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Love: IS / IS NOT …

Published November 8, 2019 by tindertender

Written by Maria Palumbo, https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=300901216

Love is not:

A series of small kind acts

Sharing meals

Sharing orgasms

Sharing time

Edging

Business building

Spiritual

Sexy

Sexless

Gift giving

Involving crystals

Domination

Submission

Self sacrifice

Polite warmth and conversation

Marriage

Praying together

Dating

Friendship

Similar beliefs

Alienating others

Serious

Special

Wealthy

Keeping a strong face

Ritual sharing

Vacationing together

Nice

Staying together

Living together

Feeling good

Lovership

Monogamy

Polyamory

Chemistry

Workability

Teaching

Touch

Lavish romantic gestures.

Love is:

Being able to sit alone in the dark with another human. Know there is nothing you can do to fix a thing and instead just stay.

It is witnessing all of the things that come up when you cannot change your love’s reality. And instead of quelling your pain over their pain with being “helpful,” simply breathing with them instead.

Love is wanting to be as close as you can be to every inch of them, because you cannot help but desire everything they are.

Love is being able to have fun in any situation. Like get-you-kicked-out-for-enjoying-life-way-too-much-fun.

Love wants you sober. Not the life of the party. Love wants to look at you and trust you will be really there looking back.

Love doesn’t care too much about your job. Or your mantra. Or your guru. Or your hair. Love is not impressed by the things we are told to impress people with. Love just wants you naked and free from all those things.

Love is feeling them even when they are not there. It is remembering them regardless if they can remember themselves.

Love is showing up, even if you are not asked to.

Love is having an authentic response without cruelty and also no longer cushioning the truth.

Love is forgetting who you are and remembering it, all at once. The stuff that could hold you back about your past, can’t work here anymore. It is both terrifying to feel the shift in your identity and also liberating.

Love is noticing where you both are lying. And calling eachother out.

It means the illusions of brokenness are shattered. Love expects you powerful. And treats you so.

Love knows you are not perfect. Love wants you especially when you are raw and undone.

Love is a series of seeing the other. The shadow and the light. It is tenderness and truth with these parts, at the right time.

Love is wanting to know where they came from, how they got here, where they are going. Interested in the person behind each trigger or moment of peace.

Love is endlessly curious. Never satiated with the knowledge of what makes someone tic.

Love is being able to laugh hard. Truly finding the absurd humor in most things— for the weight of love is light.

Love takes hundred percent responsibility for causing hurt, without becoming a martyr. In love each issue is resolved with all taking full ownership of hurts or confusion.

Love is feeling completely unprepared by the depth of what is shared. Feeling like a child. Acting like one sometimes. And proceeding forward anyway.

Love will show up when all else have abandoned you. They will not know what to do only that they love you.

Love is risking reputation, importance, and even the relationship itself, to fully adore the human in front of you and the being of your own soul.

Love is freaking out. Or staying calm. And loving just the same.

Love wants what is truly the most powerful mind blowing heart connecting relationship for you. Regardless if it involves them or not.

Love is saying the thing others won’t say. It is speaking up and creating relationship through each word shared.

Love doesn’t die or go away. No matter how much weight they gain or lose, how moody they are, how healthy or unhealthy. Somehow the flame of love keeps burning bright through every storm.

True love is a secret to all except children, the old and dying, and the mystics. The wise never truly know how deep their love can go, and spend their lives finding out.

HOW I BECAME A WARRIOR

Published October 26, 2019 by tindertender

Once, I ran from fear
so fear controlled me.
Until I learned to hold fear like a newborn.
Listen to it, but not give in.
Honour it, but not worship it.
Fear could not stop me anymore.
I walked with courage into the storm.
I still have fear,
but it does not have me.

Once, I was ashamed of who I was.
I invited shame into my heart.
I let it burn.
It told me, “I am only trying
to protect your vulnerability”.
I thanked shame dearly,
and stepped into life anyway,
unashamed, with shame as a lover.

Once, I had great sadness
buried deep inside.
I invited it to come out and play.
I wept oceans. My tear ducts ran dry.
And I found joy right there.
Right at the core of my sorrow.
It was heartbreak that taught me how to love.

Once, I had anxiety.
A mind that wouldn’t stop.
Thoughts that wouldn’t be silent.
So I stopped trying to silence them.
And I dropped out of the mind,
and into the Earth.
Into the mud.
Where I was held strong
like a tree, unshakeable, safe.

Once, anger burned in the depths.
I called anger into the light of myself.
I felt its shocking power.
I let my heart pound and my blood boil.
Listened to it, finally.
And it screamed, “Respect yourself fiercely now!”.
“Speak your truth with passion!”.
“Say no when you mean no!”.
“Walk your path with courage!”.
“Let no one speak for you!”
Anger became an honest friend.
A truthful guide.
A beautiful wild child.

Once, loneliness cut deep.
I tried to distract and numb myself.
Ran to people and places and things.
Even pretended I was “happy”.
But soon I could not run anymore.
And I tumbled into the heart of loneliness.
And I died and was reborn
into an exquisite solitude and stillness.
That connected me to all things.
So I was not lonely, but alone with All Life.
My heart One with all other hearts.

