It’ll be easier on your spirit if you live in harmony with your shadow, rather than trying to be all light.
You cannot try to eat one part of yourself, and still expect yourself to feel full. We’re dualist beings, co-exist with yourself.
Like the Ashanti proverb: Siamese crocodiles share one stomach, yet they fight over food.
Some people can’t coexist with the parts of themselves they don’t even like, how can we expect them to coexist with another person different than them?