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In The Beginning

Published June 22, 2017 by tindertender

The moment something is named, it denigrates. We see this all the time. When there is an intention to do something, and it is voiced, the desire to achieve that goal dissipates. When we speak of love, and our heart gets bruised, the  reaction may be to foster animosity.

Naming something limits its capacity, it places it in a box in which it cannot grow properly.

Creation.jpgI am reminded of the beginning,
“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.”

Is this the point at which life itself began to deteriorate? I know the story … yet life today shows us constantly that naming something takes away its power.

Strange, isn’t it? On the one hand, if something is not named, it would never be … on the other, once named, it begins to fade.

Oh, the dilemma.

Perhaps this is the way it is meant to be, so the cycle of ever lasting learning and evolving continues.

Change Is Inevitable

Published June 15, 2017 by tindertender

With an open heart and open mind, in gratitude, acceptance of knowledge must be. Asking “Why?” is no longer needed, for in the quiet the answer is already there.

Panic does no good. Change is inevitable. Rather than focusing on what ‘might’ be, focus on now, and what actions will be taken to improve this moment. The intention behind building the future is what is important. For peace to thrive, this intention must be strong, consistent, and true.

Road and MoonJust as in taking a road trip we cannot arrive until we drive, the outcome of peace will not happen until we drive there. Let not the mind travel ahead, reign it in and focus on the intention. The end result will be more solid this way.

Every small detail has a tremendous value. This life is training on how to adapt quickly to change. How well we thrive is up to us. No one else is needed to make these choices, to decide for ourselves what we must do, or where we must go in order to receive benefit.

There are many in the world who will turn their back, who will attack ~ Pay them no heed. Like the wind, flow around them to another destination … physical, mental, spiritual. Only the individual knows in their heart what is best for them personally. It is not necessary to convince the whole crowd.

Trust in your intuition. Trust in the silent urging of the soul. It will not fail you.

Wonder Woman & The Fate Of Humanity

Published June 4, 2017 by tindertender

wonder woman.jpgIt is true the human race is under attack, the easiest way to formulate the story is by a physical war. This battle we wage is not physical though. Our thoughts are manipulated in ever so subtle ways, if we are not paying attention we will fall. We have indeed fallen and when we view the world as it is today we can see it quite clearly.

The message is the same in the trailers before the movie started ~ we are under attack, and the only way to save ourselves, is to change ourselves, not by pointing at another and saying, “You falter here”, but being brave enough to take that statement and ask ourselves, “Are we faltering here?”

Peace will never come about if we are intent on making everyone else ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’. It will only come about if we focus and work toward making our self ‘better’ than we were before.

Do you believe in love?

Can you find love in your heart? Do you look yourself in the mirror and pick apart the image you see? Are you constantly using negative self talk? If so, you are most likely using this same communication with everyone you encounter as well.

Habits are difficult to break. It is possible though to change the way we talk to ourselves, and others ~ to change the way we think. When we do this, the way we see the world will shift. If done on a grand scale, there may be hope for us all.

Peace is in our choice ~ so is a vile nature.
Which one will be fostered?

Healing Begins With Illness

Published May 18, 2017 by tindertender

healing_1Has it struck you yet that answers come before questions? That healing begins with illness? And that you can’t have a dream come true without a time when it hasn’t?

Isn’t it all so perfect? Everyone, no matter where they are on their journey, can be happy.

The Universe

At all times, and in all matters, everything is happening in your favor.

Thoughts become things… choose the good ones! ®
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Healing Takes Time

Published May 18, 2017 by tindertender

I woke this morning with the residue of yesterday. The years come pouring back of pain, anger, retaliation. I want to defend myself, yet the truest way to do so is not any of those already mentioned. The best way is no participation. I will take my energies and my attempts to get along and I will instead focus on loving me … just the way that I am.

I find myself alone most of the time. This is perfectly fine for when I am around others who are close to me they seem to feel the privilege of verbal assault, and then comes the go’round of defense. Oh how ugly this attack is, and it lasts. If I attempt to argue the points, defend in any way, then of course the other will retaliate in a manner that is equally, if not more so, unpleasant. And it goes on and on.

healing_2So I walk away. I do not play. I can still love a person without being part of that viscous cycle. Game over.

1)     I identify myself with the Living Spirit ~ with all the power, all the Presence and all the Life there is, and my world is AWESOME!

2)     I am God’s LOVE in active expression, and my relationships are always unfolding and sustained in harmony and divine order.

3)     My heart is open and receptive to the highest love, affection, support and joy! I am loved and loving!

4)     Knowing that the Divine Presence flows through all beings everywhere, I see, feel and celebrate Spirit in ALL people.

5)     I sense and welcome the divine and harmonious activity of Universal Good embracing and revealing Itself in every relationship in my life.

6)     I am irresistible to love, and therefore I am irresistible to my right and perfect partner. I partner with Spirit within me, and am right now aligned with fabulous love and energy in every part of my life.

If relationships in life prove not to hold these thoughts or ideas and feelings, it is best to distance ones self from them and nurture these thought forms on our own. Sometimes letting go is the highest form of self love.

A hard habit to break

Published May 17, 2017 by tindertender


The judge is watching, ever watching, and criticizing everything in the negative. It’s no wonder things are so screwed up. This is the mind set of so many people in the world. It is really easy to point out what is wrong … heck, I’m doing it now.

