, it is stolen technology from other worlds. Perhaps they made promises to those who unwittingly found themselves pulled into this dimension, such as making things right in exchange for knowledge, and then went back on their word as they have since the beginning of time on this planet.

The Higgs Boson isn’t the God particle. It’s the God-damn particle.

“Before the discovery of the Higgs on July 4, 2012, physicists had a theory but no proof to explain how elementary particles like electrons and quarks got their mass. Such was the frustration that Leon Lederman, a Nobel Prize-winning physicist, wanted to title his 1993 book on the subject The Goddamn Particle: If the Universe is the Answer, What is the Question? Sensing this to be too controversial, his publishers switched it to the “God particle” – which in itself has irked those who believe that religion and science are separate spheres.”

https://www.topic.com/a-crimson-fracture-in-the-sky

I just have to shake my head at the stupidity of those in charge. “Hi-altitude atomic weapons tests” between June and November, 1962. At the time of Tightrope, the United States had detonated close to 300 nuclear weapons at various sites around the South Pacific Ocean and American Southwest. The Atomic Energy Commission, is now known as the Department of Energy.

Then there’s Operation Dominic, coinciding with Operation Fish Bowl, also in 1962. The atmosphere is not suffering due to carbon emissions and fires in the homes of people who have the fireplace … no. It is due to the never ending weapons testing, nuclear and uranium and whatever other death toys they’ve develop and must play with. To blame the damage of the ozone and climate change on the general public is absurd, and an outright lie.

https://nuclearweaponarchive.org/Usa/Tests/Dominic.html

… and we wonder why the atmosphere is in such ‘sad and dangerous to life’ health.

I’ve gone a little rogue on this topic, so I’ll end it here. May your research into the Truth be steady and strong, despite the paid trolls who will try and argue, attempting to make you sound ‘cray-cray’. Don’t let them put those thoughts in your head, these covert operations which are killing our world, and the worlds of those beyond, has gone on long enough … they must be stopped, and it starts with mass awareness.

References:

https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2016/09/7-things-you-didn-t-know-about-cern-and-the-strange-world-of-particle-physics-c362a466-43a1-449d-9719-9e9d97e6a293/

https://youtu.be/sZ_380rii88

https://www.ats.aq/e/ats.htm

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_E._Byrd

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Deep_Freeze

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_Antarctic_Program

https://home.cern/about

https://stfc.ukri.org/research/particle-physics-and-particle-astrophysics/large-hadron-collider/

http://www.theozonehole.com/askthescientist.htm

Love / Hate Relationships

Published December 6, 2018 by tindertender

The impostor would have you believe in their ‘innocence’, when their only intention is to make one falter, and fail. The differences, seemingly subtle, are quite stark in contrast … do not be fooled.

If there was honor in consciousness the task would be dealt with and done. Those who stay and pretend to care have one objective, and it is not peace … it is destruction of peace. If it were otherwise we would be seeing and experiencing peace by now. This is how you can distinguish between the chaos maker and the truth.

These liars are very good at playing innocent. Their goal is distraction, for they wish to keep you from your purpose of building a sane society in which people actually care for others.

When people benefit from the hard work of others, without contributing anything in return, replenishing that which has been utilized, then supply is depleted for all. There are takers, those who feel privileged to receive that which others have worked for, taking and taking, and there are others who would share, paying it forward. Should supply be worked for and paid forward, it eventually comes full circle once more, benefiting the original ‘gifter’, benefiting all in a continuous cycle.

Get out of here pretender. I am sick of your lies. There may not be a happy ending for you, nor for me, but there will be an ending … and there will be a new beginning.

Healing In A Corrupt World

Published December 5, 2018 by tindertender

Can corruption be repaired from the inside out? Or must it be done from the outside in? I’m thinking perhaps a combination of both. The work must be done from the inside but often requires outside assistance. All facets of this life must be able to flow together for successful change to occur.

People are purposefully raised in a corrupt system where fear and lack and constant need are reinforced in the mind and in life. This scenario steals from them the ability to see clearly, which is why it is important to believe in something, or someone, larger than self … for this is what will bring about openings, making it possible to see, and then act for change.

