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Published August 19, 2019 by tindertender

Written by Huntsman@Flyover_Country

Leadership is one of the key concerns of those who wish to explore the totality of the masculine experience.

This is specifically for the man who wants to step up and be a respected leader of other men, as well as women and children.

This is NOT for the guy who wants to argue the utility of ethics.

If a discussion of ethical leadership threatens your worldview enough to attack that frame, this isn’t an emotional safe space to work out your dissonance.

Onward.

Because modern man’s views are inherently informed by pop culture, let’s broadly introduce this discussion around two models of “leadership”:

Maximus and Commodus, from the film Gladiator.

They are strongly archetypal, and well-acted by Russell Crowe and Joaquin Phoenix.

When we meet Maximus, he is preparing to lead the Roman legion into battle.

He is calm, sober.

He knows that death is an old friend who calls us in our turn.

As he rides the line doing his final inspections, the men salute him.

They will die for Rome, and for him.

Maximus calls his men to silence.

He and his cavalry unit are the teeth of the Roman tiger, and will take heavy casualties.

He reminds them that Elysium, their paradise, awaits those who fight bravely:

“π–π‘πšπ­ 𝐰𝐞 𝐝𝐨 𝐒𝐧 π₯𝐒𝐟𝐞 𝐞𝐜𝐑𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐒𝐧 𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐒𝐭𝐲.”

This is no mere call to arms.

It’s his ethos, and that of the warriors who follow at his side.

It is their tie that binds – the reminder that however different they are individually, they are brothers, covered in the same blood spilled in the same mud.

Persuasion – and thus the right to lead – begins with ethos. It is the essential character, or statement of purpose, to the group.

From this we derive “ethics”, or specific commonly-shared standards that tether individual action to the group’s ethos.

Upon the murder of the emperor by his son, Commodus, the honorable general Maximus is captured and sent for execution.

Even in that moment, Maximus’ servant Cicero is ready to pull his sword and kill the multiple captors, knowing he would die in the process.

Maximus escapes, but is taken into custody by the owner of a gladiatorial ludus.

Here again proves himself a man for whom other men will die, using his leadership to help the men survive the arena.

He leads, because his ethos demands that he do what he believes is right.

Commodus, the prince who murdered his father to gain the throne, is the antithesis of Maximus.

He is vain in the extreme, first seen arriving late to the battle, then later showing his “prowess” at choreographed swordfighting.

He has no ethos – only his own self-interest.

His father the emperor wished to return Rome to a republican system, led by the senate and held in trust with Maximus as regent.

Commodus, seeing his moment to become emperor vanish, kills his father and attempts to eliminate Maximus, who knew of the emperor’s plans.

With Maximus in exile (presumed dead by Commodus) and his father dead, Commodus establishes himself as the new emperor.

His purity of commitment is undeniable – he is actualized to his own radical self-interest.

But he builds his empire on a pile of bodies to do it.

In the end (because it’s mostly a fictional story and the good guy always wins), Commodus and Maximus die by each other’s blades.

Maximus is feted and carried out as a hero, Commodus dead on the sand.

The reforms are made, spurred by the example of noble Maximus.

And while a blockbuster like Gladiator must certainly follow major beats of the Hero’s Journey to ensure audience engagement, the film resonates deeply with men in particular because it is rooted in our cultural and ancestral memories of what it means to be a “good” man.

In this instance, “good” and “ethical” are broadly similar.

Maximus shows a willingness to put his life on the line, just as he asks the same of his men.

To stand against the royal might of an empire, avenge his family and mentor, and bring new hope to Rome.

Contra Maximus, Commodus is a caricature of pure self-interest.

Narcissistic and brutal, ambitious.

His father says “Commodus is not a MORAL man.” to justify the structural change in governance.

He is unethical, unfit to lead, because everything is a means to his own end.

This is the primary takeaway of the Gladiator example:

An unethical man is not a “leader” in the traditionally-masculine sense.

He can be “alpha”, and have primacy of position and status, but the rank and file are not followers – they are subjects.

The subject/follower dynamic is critical to distinguishing what a “leader” tends to mean to the average person.

A subject is obligated.

A follower volunteers.

The ethos must be clear, and the ethical expectations enforced, for a leader to maintain primacy.

Understand, an ethos and ethics can be polarizing to some (or many) people.

