Often we say ‘friend’ and perhaps even mean it when we speak the ‘words’. Yet actions will always speak the truth … whether we respect another, and allow them to partake in decisions about the whole of an experience.
No one is ‘in charge’ … the minute they believe they are, it takes away from the freedoms of others and strips them of their authority to have a say in the day. They will resent this, especially if they are head strong, powerful people.
Although we may try to ‘get along’, if our strengths are continually stepped upon by someone who may ‘feel responsible’ for the experience, whatever it may be, it is no longer a cooperative experience, it is a form of dictatorship, and cannot last, for the other will always struggle against those who long to lead them.
So while we wish to give a positive memory to someone by dragging them here and there, dragging anyone, anywhere, will never be positive. It is in ‘sharing’ the way, the journey, which makes it pleasant and mutually enjoyable.
And all the while, both parties attempt to love …
When ego, and need to lead, get in the way, sharing and caring are sort of tossed aside. And while it is believed we are doing our best for another, it is important to stop and ask of our self, am I stepping on their toes? Am I allowing them to have the freedom to move through this experience without strings? Am I sharing … or am I dictating this whole scenario?
Are we sharing an experience? Or slipping into Alpha mode?
While we work this out, let us have patience with each other. We are all doing our best to get to the heart of love, and we will make mistakes along the way. Let us forgive and forget, moving forward, ever forward and upward to the point of harmony, where bliss lives. May we all make it there in one piece, able to say, still … we are friends.