Confusion has been a constant in this world for as long as I can remember, and probably since the beginning of the cycles of time. The force behind it has pretty much guaranteed its continuance … but major shifts are happening now, disrupting the ‘norm’.

Those on the outside assisting matters have been portrayed to the human psyche as devils, as those who wish harm. Any time anyone hears something others do not, it is labeled as mental illness, or the presence of devils. Sometimes this may be the case, but not all times. So while people run in fear, medicating the reality of possible solution to pain away, the actual pain cycle persists.

This situation has been carefully planned, this is what must be transformed. A ‘counter’ is in store, a turning back of that which has infected minds. Will the new ‘wave’ be everything we are, but in opposite order? I hope it will be better than that.

The circle of life is not a circle at all. It is made of many segments which appear circular. If too many segments appear, does the circle disappear? Or is a corrupt segment simply removed to preserve the ‘circle’? How many segments have been removed? How many segments have been added? By whom?

How many people will choose to be kind once they realize it is beneficial to everybody? I would guess that everyone who wishes to live in a kind world would, and those who wish to destroy the world would not.

I catch myself saying, “I’m not very good at manifesting”, but perhaps I am and it comes so naturally it is imperceptible. My core belief is that all people are manifestors, awesome creators. It is also my belief that the human body and mind is the amplifier of Spirit. Yet with all of the toxic systems infecting the mind, the purposefully imposed drama and trauma in the world, that is what has been amplified.

Once this reality is understood it will be clear that the opposite must be cultivated in the mind and heart. These thought forms which have become so constant they’ve become habitual in the majority of life must be equally, and more so, purposefully changed, altered, shifted into a positive. In this way, the positive will begin to be amplified by Source energies when they meet the human body and mind.

Is it easy? That is a BIG NO. It is however necessary, should we desire true change.

People think they need to change the world all on their own, most people have no idea where to start, the task is monumental! It is much simpler than we may think it is. By growing peace in the mind, compassion in the heart, and truly seeing your own burdens carried, also being carried and experienced by someone else, on their shoulders and their life also … maybe in a different format, but a burden the same, then care shows up. The sense of aloneness begins to fade, and realization that we all share eerily similar traits and experiences becomes clear.

This then is what is grown when Spirit, when Source energy meets us. The care, the compassion, the knowledge of our similarities grows. Soon after, all of that other stuff, the ugliness that we have been trained to adopt and hold as our own is released. That crap is not ours … it never was.

My attention was nabbed by a song on the radio, the lyrics made me smile and I wrote them down, for this I feel is a message that is meant to be shared …

Take my hand. Let me take you to Love Land.

Spinning Entry … or Standing Still

Published November 18, 2018 by tindertender

How many doors are there to all knowledge? Is one forced to locate ‘A’ door? Pigeon holed into one line of entry? Or are there many doors, everywhere, all along life’s path?

Wherever we find ourselves on the journey, we will find, upon deep reflection, we are actually in the eye of the storm, standing smack dab in the middle of where all doors … and openings … meet.

Do you dare enter one of the doors? Or do you open them all and stand center, sending love and song and sweetness into each of them? Not really joining with, or meshing with any single room, or path, or group.

She spins right, wearing her white dress. Sparkles begin to fly off of her as she spins, entering the dark opening of each door. It’s as though a tube is surrounding all of them, and sliding down the rim of the aperture is Golden streams, like water dripping down the outer edges. Darkness is behind, yet these golden rivulets are reflecting light.

She stands in a circle of light and all of the doors seem to disappear, all except one large opening. It seems to open into darkness, but as she looks at it, it begins to glow slightly blue, ever so subtle in the dim, near impenetrable view.

Aaahhh, sunset. The sky a pale blue as the light fades. Silhouettes begin to appear. Buildings, hills, and anything that is abound the earth.

Hair like liquid gold, parted on the right. Gentle waves and a thin band across the forehead. Features delicate, beautiful … yet eyes are like liquid, icy laser beams. Your energy pushes against my middle and a sensation like … fear? … butterflies?

