A hard habit to break

Published May 17, 2017 by tindertender


The judge is watching, ever watching, and criticizing everything in the negative. It’s no wonder things are so screwed up. This is the mind set of so many people in the world. It is really easy to point out what is wrong … heck, I’m doing it now.

This is a habit. This is a trained and ingrained habit. First we learn it, and then we become experts at it. We criticize others, but more viciously, we criticize ourselves. The key is to realize we are doing it, and then stop.

I want to be someone who lives from integrity. I do not want to play mind games. I know my worth and my value as a human being … I am part of the Divine! And so is everyone else. It is a true shame however that we have been trained to believe otherwise. After all these years, it is a hard habit to break.

Karma_1.jpgI do not have to live my life based on the fear of what someone else thinks about my hair, or my words, or any of it! If they do not agree, they can disagree, or simply look deep within themselves to see what is going on in their world and why they would think so harshly of me. I know this is what I try to do, and I don’t need others helping me retrain my thought processes, for all they really are doing is attempting to ingrain the same old fear thinking and feelings of lack.

I will not stop speaking my mind because someone will read this and tell me it is not nice. Sometimes standing up for the core of ones self does not appear to be nice to anyone else except the one living the life.

50 years. 50 years of being told by so many different people what I should do, how I should behave, what I should and shouldn’t say. 50 years of listening as others tell me they know better than I how to live my life.

I will not allow someone to make me believe that I have nothing good to say. I have plenty to say, trust me, and I think it’s ALL good.

It’s difficult to remember that hurt people hurt ~ ALL people.


  • I love myself.
  • The world has a need for me.
  • I am unique.
  • I can and I will do things to promote healing in my life.
  • I can handle this one step at a time.
  • The sun is shining; I am ready to take on another day.
  • My problem has a solution; I will work on a plan.
  • I am a survivor.
  • I refuse to give up because I haven’t tried all possible ways.
  • I will inhale confidence and exhale doubt.
  • I may be one in 7 billion but I am also one in 7 billion!
  • I am smart.
  • I believe I can change the world (or at least my corner of it).
  • I am important.
  • Today, I will celebrate me.
  • I matter.
  • I can find peace through prayer and meditation.
  • I am strong.
  • My confidence is beautiful.
  • I am imperfect but I’m perfectly me.
  • My smile can make someone feel better.
  • I choose to focus on what I can control.
  • Everything will work out in the end. If it hasn’t worked out yet, it’s not the end.
  • I am happy with who I am.
  • Every day, in every way, I am becoming better and better.
  • I am a good person.
  • I keep going because I believe in myself.
  • I choose to see the good in the people I interact with today.
  • It is always too early to give up on my goals.
  • I can reach out for help if I need it.
  • I am special; I will not change myself for anyone.
  • I choose hope.
  • The answer is right before me, even if I do not see it right now.
  • I am thankful for…
  • I choose to take good care of myself.
  • I accept myself.
  • I can make a difference.
  • My past does not define my future, I do.
  • My life is filled with possibility.
  • I refuse to be pushed by my problems; I will be led by my dreams.
  • I am awake and ready to be awesome.
  • I will focus on my talents; I have things to share with the world.
  • I choose to have the strength to move on to healthier relationships.
  • I deserve good things in life.
  • I release myself from my anger.
  • I love who I am.
  • I will allow peace to fill my soul.
  • Today is a new day; I will see what adventure it holds.
  • I choose to be proud of myself.
  • I will do my absolute best in all things.
  • I will speak kindly to others and to myself.
  • I choose to be brave and tell others if I need their support.
  • I have the power to control my reactions to the challenges I will face.
  • I am becoming healthier each and every day.
  • I choose to see each obstacle as an opportunity to grow.
  • I will step out of my comfort zone and try something new today.
  • I am a success; I can make this a great day.
  • Note to self: You are amazing.
  • I can control my breathing.
  • I will stay calm, it will get better.
  • I allow myself to forgive; it will allow me to move beyond the pain, to a place of peace.
  • I choose to make today amazing.
  • I choose to let the past go and move on to the future.
  • Today, I will be courageous.
  • I release all fear from my mind.
  • I can reach my goals, I am unstoppable.
  • I am ready to write a new chapter for my life.
  • I will take the time to notice and be thankful for the little things.
  • I can write down my thoughts and take control of my emotions.
  • I am a child of God.
  • My hard work is already paying off.
  • I am thankful for life.
  • I choose to be happy.
  • I accept the good that is flowing into my life.
  • I will not allow anxious thoughts to steal my joy.
  • Today, I forgive myself.
  • My body knows how to get better; I will listen to it and rest when needed.
  • I am stronger than my worries.
  • I’m not the only one who struggles; I choose to be kind to everyone that I meet.
  • Yesterday was a bad day, not a bad life. Today will be better.
  • I am braver than I feel.
  • While I wait for the storm to pass, I will choose to dance in the rain.
  • I am loved.
  • I will remember; often difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations.
  • There is more to life than this moment; I choose to keep moving forward.
  • I am capable of bringing my dreams to life.
  • I am okay. I am breathing. I am alive.
  • I am capable of achieving great things.
  • I light the world with my smile.
  • My spirit is beautiful.
  • I make a difference in the world.
  • I allow myself to take a break and do something I enjoy.
  • I can make a difference.
  • I’m not sure what will happen tomorrow, but I’ll take care of myself so I am strong enough to face it.
  • I choose to approach my problems with a calm heart and mind.
  • I trust myself.
  • I will do my best with whatever comes my way.
  • I have a purpose that I am fulfilling.
  • I will listen to that whisper of hope that says, ‘you can do it, try again’.
  • I can change my life.
  • I will learn from yesterday, live for today and hope for tomorrow.

– See more at: http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/tip-101-positive-things-to-say-to-myself.aspx#sthash.BBSLOkHZ.dpuf



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