Hitler built power through ethos (however horrific) to attract a certain type of “true believer”, but also used terror and coercion as weapons to maintain the balance of the population as subjects.

The key is that the ethos and ethics are congruent to the leader and enough followers to achieve a certain threshold of power and influence.

Note: This diversion was needed to forestall the inevitable whataboutism from drive-by critics.

Returning to our frame of ethics being a concept that carries a traditionally-beneficent context…

We may assume that someone who pursues primacy of a group out of pure self-interest MUST hurt people to do so. However, their pain does not factor into his calculus.

The average person would say that the wholly self-interested man is acting “unethically” when he takes primacy by means other than acclamation of the crowd.

The truth is that most people will not follow a man who openly admits to embracing harm as a valid means to primacy.

As social creatures, humans have a combination of inborn and cultural factors that reinforce in us a general desire to avoid actively harming others.

Marriage, family, religion, education – the foundations of ethos/ethics – are mitigating influences on our primal biology.

We co-evolved notions of ethics alongside social structures as a species-enhancement (or survival) mechanism.

Thus, a man who wishes to be fit to lead willing followers has to embrace and enforce an ethical code based on a palatable/desirable ethos.

Even in situations where a body politic resorts to force to achieve its ends, as the Romans did in the Germanic forests where we meet Maximus, it is the individual ethos and ethical code embodied by Maximus that compels his men to follow and fight so fiercely.

Even in situations where a body politic resorts to force to achieve its ends, as the Romans did in the Germanic forests where we meet Maximus, it is the individual ethos and ethical code embodied by Maximus that compels his men to follow and fight so fiercely.

If a leader cannot abide by an ethical code, the only tools remaining to maintain control are:

– Transactional means

– Manipulation

– Force

Each is also self-limiting because it cuts against the natural behaviors of most civilized people.

To avoid loss of primacy, it is both practical and “good” for a man to develop within himself the behaviors and mindset of a beneficent monarch.

Leading is a lonely, difficult thing.

Challengers, externalities, and the inertia of life start fires constantly.

Still, decisions must be made. Actions taken. New decisions are made and actions taken based on observation and orientation from previous experience.

And an effective organization or team MUST have a single point of leadership at some level to get anything done.

Without a leader, the Bystander Effect kicks in.

Everyone assumes someone else will do the work.

This holds increasingly-true as the emotional intensity of the task is elevated.

Someone must still ride to the front of the column and lead the charge.

The cult of leadership theory that has arisen in our industrial and post-industrial age has made major science out of basic ethics, by and large.

I’ve even been published in a book about applications of principles of military leadership.

The body of knowledge is extensive.

And yet, we watch Maximus utter a few simple words…

“π–π‘πšπ­ 𝐰𝐞 𝐝𝐨 𝐒𝐧 π₯𝐒𝐟𝐞 𝐞𝐜𝐑𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐒𝐧 𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐒𝐭𝐲.”

…and we connect with the ethos and NECESSITY of such a man.

We would jump into the screen and charge headlong into clashing steel for him.

No fancy words. No dogma. No regard for the intellectual rightness or wrongness of the action.

It is an ethos and applied ethics that are compatible to the shared culture of leader and led, which drives cohesion and action.

This is why I disclaim, reject, and advocate against any system that attempts to diminish or eliminate the notion of ethics.

It is a rejection of both common sense and cultural behaviors that have provided practical utility since the dawn of civilization.

A man can only go so far alone before he runs out of options or capacity.

He can stare at that wall and justify to himself why it is the right choice to stay there.

Or, he can do what great men have always done, and enlist the help of others to move forward.

We require those ties that bind – ethics – to achieve great things together, even to survive as a social species.

Radical self-interest can work for a man so long as he can rationalize to himself the emotional, mental, and physical consequences of being limited and alone.

Even the concept of “enlightened self interest” is a weak attempt to have it both ways.

There will always be times when a man must choose to submit himself to loss or pain for the good of his followers, or sacrifice them to his own needs and wants.

And the leader is free to do that, so long as he also accepts the consequences of not reconciling those competing interests via ethics.

He will:

Fail

Be deposed

Succeed by leveraging mercenary behaviors

None of these achieve long-term stability and success in one’s life.

To become a true leader of men, a man must focus on embracing accountability to himself, and those he wishes to lead.

He must maintain balance of his own self-interest and that of others.

He must be willing to put himself to the fire first, and eat last.