I wonder, your features say you are young, your stature small … yet there is no such thing as small is there? That is a word humans dreamed up after they stuffed themselves into a flesh suit. Reality … who are you really? Why are you pretending to be small when in fact you are so very large? Are you here to burn away my illusion? What if I’m not ready? What if I’m comfortable in the uncomfortableness?

Strange. I thought myself courageous, brave, and willing to face what is … yet this moment allows me to understand there is still fear embedded in the mind. It holds me back from walking through doors, from committing to anything, to remaining aloof.

One thing I’ve learned is that while patient, there is only so much of it that can be offered an individual. At some point, the comfortable will be pushed into discomfort, forced to stretch beyond that which they know. We’re forced to face our fear, willingly … or kicking and screaming.

I think again about what nice means. I think to myself, it wasn’t very nice of me to yell at someone the other day. Fortunately for me, he forgives easily, quickly, and just lets it go like it never happened. Then on the other hand I know someone who refuses to even try to come to an understanding, about what? I do not know. I realize I’m swimming between two poles of experience with two different people. One who forgives and moves on, the other who refuses and fosters negativity. Two completely different reality’s, and me standing in the middle … sometimes frustrated by it all.

All of a sudden I consider many other things as well.

Many … other … things …

Men Cause 100% of Unwanted Pregnancies

Published November 17, 2018 by tindertender

The author, Gabrielle Blair.

Our conversation about abortion places the burden of responsibility on women. I argue men are the root cause.

As a mother of six and a Mormon, I have a good understanding of arguments surrounding abortion, religious and otherwise. When I hear men discussing women’s reproductive rights, I’m often left with the thought that they have zero interest in stopping abortion.

If you want to prevent abortion, you need to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Men seem unable (or unwilling) to admit that they cause 100% of them.

I realize that’s a bold statement. You’re likely thinking, “Wait. It takes two to tango!” While I fully agree with you in the case of intentional pregnancies, I argue that all unwanted pregnancies are caused by the irresponsible ejaculations of men. All of them.

Don’t believe me?

Fertility stats and the calendar, it’s easy to see that men are the issue here.
Let’s start with this: A woman’s egg is only fertile for about two days each month. Yes, there are exceptions, because nature. But one egg which is fertile two days each month is the baseline. And those fertile eggs are produced for a limited number of years. This means, on average, women are fertile for about 24 days per year.
But men are fertile 365 days a year. In fact, if you’re a man who ejaculates multiple times a day, you could cause multiple pregnancies daily. In theory, a man could cause 1000+ unwanted pregnancies in just one year. While it’s true that sperm gets crappier as men age, it doesn’t have a fertility expiration date; men can cause unwanted pregnancies from puberty until death. So, starting with basic fertility stats and the calendar, it’s easy to see that men are the issue here.
As a society, we really don’t mind if women suffer, physically or mentally, as long as it makes things easier for men.
“But what about birth control?” you might ask. “ If a woman can manage to figure out how to get an abortion, surely she can use birth control to avoid unwanted pregnancy, right?”
Great question. Modern birth control for women is possibly the most important invention of the last century, and I’m very grateful for it. It’s also brutal. The side effects for many women include migraines, mood swings, decreased libido, depression, severe cramps, heavy bleeding, aneurysm — and that’s just a small fraction of them.
Discouragingly, a promising study on a new male contraceptive was canceled in large part due to… (wait for it)… side effects. To be clear, this list of side effects was about one-third as long as the known side effects for commonly used women’s contraception. There’s a lot to unpack in that story alone. I’ll simply point out that, as a society, we really don’t mind if women suffer, physically or mentally, as long as it makes things easier for men.
But, men, I’ve got good news. Even with the horrible side effects, women are (amazingly!) very willing to use birth control. Unfortunately, it’s harder to get than it should be, but that doesn’t keep women from trying. Birth control options for women require a doctor’s appointment — sometimes multiple doctor’s appointments — and a prescription. They’re not always free, and often not cheap. Some are actually trying to make female birth control options more expensive by allowing insurance companies to refuse to cover them. In addition, contraceptive options for women can’t be easily acquired at the last minute. In most cases, they don’t work instantly.
The pill requires consistent daily use and doesn’t leave much room for mistakes, forgetfulness, or unexpected disruptions to daily schedules. Again, the side effects can be brutal — and not just in rare cases. Despite the hassle and side effects, I’m still grateful for birth control. (Please don’t take it away.) But it’s critical to understand that women’s birth control isn’t simple or easy.
In contrast, let’s look at birth control for men — i.e., condoms. They’re readily available at all hours, inexpensive, convenient, and don’t require a prescription. They’re effective and work on demand, instantly. They don’t cause aneurysms, mood swings, or debilitating cramps. Men can keep them stocked up just in case, so they’re always prepared. They can be easily used at the last minute. I mean, condoms are magic! So much easier than birth control options for women.
As a bonus, most women are totally on board with condoms. They keep us from getting STDs. They don’t lessen our pleasure during sex or prevent us from climaxing. The best part? Cleanup is so much easier — no waddling to the toilet as jizz drips down our legs.
So why would there ever be unwanted pregnancies? Why don’t men just use condoms every time they have sex? Seems so simple, right?

