Anger, it accompanies many people as they age. Inconsideration’s, some sort of hurt, or any number of things may be blamed.
This anger one has (for some), may have crept from one thought, they feel responsible for their parents pain. They did not cause these pains they witnessed, although they shared in the experiences. As a youngster, being witness to suffering over and over again, a feeling of responsibility comes over them.
I do not know why children take on these responsibilities, but they do. They see their parents or others suffer and in their young minds they think they must have caused it somehow, maybe just by being alive they somehow did this to them. It can feel that way when out of suffering the parent may yell or spank the child, making them believe they did something awful which deserved harsh words and punishment.
Cause and Effect: In reality, frustration and pain from others seep into the tender lives of the young ones, leaving them quite confused. Later in life they may seek relationships which affirm they cause suffering for others, or they may become experts at self-harm for they believe they deserve it.
It was brought to my attention recently that even when we try very hard not to hurt anybody, there will always be someone who gets their feelings hurt. Shrinking from life will never stop this truth.
Learning to be authentic and true to ourselves can be a tough journey. It has been the ‘norm’ to hide certain realities, to pretend that all is well.
Everyone has troubles. Many of us have the same exact troubles, yet we have been conditioned to hide them and show all the world that everything is super fine, why? Because there is a fear of what the world may think of us when we fall. Because some people find it most appealing to kick others when they are down …
It takes a real bad-ass to show the world the inner life .. the hidden things … allowing a vulnerability to show. In so doing, it will become obvious that the solitude we’ve experienced has been a cage of delusion.
We are more alike than we currently have understanding of.