Self Preservation Amidst Manipulation

Published June 1, 2018 by tindertender

There are those who feel the need to make “I Am” statements for others. Some will never stop and the only way to end the cycle is to step away from them, to stop listening to them as they describe “who you are”.

Often these descriptions are only a reflection of themselves. There is the attempt, and perhaps even habit, of deflection and gas lighting.

This is particularly difficult if a person has a parent who has always behaved in this manner. Confusion sets in to the young mind and they find themselves in traumatic situations, never understanding why they feel so bad, sure they must deserve crap every time it shows up.

This is not so … it is only a method of controlling others. The shame and self loathing was implanted in the mind and simply is not true.

It is hard to shed these stories that have been embedded in the psyche. It is also absolutely necessary if there is to be a halting of the pattern, and something beautiful and peaceful created.

For many, there is little time to make change. There may not be anyone at all to share these creations with … yet. The mind must remain focused.

Walk away, stand your ground. This drama belongs to someone else. The peace you long for is in you, it IS you. For some reason or other there will always be someone attempting to douse your light … do not let it be … there is too little time to waste trying to please those who thrive on chaos.

The only person who should be allowed to make descriptions of who you are is y.o.u. These things coming from a source thriving in chaos and manipulation are false and should never be taken to heart.

It is not easy to love ones self after a life time of programming to the contrary. Gift yourself this wonderful action, and let everything else go.

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