Above all, the ethical leader – the man who would be Maximus – must know who he is inside.

He must be honest with himself if he is up to the lonely, painful life of a leader.

He must have the strength to carry those who can’t carry themselves, and leave hope in his wake.

For an excellent long-form discussion on some of these points, click through to the YouTube link of a podcast I did with https://twitter.com/bethmartens. She’s a wonderful lady doing good work in helping both men and women find the leader within themselves.

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Who Is God?

Published July 15, 2019 by tindertender

The gods of the bible, the one who erased mankind in a flood and the one who offered his son to humanity -both of which are invader race beings known as Enlil and Enki- are people, not gods.

They just know more about science than you do, so you assume that everything they say is omnipotent, even though nobody in all of recorded history has deliberately murdered even a fraction as many people as these blood-thirsty savages.

Hitler and Stalin and all the other warmongers combined never harmed anyone compared to these monsters.

Telling their chosen people to rape the women and murder every last man, woman, child and animal of that opposing faction repeatedly from one city to the next and all in the name of the person you so admire.

Is that who you “love”? Honestly? Of course not. You love the idea of a god who has the power to create reality in a way you are convinced you can’t.

I am here to remind you of the science that will allow you to retake your own position as creator as a member of the actual family known of as god so you no longer have to bend your knees to impostors.

How benevolent is a god who tells you that you must fear him exactly? Every religion out there tells you to be god-fearing, contrite, apologetic for being such a worthless piece of scum.

That’s how you raised your kids right? How your mom raised you? Your dad threatened to kill you if you didn’t throw yourself on the floor before him everyday growing up didn’t he?

Because he really really loved you and you needed to praise him for creating you so you murdered innocent animals and drank their blood over an altar to show your gratitude to him.

When asked, you would just toss your baby directly into the fire for him as well or slit its throat to prove your love to him (to hell with what the child wants) because you are such a sinner and unable to possess any redeeming value.

Even though god is perfect and you’re his creation. Making you a deeply flawed product of his hands that only you can fix and only through murder, whether it be animals, your baby or his son who must die in bloody sacrifice to make restitution for your dumb actions.

If you want a god,then Enlil and Enki are your guys.If you want to find your way back to your own unlimited power to create and stand on your own two feet again, then we are here to show you how that’s done.

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Do We Have Common Goals?

Published February 3, 2018 by tindertender

The Sky's The LimitFrom early age hindrances are placed upon dreams. Many children are asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”, and then training proceeds which ends those dreams … for many.

Dreamers are not embraced, history and personal experience shows this to be true, mostly. Yet when we make it to adulthood, we have opportunity to shed these ingrained ‘habits’ and become our own best motivator. We are capable of tearing down the system which had been utilized to control our mind.

It takes courage to walk away from what society would have us do, and do instead what our heart tells us we need. It is our responsibility to do so, for if we do not then the cycle of orders, and following them blindly, will continue.

There is no need for kings and queens or rulers over our person. Are we not capable of working together as a team for the benefit of The Whole? History says we are not, but has the population really been given the chance?

From the history we’ve been exposed to we learn that a form of slavery has always been … some working so hard, beaten if they do not, while others eat the fruits of labor and take rose petal baths.

I was saddened when I found that the growers and harvesters of the cocoa bean had never even tasted chocolate. They had no idea what their hard work was creating! If they knew, they may have processed it themselves and been able to gain more for their efforts, for it is their crops which people clamor for. I’m of the impression this knowledge had been intentionally kept from them. Greed is an ugly thing.

Using each other for personal gain has been the ‘norm’ for centuries. Where did this attitude stem from, and why is it difficult for people to share, equally, so that all benefit … equally?

The best example of a true leader, in my opinion, isΒ Jose Mujica, president of Uruguay.Β Jose donates more than of 90% of his salary to benefit the poor and to help small entrepreneurs. Now, THAT’S a man … this is someone not out for personal gain and prestige, but rather someone who honestly wishes to help the people.

Is it possible for others to behave in such a manner, or has the What’s in it for ME attitude been planted too deeply in the psyche of humanity?

Archangel With Flame Red Hair

Published August 3, 2017 by tindertender

archangel-michael
Flame red hair, I thought he was female at first, but then realized he was much, much more than that. He looked deep into my eyes and said, “Let me see into your eyes” as if he wanted to know exactly what lay there, deep within my countenance.

