Believe all your problems in relationship have to do with the other person. They are too mean, or needy, or not smart enough, or demanding, avoidant, anxious, narcissistic.
Believe all of your problems in relationship have to do with you and you can’t grow. Believe your worthless, hopeless, beyond love, no one ever really cares.
Don’t get help and stew in that not so s*xy misery.
Pointing fingers at all will leave you hurting and alone.
Instead adopt a “we” attitude when in relationship.
We can grow.
We can learn.
We can laugh at ourselves.
We can heal.
We hurt but are not broken.
We make mistakes and still deserve love.
We got this.
You deserve that. To be held. For a long long time.