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Plastic vs Compostable Cutlery

Published August 21, 2018 by tindertender

As I traveled last week, one thing I noticed while in Canada was that the disposable eating utensils they used are all 100% compostable.

I woke this morning around 1 a.m. thinking of all the heaps of plastic items the ferry produces with its many trips to and from Canada, for the US still does not use these compostable items. I am frustrated, because it is such an easy switch!

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And to think of the many companies that travel this path every single day, producing waste that isn’t recyclable. C’mon USA … we can do better than we are, let’s make a true effort to change the poisonous and toxic habits we’ve developed.

Choice

Published August 14, 2018 by tindertender

My arms swell with an energy that feels ‘stuck’. I stretch them up over my head, slowly lowering them. There is a release from the hands, it seems as though for a moment they disappear.

I listen to the above tune, sitting quietly. I think on the word ‘beautiful’. It is one of my most favorite words. B-e-a-u-tiful … It describes what we see, smell, taste and feel. So many things are beautiful. I long to see these things and acknowledge them in the world, for if the world truly is a reflection of me, then I long to see beauty in me as well … and so I search for it, I cultivate it in my thoughts and actions, I grow a garden chuck full of it, consciously, purposefully, intentionally.

A peaceful world IS possible. It simply needs to be fostered in the minds of humanity from birth, rather than what we’ve been doing … fostering fight or flight, dominate or be dominated, use or be used. Honesty and integrity must come before immoral, lust filled behaviors, surrounding sex and/or greed of any kind. Goals that include dominance of anyone or anything should never be developed … and will topple.

Look around, remember your own self as an innocent child … before pain was introduced as abuse or neglect. It is real, it was only stripped, and replaced by something else less savory.

School … training … it’s all a farce. It is meant to proliferate more of the same. A total revamp needs be. If people do not find within themselves capacity to flip this around, to reform what they’ve been programmed with and choose another way … it will have to be done for them. Of course, this is a last resort, much better for free will to come in and make these decisions consciously, wholly.

One way or another, these destructive ways will come to an end and life will try again.

Is the choice to be a willing participant in the creation of beauty and grace, or is the choice a flat refusal of releasing that which destroys?

Live by the sword, die by the sword …
Promote hate and fear, die with hate and fear …
Insist on chaos, live with chaos at the end of time …

Loveit wins.
Be a partner to it, or not.
The choice is yours.

 

Sentient Life and Suffering

Published August 2, 2018 by tindertender

“After losing my son, I saw footage of a mother cow collapsing in the mud with grief as they carried her calf away from her. Just as I did when they carried my son’s body away. It’s why I’m vegan.”

Those who have heart … those who don’t …
and those who have yet to find it.

Mourning Cow

http://agriculture.vic.gov.au/pets/care-and-welfare/animals-and-people/what-is-sentience

They Love … just as we would like to …

Fate … Or Destiny?

Published July 26, 2018 by tindertender

Did you know you came here for the distinct purpose of
bringing calm to the world?

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Photo by Samuel Zeller

Your gentle presence brings soothing to angry hearts and minds. Your journey thus far may have been one in which you retreated to center and built solid relations with Spirit, learning to trust the inner voice of wisdom, and the messages that come with it.

You have tendency to rejoice in the success of others. You’re true to your inner self, clean and pure, and give credit where credit is due.

When it seems like you’re spinning wheels, getting nowhere, remember … you do not have to sacrifice anything on the alter of pride. The past may have cast long shadows over your life, but there’s still time to move toward the new dawn.

Stay clear. You must stay calm in the face of irritation. Stay on course through the storms of life.

Give freely, and undoubtedly, you will receive. You are able to fulfill your life’s ambitions. Instinctively you are in the right place at the right time. Wisdom controls your five senses and helps you to perfect good deeds.

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Photo by Miguel Bruna

It can be tempting to just let emotion rage unchecked. Yet, by now, you are fully aware the affect of living this method. It is chaotic … and not in line with the purpose of bringing peace to life.

Early on, you may have been self-centered. Life probably kicked you a few times, even when you were already down. These experiences were necessary to show you how much strength you possess, and when you finally (if you have not already) begin to see outside your own experiences, you will see those same experiences in others.

You have knowledge and practice on how to lift the gloom, and utilize energy in the most efficient manner to bring good, and harmony, for self and for others. You are a much needed way-shower, living and teaching by example.

While many cry out, “This is my fate and there is nothing I can do about it”, You know full well that Destiny is in the palm of our own hands, and our creation. You also have the skills and experience to show others this truth.

