He sees me responsible for his trauma … and it occures to me that he sees me the same as I see those ones who harmed me. And I pause, not sure how to heal this pain for it runs very deep. Trust was betrayed many years ago, and trust, never regained.
Both parties have their story, both of equal value. Pain is not a competition, and blame is not the most favorable gift. The only way through this is not to only forgiven the past, but to look deeply in ones own self and forgive the thought processes toward each other, birthed from trauma.
This in no way implies one should be present in hurtful scenarios. Forgive self, others, and move out on the path to wholeness and health once more. Never stop.