Once, I ran from difficult feelings.
Now, they are my advisors, confidants, friends,
and they all have a home in me,
and they all belong and have dignity.
I am sensitive, soft, fragile,
my arms wrapped around all my inner children.
And in my sensitivity, power.
In my fragility, an unshakeable Presence.

In the depths of my wounds,
in what I had named “darkness”,
I found a blazing Light
that guides me now in battle.

I became a warrior
when I turned towards myself.

And started listening.~

~Jeff Foster

https://m.facebook.com/LifeWithoutACentre/

Coptic, Cryptic and Assuming

Published October 6, 2019 by tindertender

It isn’t just those we see who hide behind the mask, or our self for that matter. We are told to “test the spirits”.

Question: if spirit rarely states their name, does this mean we lose our identity once we transition? Or is our identity coalesced with every previous identity we’ve ever experienced, therefore, nullifying, or making insignificant any name we’ve previously held? If the unseen do give a name, is it being used to manipulate, to hook the emotion and drag the energy here and there? Or is the intention pure?

Perhaps our “essence” becomes our life signature instead of a name when we cross the veil.

Darkness of Day, my love.

Make it go away, my love.

The view of the rising sun, so beautiful, my love.

Sit with me my love, let us see, my love.

And each day hereafter, my love, let there be peace.

In every exchange, we are either taking from someone’s ‘cup’ or we add to it. I have a relation who always took from the cup, and always replaced it with that which is not good … guilt trips and manipulations. My cup became empty except for these things which goodness was replaced with. I became ill, physically, mentally ill. Since I know this is how it will remain (after 50 years this is a given) I was forced to sever the relation giving and receiving, I had to learn to protect my ‘cup’ from this one, and others.

When we take and take, never giving anything worthwhile in return, the cup we’ve been accustomed to taking from will become depleted. The cup holder will have no choice but to sever relation in order to replenish their now empty, or suffering, cup.

Every taking must be balanced with a giving, and what is given must be healthy and nourishing in order to keep the reciprocity going in a healthy, balanced matter. Fights happen, relationships break up, all due to the lack of balanced reciprocation.

I do not know why some in this world spend time taking from others cups without putting anything good back in. Perhaps they are so depleted they have nothing to give, or perhaps they have no desire to keep balance, only to possess that which they see as good.

This goes for ALL relations, physical, and those which are of spirit. If any of it leaves one depleted, then it is not good for us. We cannot force someone to be better balance makers, for only when they have been utterly depleted will they know the value of the gift.

Protect your ‘cup’, the sacred goblet which houses your spirit and soul. Your sacred ‘chalice’, the mind and body and every thing it holds (Emotion, Energy).

Life’s experiences will teach us much should we choose to see the lesson and act upon it.

Choose Happy

Published September 30, 2019 by tindertender

One of life’s most elusive lessons, saved for only the wise and peculiar, is that there’s nothing, ever, to be unhappy about.

Unless, of course, you lose sight of the big picture, think the illusions are real, or forget there’s no such place as far away.

Whoot,

~ The Universe

https://www.tut.com/

Imperfect Perfection

Published March 22, 2019 by tindertender

How often do you catch yourself saying, “I’m not perfect”, or “It isn’t perfect, but it’ll do”.

When young it seems that many see their flaws. People are so focused on their imperfections they fail to see the beauty in themselves. Society looks at them and validates their opinions about lack or insufficiency, rather than encouraging and uplifting.

Fortunately, no-thing in this world is perfect … or what we’ve been told ‘perfect’ is. This fantasy people have built in their minds of what things are supposed to look like usually causes disappointment and gives rise for complaint … about themselves, and about the world and those in it.

Life … it is not perfect … and that is exactly what makes it so exquisite. It is the one thing in this world that is simultaneously both … Perfectly Imperfect.

The poor Bumble Bee was just added to the endangered species list … poor human … the majority have no idea that their lives are being exterminated. Proof of this is everywhere as insects and other animals become endangered and then extinct. Life is dying all around us, we see the evidence in the sick and dying forests, and the animals that once lived there, no longer found in the abundance they once were. Silence ~ it surrounds us when we dare to immerse ourselves in the wilderness. Once we step away from the city, it is eerily quiet in many places.

A man writes a song, musical notes and lyrics. It’s more than simple notes and words … it is a story about the love he has for a woman, he would do anything for her. He writes it, sings it, records it ~ decades ago. Today when it is heard by others it may tickles the ears and spark emotion. There are many who this song has an emotional affect on. All experiences are different and depend on current circumstances, health, or happiness. In this manner music transcends time. As emotions are stirred decade after decade, people are linked to the artist, the their story, and to its affect on them. With this, all who listen are transcending time, all linked with energetic cords.

Can you imagine being an artist with the task of coming up with original songs and sound after decade upon decade of people creating music?