Thank you, for being you. 
Thank you, for sharing your sturdy acquirement with us all.
Your gifts are like rippling waters, and will reach many.
Good medicine.

Giving & Receiving ~ Can Be SO HARD

Published June 27, 2018 by tindertender
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Abundance calls for giving, and that is what I did. I brought gifts for her, and him … I was told to be careful, or his wife would get jealous … I looked at her and gave her smile and a hug and asked that she not do that.

I remember the days when this would would happen to me … I would be suspicious of people when they were ‘too nice’. And so when I heard this it made me sad, for when people cannot accept genuine care without hooks or need of return, then the world becomes a sad and lonely place, suspicious of everyone and everything … essentially, what you see today.

I understand what is happening for I’ve worn the shoes of both aspects. I’ve been jealous, and yet I long to give, no strings attached. Jealousy usually comes from insecurity, in having the need for love, and not exactly trusting in that love.

When someone comes along with gifts and a smile, it doesn’t necessarily mean anything other than you’ve finally met someone who wishes to share and make life a little better. Someone who, by their actions, wishes to assist in the improvement of life in the whole of the world.

It can be difficult to trust when there has been so much hurt given. Shutting out kindness not only shuts out possibility for more hurt, but it closes the door to friendship, to care, to the ‘lifting’ of each other.

We must shed past habits of defense, to embrace sharing and caring, giving of ourselves to each other without strings … it’s the only way to heal.

Not everything is an attempt at theft … often, it is only an attempt of giving … receiving can be so hard.

“Humans are addicted to the illusion of separation. We fall for it constantly. We must protect ourselves from harm, but we are not separate from the fate of others. We are bound, relentlessly so, to one another. Harm to one is harm to the whole.”

Trigger … 

Published May 15, 2018 by tindertender

“Go ahead … do it … no one has the right to judge you, well, almost no one.”
… as they shove a picture of Satan eating the brains of a person in front of you.

Reminding someone of error which occurred decades ago will not heal anyone, or anything. People making these judgments of others never see the details behind their actions, completely lacking compassion & understanding about surrounding circumstances or state of mind.

Past actions cannot ever be changed, yet that does not stop a person from living, from learning, from trying to repay … life, society … whoever, whatever … for the wrong. It does not stop them from learning … perhaps learning what they were never taught before mistakes were made, before realizing the sacredness of all that is.

I think of the boy who lit a forest on fire. I hear the memories of words said by those who rallied for his … and his families … extreme punishment. I think to myself that this young man has potential to be the biggest advocate for the forests in his future … if only someone would teach him the sacredness of the earth, the forests, the life that dwells there. Properly coached, he may develop a passion for protecting and nurturing the growth of the forest and that which depends on it for living. He could come into a fierce passion for creating health in the world. His error in no way seals his fate as a destroyer. Those who attempt to put him in that box for life are criminal.

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Photo by Shelby Miller

The same can be said of other situations. As a young person I smoked. I tossed out the cigarette butts not once thinking of the harm I was doing. I did not know the filters do not deteriorate. I thought the sweeper truck would get them. Today, when walking in the forest or park I make it a point to pick up those that I see. I wish to pick up as many as I threw out, and then some … flipping the scale to the positive.

I used to practice verbal war. I had a tongue so sharp it would leave people stammering not knowing how to respond, speechless. That was angry me. Today, my goal is to be just as kind (and then some) as I was cruel. I truly do not have any desire to harm anyone. Honestly I never did, however being lost in pain and the darkness of anger, it happened.

This does not mean I’ve decided to be a push-over … far from it.

Realizing how much care for the world dwells in the heart after a life of anger and pain is refreshing. The desire to expand this is intense. Yet there will always be those who throw the past in the face and place judgement, stating no good could ever come from one who did harm. They are liars … and they ought not be allowed to make “I AM” statements for anyone other than themselves. If they do … it is only because they feel a sense of superiority over others, and this will lead to trouble for them.

So massage the trigger. Recognize it for what it is. Affirm the statement you, and you alone, make for your future and the contribution you will give. Stand alone if you must, but be true to you and shed that which brings you suffering … in doing so, your imprint of suffering in the world will recede and something more beautiful will begin to grow.

It is far from easy, especially when there are people telling you how horrible they believe you are. Drown out their voices and tell yourself the truth, the truth that only you know … and it is usually never what others plant in your mind. Count the blessings, there are many, none less than the other no matter how small. Make a list in your mind of the things you are grateful for. A shift will happen, and forward progress will become easier … every time.

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