Oh. I remember. Men don’t love condoms. In fact, it’s very, very common for men to pressure women to have sex without a condom. It’s also not unheard of for men to remove the condom during sex without the women’s permission or knowledge. (Pro tip: That’s assault.)

Why would men want to have sex without a condom? Because, for the precious minutes when they’re penetrating their partner, not wearing a condom gives them more pleasure. So… that would mean some men are willing to risk getting a woman pregnant — which means literally risking her life, her health, her social status, her relationships, and her career — so they can experience a few minutes of slightly increased pleasure. Is this for real?

Yes. Yes, it is.

Pregnancies happen when men have an orgasm. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.

Imagine a pleasure scale, with pain beginning at zero and going down into the negatives. A good back-scratch falls at 5, and an orgasm without a condom is a 10. Where would sex with a condom fall? A 7 or 8? So, it’s not that sex with a condom is not pleasurable, it’s just not as pleasurable. An 8 instead of a 10.

Let me emphasize that again: Men regularly choose to put women at massive risk in order to experience a few minutes of slightly increased pleasure.

For the truly condom-averse, men also have a non-condom, always-ready birth control option built right in: the pull-out. It doesn’t protect against STDs, it’s an easy joke, and it’s far from perfect. However, it’s 96% effective if done correctly, and 78% effective in practice (because it’s often not done correctly).

Still, many men who resist wearing condoms never learn how to pull out correctly. Apparently, it’s slightly more pleasurable to climax inside a vagina than, say, on their partner’s stomach. Once again, men are willing to risk the life, health, and well-being of women in order to experience a tiny bit more pleasure for roughly five seconds during orgasm.

Think of the choice men are making here. Honestly, I’m not as mad as I should be about this, because we’ve trained men from birth to disassociate sex and pregnancy. We’ve taught them that their pleasure is of utmost importance.

As a general rule, men get women pregnant by having an orgasm. Yes, there are exceptions — it’s possible for sperm to show up in pre-ejaculate — but in most cases, getting a woman pregnant is a pleasurable act for men. But men can get a woman pregnant without her feeling any pleasure at all. It’s even possible for a man to impregnate a woman while causing her excruciating pain, trauma, or horror.
In contrast, a woman can have nonstop orgasms with or without a partner and never once get herself pregnant. A woman’s orgasm has literally nothing to do with pregnancy or fertility — her clitoris exists simply for pleasure, not for creating new humans. No matter how many orgasms she has, they won’t make her pregnant.
Pregnancies happen when men have an orgasm. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.
A woman can be the sluttiest slut in the entire world, she can love having orgasms all day and all night long, and she will never find herself with an unwanted pregnancy unless a man shows up and ejaculates irresponsibly. Though our society tends to villainize female pleasure, women’s enjoyment of sex does not equal unwanted pregnancy and abortion. Men’s enjoyment of sex and irresponsible ejaculations do.
Let’s move to the topic of responsibility. Often, men don’t know, don’t ask, and don’t think to ask if they’ve caused a pregnancy. There are often zero consequences for men who cause unwanted pregnancies.
If the woman decides to have an abortion, the man may never even know he caused an unwanted pregnancy with his irresponsible ejaculation. If the woman decides to have the baby, or put the baby up for adoption, the man may never know he caused an unwanted pregnancy with his irresponsible ejaculation either. He may never know there’s now a child walking around with 50% of his DNA.