It may seem that things are getting quite extreme … people have always gone to extremes. More people being extreme makes it more pronounced, easier to be seen or heard, but it is nothing new.

If people truly understood the mechanics of the mind they would know that what goes in also comes out and they would be more careful about what goes in. Television is garbage nowadays, but then I’ve never been overly entertained by those who pretend to be someone else … and to think this ‘skill’ is being paid millions in the box office. It’s absurd (my opinion) although I must say I loved the Wonder Woman movie and a handful of others.

Soon it will become apparent to many people that what they have been hiding is actually seen, and they will let go of the story and allow the reality of what is to emerge. For some, this will be destructive… heck, for all of us it will be destructive, for the illusion will come crumbling down and the basics will be what is left. There will be a lot of things emerging which were stuffed and hidden, altering previous behaviors will be intensely uncomfortable at times. It will happen … whether people fight against the changes or not. Better to learn how to flow, like water … practice swimming, not sinking.

Destruction is all around us, it is also happening within us as we ingest toxic foods and breathe toxic air. It has the appearance of being extreme and wrong, it feels extreme and wrong as people become ill, and perhaps even die. While this is being orchestrated people deny its truth, no one wants to believe that such sinister agendas exist, it’s hard to imagine for in the hearts of the majority there is song, there is love, there is care. Innocence cannot see the destroyer for the destroyer does not reside in their heart. But once the destroyer gets ahold of them, they plant seeds in that heart and those seeds fester and cause infection, spreading like a wild fire … and this is the state of the world.

Is it imperfect? Or is it perfectly planned?

The Past Is Gone

Published March 14, 2019 by tindertender

If those who thrive on chaos were wise, they’d be certain to influence the minds of humanity to stop killing each other and other life forms. One day they might discover everyone has gone and it is just they who remain. BIG oops. Who will they antagonize then?

Have you ever loved so completely you actually walked away from yourself to be with them? And years later when they decided to leave, you had a bit of trouble finding yourself again? Ya, don’t do that anymore. The right one will love you as you are and encourage you to be the best version of yourself you can be. You may find that this one turns out to be you. Walking away from your self is the worst thing you can do to you.

Kick the repeated phrases out of your mind, those that do harm. The mind is your space, you’ll find that you share it with those who are fascinated by you, they will show love for you, or they will show their need to be angry with you.

Liking to be destructive is the complete opposite pole to pain. Those who destroy are covering up (mostly) secret pain … and pain, of course, has many different sub-categories.

What do you suppose cancer does when it comes upon cells infused with cannabinoids? Does it get stoned and die, or just get stupid and forget how to grow?

All that anger and hurt … denied acknowledgement.

The elasticity of Life has a shell that won’t crack. It’s fresh, flexible, with a super hard casing, which appears soft, and sometimes is believed to be so.

When people have a certain vision, say .. a photo … and a story that explains the person in the photo, and this story and photo are passed down generation to generation. The energy poured into this story actually creates its current and lasting reality, gives it an energy mass filled with millions of thoughts about it, not all good … it becomes real, but only in a sense.

Once people understand the way creation works they will choose more wisely that which they pour energy into, and what they use their imagination and creative energy for.

This is why global, or mass meditation with a common theme is so potent. So much energy with focus and intention is very powerful! Add emotion, such as love or even fear and it becomes ten-fold. Why do you think there is so much propaganda being used to create fear or anger in people these days? Someone needs the energy. They use it to manipulate situations and events.

Could it be that humans just like to get overly involved in certain topics? Sometimes we as people obsess for days, weeks or years on things.

Just thinking of these topics could be classified as obsession, but what better obsession than the one that opens eyes, ears, mind and heart?

Be well … bless you.

Visualization for Healing

Published February 11, 2019 by tindertender

The mind ~ at times it will pass thoughts of harm, for others or self. It holds, and gives angry, frustrated intentions not conducive to the improvement of a situation, or relationship.

Focus. See a duplicate of yourself in front of you. Stretch your hands forward and rest them on either side of your head. Sense the emotion there making it difficult to remain in peace. Move your hands … one at forehead, one at the back of the head, hold there for a time. Shift to place the hands by the ears. Feel the emotion. Hook it. Move it down the body slowly, gathering the tension of the muscles as you go. Gather what pains your heart. Push the gunk down the torso, to the belly, to the hips and legs and then out the feet into the earth. Gift the earth all that ails you for cleansing and purification.

See the energetic column of Light which extends from the sun as it enters the crown of the head. Flow with it as it fills the mind, heart and the body left in void after removal of the Ick. Once the body is full of this warm light, cap the head, cap the feet and rest with it for a time. Open the caps and allow a consistent flow to occur.

Sun enters crown, flows toward feet, taking with it all that needs cleansing and purifying. Inhale, see the light filling your lungs and the cavity of belly. Exhale, see it moving to the earth, traveling the path of spine and femur.

Release ~ Fill … Fill ~ Release

When you’ve learned the technique on self, practice harmonizing your surroundings … your household, your neighborhood, your town or city, your state and country, your world.

You are capable of great healing. It only takes effort and practice.

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