Sometimes our perceptions of the past can inhibit healthy forward movement. Blame always comes into play.
Trust is huge, and trusting that those we perceive have hurt us in the past will not do it again is near impossible.
Moving forward without them is sometimes the most loving thing we can do for ourselves.
Especially when you’re told you’re as bad a manipulator as the mother you’ve cut off. And you know this is a hurtful lie.
Sometimes you just have to completely disengage, for the health of heart, the health of self, and the health of relationships coming into being.
It is sad when the inner work we do to heal from past trauma doesn’t seem to be acknowledged, or matched, and the past is constantly thrown in faces.
I’m not saying I’m an innocent, I have triggers like everyone else. I am happy to say many of them aren’t as ‘triggering’ any longer.
Some would disagree … and this is fine … it is also the need for separation.
Be honest about who you are not. No one else will be.