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True Love Needs No Coaxing

Published December 4, 2018 by tindertender

I love many of the old love songs from the 70’s, they are my favorite. One thing I notice about them is they are singing of the need to convince someone of the love in their heart. I suppose this was the beginning (or perhaps the 60’s) of the shifting of love.

It seems the more we try to cling to love, the quicker it slips through the fingers. Love cannot be held, owned, possessed or controlled. Love must be set free, acknowledged for its power, and honored when it presents itself, in all forms, and also released when it’s purpose in our life (or the others) is complete.

Often when someone professes love they are laughed at, or outright attacked. Love is gentle, it is kind, it is open and free. There IS a force influencing this world to tear it down. The unconscious person flows with this attempt and acts upon it. It is no surprise that barriers have been erected to protect the heart.

I have been fortunate to love deeply four times in this life. Every time when it came to end, I was crushed … absolutely crushed. The final two times rendered me useless for the world for a time. The last especially … my mind disintegrated.

Rebuilding self I understand now that love flows, just as the shadow forms around everything, love is also intertwined there. It is a dance many call heartache. The heart aches with pure joy, and it aches when that joy decreases, or morphs into a new appearance. It is our concept of what love should be that causes this, for when it does not match our ideals, this is when the pain comes.

Love can last for short, or long times. When it stops flowing for us we tend to cling to it. The fact that love cannot be bound, is free, and moves whether we wish for it to or not often leads to pain. People have this habit of trying to force things, only making the pain worse. They forget why they loved, and it becomes anger, even hate. Rather than honoring loves flow they lay claim to it and retaliate when it is discovered to have grown wings.

It is thought that love is obligated to oblige the heart of others. Love is not obligated to anything but flow, to giving freely. I am not talking about being promiscuous or loosey goosey, but becoming part of this flow which is free.

It is a pity that love has actually come down to the physical involvement: sex. Sex is not love, it is something that accompanies it. Yet love exists even when sex is not involved. Love is so simple it is hard to understand. Humanity has complicated it with rules and stipulations. This is another one of those things that has become bastardized in this time.

There is coming a return to love, true love. Love owes us nothing, love is something we grow in our hearts until over flowing … this is how it enters the world, yet many people are looking to fill their cups from outside sources and are left wanting, every time.

Loosen up. You will begin to see the flow and a gratefulness will fill your heart when it flows your way, and you will be grateful for the next person who experiences that love which has touched you, knowing what a blessing it truly is. You will be happy for them, you will be happy you’ve had the experience, and you will be happy for the person who is sharing love with the world.

You will recognize that because love is no longer being poured into you from an outside source does not mean you are empty of love. The love within you is amplified by these gifts, and you can continue to grow your sweet garden of love yourself. Someone will come along that joins you again, and again, and again … it does not mean there will be sex involved, it means you will know what true love is, and participate in its advancement in the world.

Beautiful, whole, and free.

Heart Speak

Published September 22, 2018 by tindertender

“Why did you choose him over me?”, he asked.

Centuries old question, arises again and again. It is clear the heart speaks its own language. Often the mind may say, “No” … yet the heart says “Yes”. One cannot deny the heart, for to do so would be untrue to self.

Since self is the one most definitely with us every day of life, self is the one we ought to be true to, regardless of what any other person thinks we ‘ought’ to do, or what they deem best for our future.

The brain does not control our heart. The heart beats on its own, chemistry either connects or repels, it isn’t a brain thing … it’s a heart and body thing, and energetic thing. Honor it … for it is trying to honor you.

When two peoples heart speak is different, let it go. Not everyone is going to feel the same as we do, they too are listening to their own heart speak. Honor their path just as you attempt to honor your own.

Really, it is hard enough to decide what is best in our own world, and many times it is discovered the decision we thought was correct, was not. Yet this is a wonderful opportunity for personal growth! Anyone who would deny an individual this freedom and advancement in knowledge is not ‘friend’.

Trust yourself, and remember, even when you think a decision was wrong, ask of the experience what is there for you to ‘learn’ and consider it a gift … every single time, for it is … the greatest gift one could ever receive.

Life lessons are priceless, even the ones that hurt. Never give up, be true to your heart, and always reach for the stars.

Joy and peace are creations of beauty … be that, share that. When it seems hardest to be the creator of peace and calm care, put that much more effort into it. The world will be of great benefit from your contribution, and you will enjoy the gift you give when you do it.

Deep Love … & Possibility?

Published August 12, 2018 by tindertender

Blood and Muscle … this is where love is which touches deeply, yet there is another as well … how do we combine these two forms, increasing Loves output and input?

When it’s just ‘blood and muscle’ it lacks the spiritual union … We get so hung up on who wants who.

Imagine how beautiful love could be if it were both the physical AND spiritual. Could it ever be? And if so …

HOW?? Not as one but as two, behaving as one … isn’t this what it’s supposed to be? Who the hell knows any more, who ever did??

Hurdles And Smiles

Published July 28, 2018 by tindertender

Why do you say there is a problem? Are you insinuating I have a problem, or is it you? Well … of course, we all have a problem … it’s called getting over the next hurdle. But then, that can be looked at as a challenge as well … Are you challenging me?

Hahaha … the things which come along during that portion of night when one is half awake and half asleep.

The mind-set we choose to carry with us during the day determines attitudes and opportunities presented. Knowing this, what will you do?

When we decide to remain positive, smiling and feeding the happy bug we like to carry with us, someone(s) will come along and do their very best to tear that down and squash that bug. Be aware of this … and continue smiling anyway, continue with the reaching for positive outcomes, be patient and kind. The naysayers will leave eventually for they cannot cope with sustained effort for peaceful states of being.

Don’t cave and become what they wish you to become. Do not get angry and lash out, this is the energy that feeds the negative nelly.

Difficult? Yes, until you recognize what triggers you and then work on making certain your triggers are not ‘flippable’, it will be.

Inner work is tough, but so are you …  fully capable of undoing the harm done. You came here with every single tool you need to create peace and balance. Remember … and then do.

Is It Love … Or Abuse?

Published July 28, 2018 by tindertender

Being open to the possibility of love, to the hope for it, and to believing it is seen, can lead one to be blind and also open to abuse. Some ‘friends’ will say you are selfish and in need of their guidance. They will say they love you and if they didn’t they would not say anything at all to you … still, this does not excuse hurtful actions and words.

When someone truly loves you, they will not tear you down and pick and poke those things they know hurt you. Sometimes, it takes decades to understand this is not love. So used to this behavior, so great the hope that love exists there, you allow the behavior to continue, until one day, you see too clearly the lie you’ve twisted to form some warped truth.

Heartache … we meet again, and again, and again … until I say goodbye.

Send Her A Message

Published January 31, 2018 by tindertender

Message-in-a-bottleSend a message to her, blow it into the air. Let it surround her and enter her lungs, let it invigorate her blood and move through her mind.

Common front, multiple backs, which side is true? One is just a facet of the other, part of the same varying whole.

Light in eyes, constant movement, leaning in and then falling back. Rows of individuality, each link in the line unique and of itself, yet combined become a strong union which breaches barriers.

Feathers on the wind bring messages only the observant will understand.

Flame flickers as fire lights the room warming the heart, soothing the mind, calming the spirit, healing the soul.

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