There is no denying an Archangel when they want to know something, and you can rest assured … this is not a light and fluffy topic.

Yes, he knows full well MY name, as well as SO … MUCH … MORE. They say the weeds get separated from the wheat, and I can only hope that I am riding on the good side of his thoughts and intentions, for he is one of the fiercest arms of God.

Do you know who you are?

Published February 11, 2017 by tindertender

What is the agenda of the so called elite?

Entire ecosystems of the world are being destroyed, the planets resources being drained for profit, the earth is dying. Animals near extinction are being eradicated, lawfully butchered under erroneous excuse. WE the people are brutalized, worked like slaves, our wages stolen, used to fund wars and war making methodology.

All the while our self esteem, the value we hold for our personal well being, is under attack. There are those who would have us believe we have no power, that we are not capable of making wise choices. They pit us against each other, saying one group is more worthy than the other, fueling separation and competition for approval and gain.

Do you know who you are? Do you understand that you are greater than those who wish to control you? You are. For you are not pulling strings, breaking laws, and forcing others to bend to your will while you rob them blind and starve them, forcing them from their homes.

We must stop being prey to the game, and unite as one people, knowing full well that we are all worthy of respect and love and food and water. We are powerful beyond measure, and when we join, with a peaceful determination, that power intensifies.

All of us are capable of the hard work that it takes to support ourselves, to assist each other, to tend to the business of living. We need no handouts, and we need not be told what is right … for that knowledge dwells within us, it has always been there.

Morning Vision ~ The Warriors

Published February 9, 2017 by tindertender

Tiger striped ball.jpgI woke a moment ago with a vision. It was a ball, round like the earth, covered with the black and golden stripes ofΒ a tiger, and I heard the battle cry of a single warrior woman. Curious, I look up the meanings of these three things, they are listed below.

Tiger
A very large solitary cat with a yellow-brown coat striped with black, native to the forests of Asia but becoming increasingly rare.
~ Used to refer to someone fierce, determined, or ambitious:
“despite his wound, he still fought like a tiger”

Stripes

A change in (one’s) stripes
A radical, fundamental shift in one’s opinion, ideology, or allegiance, especially in relation to politics.

Of the same stripe
Of the same or similar kind; in the same vein; along the same lines.

Show (one’s) (true) stripes
To reveal what one really believes, thinks, or wants; to act in accordance with one’s real personality, character, or disposition.

(one’s) (true) stripes
One’s true or honest beliefs, thoughts, convictions, biases, desires, etc.; one’s real personality, character, or disposition.

Reveal (one’s) (true) stripes
To reveal what one really believes, thinks, or wants; to act in accordance with one’s real personality, character, or disposition.

Earn your stripes
to do something to show that you deserve a particular rank or position.

Circle
~ A group of people with shared professions, interests, or acquaintances
~ archaic :Β  the orbit of a celestial body
~ A group of persons sharing a common interest or revolving about a common center <the sewing circle of her church> <family circle> <the gossip of court circles> <political, social, and literary circles>

http://nativeamericannetroots.net/diary/588

In the words of Lakota warrior Rain-in-the-Face:

β€œHolding her brother’s war staff over her head, and leaning forward upon her charger, she looked as pretty as a bird. Always when there is a woman in the charge, it causes the warriors to vie with one another in displaying their valor.”

It is evident from the words of Rain-in-the-Face, that having a woman lead an attack was not unknown to Lakota warriors.

http://www.nativeweb.org/pages/legal/squaw.html

Reclaiming the Word “Squaw” in the Name of the Ancestors
Squaw means the totality of being female

Squaw is NOT an English word. It IS a phoenetic rendering of an Algonkian word that does NOT translate to “a woman’s private parts.” The word “squaw” – as “esqua,” “squa,” “skwa,” “skwe” and other variants – traditionally means the totality of being female, not just the female anatomy. The word has been interpreted by modern activists as a slanderous assault against Native American women. But traditional Algonkian speakers, in both Indian and English, still say words like “nidobaskwa” = a female friend, “manigebeskwa” = woman of the woods, or “Squaw Sachem” = female chief. When Abenaki people sing the Birth Song, they address “nuncksquassis” = “little woman baby.”

I heard her battle cry.
She is coming in a Full Circle striped like a Tiger.
I do not think she is alone.

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