If the woman does tell him he caused an unwanted pregnancy and that she’s having the baby, the closest thing to a consequence for him is child support. Our current child support system is a well-known joke. Only about 61 percent of required payments by men are actually made, and there are little to no repercussions for skipping out. In some states, failing to pay child support doesn’t even affect your credit.

If a man does pay child support, it doesn’t come close to what is required by a woman in the case of an unwanted pregnancy.

Let’s talk about abortion. When the topic comes up, men might think: Abortion is horrible; women should not have abortions. Never once do they consider the man who caused the unwanted pregnancy.

If you actually care about reducing or eliminating the number of abortions in our country, simply hold men accountable for their actions.

If we’re discussing abortion law — and not how to hold men accountable for irresponsible ejaculations, and the unwanted pregnancies caused by them — we’re wasting our time. Shift the conversation. Stop protesting at clinics. Stop shaming women. Stop debating whether or not to overturn abortion laws. If you actually care about reducing or eliminating the number of abortions in our country, simply hold men accountable for their actions.

What would that look like? A real and immediate consequence for men who cause an unwanted pregnancy. What kind of consequence would make sense? Should it be as harsh, painful, nauseating, scarring, expensive, risky, and life-altering … as forcing a woman to go through a nine-month unwanted pregnancy?
If you consider abortion to be murder, consider this thought experiment: Would you be on board with having a handful of men castrated to prevent 600,000 murders each year? If this argument sounds too provocative, could it be that many of us have a hard time wrapping our heads around a physical punishment for men? We seem to be more than fine with physical punishments for women. Perhaps we care more about policing women’s bodies, morality, and sexuality than we do about reducing or eliminating abortions.

Here’s another prevention idea: All males in the U.S. could get a vasectomy when they are ready to be sexually active. Vasectomies are very safe, highly reversible, and about as invasive as a woman getting an IUD implanted. In most cases, there’s some soreness afterwards for about 24 hours, but that’s pretty much it for side effects. (Take a moment to remember that female contraception options, used by millions of women in our country and billions across the world, have well-known side effects which can be brutal and severe — and yes, also include soreness.) If and when a man becomes a responsible adult, finds a mate, and wants to have a baby, the vasectomy can be reversed and then redone once the childbearing stage is over. Each man can bank their sperm before the vasectomy, just in case.

Don’t like my ideas? That’s fine. I’m sure there are better ideas, and I challenge you to suggest your own. My point is we need to stop focusing on women if we’re trying to get rid of abortions. Think of abortion as the “cure” for an unwanted pregnancy. To stop abortions, we need to prevent the “disease” — meaning, the unwanted pregnancy itself. And the only way to do that is by focusing on men, because irresponsible ejaculations by men cause 100% of unwanted pregnancy.

Ask yourselves: What would it take for you to value the life of your sexual partner more than your own temporary pleasure or convenience?

If you’re a man, what would it take for you to never again ejaculate irresponsibly? A loss of money, rights, or freedoms? Physical pain? Ask yourselves: What would it take for you to value the life of your sexual partner more than your own temporary pleasure or convenience?

Men mostly run our government, and men mostly make our laws. In theory, men could eliminate — or drastically reduce — abortions within months without ever touching an abortion law or even mentioning women. They’d simply need to hold men accountable for irresponsible ejaculations, and legislate accordingly.
To reduce or eliminate abortions, stop attempting to control women’s bodies and sexuality. Because unwanted pregnancies are caused by men.
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