Manipulation … it starts in childhood. Parents must figure out how to pull our strings, how to get us to bend to their will. Some choose to beat the living daylights out of us, while others warp our minds, finding out how to get us to feel bad, or glad, or whatever it is they need us to feel in order to get us to do what they wish.
There comes a time in life where we must end this game. Using caution, or sometimes throwing it to the wind, we break the conditioning. There will be those who tell you, you do not care, that you are not being supportive … looking out for your mind health, your soul health, IS supportive, it is supportive of YOU.
Self Care Is Not Selfish.
As hard as it may be, sometimes we must love from afar, keeping distance between that which wants to control us, and our own need to rebuild self love, to come into knowing our value, to come back into joy. Too often the ability to trust our intuition is stripped and warped as children … as adults, it is in our best interest, and the best interest of those around us, if we work to get this ability back.
A better world is possible when we open our minds and eyes, when we allow our hearts to open in support for self.
Understand that this cycle has been applied for generations. These techniques have been handed down throughout history, perfected. Often those who practice them are not even aware that they do, finding justification in their actions, defending the need to continue in the ‘old ways’. Forgiveness in our heart is needed to progress into care.
Once the age of 50 is reached, it is especially harsh when someone uses language which attempts to keep the mind trapped in childhood. “Baby girl” and so forth are often thought of as terms of endearment, yet they can feel like a big thumb on our personality, and freedom of expression. They remind us of the ‘training’ we received as children, we bend, and sometimes, we rebel.
Building each other up, without need to manipulate, or be better than, is so important for a healthy future. The more we assist each other in becoming stronger, the greater opportunities will be presented to our own self as we work to become more than we were before.
Let training of the old days fade away, as we begin to construct the NEW world in which we choose to live ~ One of empowerment, of respect, and appreciation.