This is a habit. This is a trained and ingrained habit. First we learn it, and then we become experts at it. We criticize others, but more viciously, we criticize ourselves. The key is to realize we are doing it, and then stop.

I want to be someone who lives from integrity. I do not want to play mind games. I know my worth and my value as a human being … I am part of the Divine! And so is everyone else. It is a true shame however that we have been trained to believe otherwise. After all these years, it is a hard habit to break.

Karma_1.jpgI do not have to live my life based on the fear of what someone else thinks about my hair, or my words, or any of it! If they do not agree, they can disagree, or simply look deep within themselves to see what is going on in their world and why they would think so harshly of me. I know this is what I try to do, and I don’t need others helping be retrain my thought processes, for all they really are doing is attempting to ingrain the same old fear thinking and feelings of lack.

I will not stop speaking my mind because someone will read this and tell me it is not nice. Sometimes standing up for the core of ones self does not appear to be nice to anyone else except the one living the life.

50 years. 50 years of being told by so many different people what I should do, how I should behave, what I should and shouldn’t say. 50 years of listening as others tell me they know better than I how to live my life.

I will not allow someone to make me believe that I have nothing good to say. I have plenty to say, trust me, and I think it’s ALL good.

It’s difficult to remember that hurt people hurt ~ ALL people.


  • I love myself.
  • The world has a need for me.
  • I am unique.
  • I can and I will do things to promote healing in my life.
  • I can handle this one step at a time.
  • The sun is shining; I am ready to take on another day.
  • My problem has a solution; I will work on a plan.
  • I am a survivor.
  • I refuse to give up because I haven’t tried all possible ways.
  • I will inhale confidence and exhale doubt.
  • I may be one in 7 billion but I am also one in 7 billion!
  • I am smart.
  • I believe I can change the world (or at least my corner of it).
  • I am important.
  • Today, I will celebrate me.
  • I matter.
  • I can find peace through prayer and meditation.
  • I am strong.
  • My confidence is beautiful.
  • I am imperfect but I’m perfectly me.
  • My smile can make someone feel better.
  • I choose to focus on what I can control.
  • Everything will work out in the end. If it hasn’t worked out yet, it’s not the end.
  • I am happy with who I am.
  • Every day, in every way, I am becoming better and better.
  • I am a good person.
  • I keep going because I believe in myself.
  • I choose to see the good in the people I interact with today.
  • It is always too early to give up on my goals.
  • I can reach out for help if I need it.
  • I am special; I will not change myself for anyone.
  • I choose hope.
  • The answer is right before me, even if I do not see it right now.
  • I am thankful for…
  • I choose to take good care of myself.
  • I accept myself.
  • I can make a difference.
  • My past does not define my future, I do.
  • My life is filled with possibility.
  • I refuse to be pushed by my problems; I will be led by my dreams.
  • I am awake and ready to be awesome.
  • I will focus on my talents; I have things to share with the world.
  • I choose to have the strength to move on to healthier relationships.
  • I deserve good things in life.
  • I release myself from my anger.
  • I love who I am.
  • I will allow peace to fill my soul.
  • Today is a new day; I will see what adventure it holds.
  • I choose to be proud of myself.
  • I will do my absolute best in all things.
  • I will speak kindly to others and to myself.
  • I choose to be brave and tell others if I need their support.
  • I have the power to control my reactions to the challenges I will face.
  • I am becoming healthier each and every day.
  • I choose to see each obstacle as an opportunity to grow.
  • I will step out of my comfort zone and try something new today.
  • I am a success; I can make this a great day.
  • Note to self: You are amazing.
  • I can control my breathing.
  • I will stay calm, it will get better.
  • I allow myself to forgive; it will allow me to move beyond the pain, to a place of peace.
  • I choose to make today amazing.
  • I choose to let the past go and move on to the future.
  • Today, I will be courageous.
  • I release all fear from my mind.
  • I can reach my goals, I am unstoppable.
  • I am ready to write a new chapter for my life.
  • I will take the time to notice and be thankful for the little things.
  • I can write down my thoughts and take control of my emotions.
  • I am a child of God.
  • My hard work is already paying off.
  • I am thankful for life.
  • I choose to be happy.
  • I accept the good that is flowing into my life.
  • I will not allow anxious thoughts to steal my joy.
  • Today, I forgive myself.
  • My body knows how to get better; I will listen to it and rest when needed.
  • I am stronger than my worries.
  • I’m not the only one who struggles; I choose to be kind to everyone that I meet.
  • Yesterday was a bad day, not a bad life. Today will be better.
  • I am braver than I feel.
  • While I wait for the storm to pass, I will choose to dance in the rain.
  • I am loved.
  • I will remember; often difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations.
  • There is more to life than this moment; I choose to keep moving forward.
  • I am capable of bringing my dreams to life.
  • I am okay. I am breathing. I am alive.
  • I am capable of achieving great things.
  • I light the world with my smile.
  • My spirit is beautiful.
  • I make a difference in the world.
  • I allow myself to take a break and do something I enjoy.
  • I can make a difference.
  • I’m not sure what will happen tomorrow, but I’ll take care of myself so I am strong enough to face it.
  • I choose to approach my problems with a calm heart and mind.
  • I trust myself.
  • I will do my best with whatever comes my way.
  • I have a purpose that I am fulfilling.
  • I will listen to that whisper of hope that says, ‘you can do it, try again’.
  • I can change my life.
  • I will learn from yesterday, live for today and hope for tomorrow.

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